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Advice for live 2007-07-01 23:51:43
Everybody’s Free (To Wear Sunscreen) by Buz Luhrmann
Ladies and Gentlemen of the class of ’99…
Wear Sunscreen
If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be it. The long term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable than my own meandering experience…I will dispense this advice now.
Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth; oh nevermind; you will not understand the power and beauty of your youth until they have faded. But trust me, in 20 years you’ll look back at photos of yourself and recall in a way you can’t grasp now how much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked….You’re not as fat as you imagine.
Don’t worry about the future; or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubblegum. The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind; the kind that blin
Death; Indestructible; Tomorrow 2007-07-01 22:30:07 I have this morbid fascination with death. Most people are scare of death and will try at all cost to avoid even mentioning it. However, it is a very real part of life. No matter how you want to avoid it, it will find you eventually. Therefore, why don’t we accept our mortality and embrace death. Death can be so liberating.
Wouldn’t it be good if we died everyday. At the end of each day, we perform our last rite and let the self died. meaning that whatever we did for the day has ended. Don’t take the burden forward to another day. Let all our action, desirable or otherwise just died. And we will be born anew the next day. Start everyday like the first day of your life and live everyday like the last day on this earthly world. Then we will feel truly indestructible.
Like the Tim McGraw’s song: Live Like You Were Dying that I posted previously.
YES! Even terminal illness is a blessing, “And he said some day I hope you get the chance
To live like you were dyi
7 days to change your perception of you and your live 2007-07-07 20:55:22 The Seven Day Mental Diet
How to change your life (and the world) in a week
by Emmet Fox
The subject of diet is one of the foremost topics of the present day in public interest. Newspapers and magazines teem with articles on the subject. The counters of the bookshops are filled with volumes unfolding the mysteries of proteins, starches, vitamins, and so forth. just now the whole world is food-conscious. Experts on the subject are saying that physically you become the thing that you eat that your whole body is really composed of the food that you have eaten in the past. What you eat today, they say, will be in your bloodstream after the lapse of so many hours, and it is your blood-stream that builds all the tissues composing your body -and there you are.
Of course, no sensible person has any quarrel with all this. It is perfectly true, as far as it goes, and the only surprisi
The Man Who Strives 2007-07-06 20:05:47
It is not the critic that counts;
Not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles,
or where the decor of deeds could have done better.
The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena,
whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood;
who strives valiantly, who errs,
and comes short again and again,
because there is no effort without error and shortcoming;
The credit belongs to
the man who does actually strive to do the deeds.
Dreams peddler; Dreams crusher. 2007-07-06 11:48:39 There are people, institution and organization out there exist for the sole purpose of peddling dreams. And I’m not just talking about those Multi Level Marketing (MLM) outfits with their various guises.
These peddlers sell dreams because of ulterior motives without any consideration on the foundation on which these Dreams
were built on. At best, there are just a very well dressed up fantasies.
The masses will soon realize that these Dreams will soon crumble around them, if they are lucky. If not, they will be going down with them.
I can’t discount of those who live and died by their Dreams of promoting a better world and fighting for their rights. One man come to mind is Martin Luther King, Jr who is most famous for the I have a Dream Speech.
Somehow, there is a breed of people who is just as adept in peddling Dreams as the best MLM seller. Though, they don’t do it for monetary gain. One of the reasons could be to gain control to others mind and thus winning at the mind game.
It
Better man 2007-07-06 11:44:18
Better man by Robbie Williams
Send someone to love me
I need to rest in arms
Keep me safe from harm
In pouring rain
Give me endless summer
Lord I fear the cold
Feel I’m getting old
Before my time
As my soul heals the shame
I will crawl through this pain
Lord I’m doing all I can
To be a better man
Go easy on my conscience
Cause it’s not my fault
I know I’ve been taught
To take the blame
Rest assured my angels
Who catch my tears
Walk me out of here
I’m in pain
As my soul heals the shame
I will crawl through this pain
Lord I’m doing all I can
To be a better man
Once you’ve found that lover
You’re homeward bound
Love is all around
Love is all around
I know some have fallen
On stony ground
But love is all around
Send someone to love me
I need to rest in arms
Keep me safe from harm
In pouring rain
Give me endless summer
Lord I fear the cold
Feel I’m getting old
Before my time
As my soul heals the shame
I will crawl through this pain
Lord
Love love love 2007-07-06 11:39:37 Love in the deepest and purest sense has to be come from within. No strings attached and not derived from any form at all.
In a nutshell, being with a particular or specific person is no longer an issue.
All the people in this world are the same in the sense that they are different. What a paradox.
When we’re at peace with ourselves and we’re no longer identify with the form. We can love, live and grow old with anyone at all.
By all means, accuse me for being cynical of love if you want to. Just close your eyes and look beyond the fact that you might be addicted instead of loving your partner. Addiction in any form is not healthy and depression will certainly kick in once the euphoric high is over.
Long lasting relationship is a fulfilling experience; every single couple can make their love last as long as their live time and maybe beyond.
At least one part of the partnership has to be totally present and then the flux of positivity can penetrate the most fouled situation and induc
Watch them all fall down 2007-07-13 02:17:23
Domino dancing by Pet Shop Boys
(All day, all day)
I don’t know why, I don’t know how
I thought I loved you, but I’m not sure now
I’ve seen you look at strangers too many times
A love-you-once is of a, a different kind
Remember when we felt the sun
A love like paradise, how hot it burned
A threat of distant thunder, the sky was red
And when you walked, you always - turned every head
(All day, all day) Watch them all fall down
(All day, all day) Domino dancing
(All day, all day) Watch them all fall down
(All day, all day, domino dancing)
I thought that when we fought I was to blame
But now I know you play a different game
I’ve watched you dance with danger, still wanting more
Add another number to the score
(All day, all day) Watch them all fall down
(All day, all day) Domino dancing
(All day, all day) Watch them all fall down
(All day, all day, domino dancing)
When you look around you wonder
Do you play to win?
Or are you just a bad loser?
(All day, all d
Blue eyes soul 2007-07-11 20:50:09
Angel Eyes (Home And Away) by Wet Wet Wet
Sick of leaving in the morning
With the night you gave away
So now I’m gonna take that all that I can get
With those angel eyes
You make saints do sins all the time
Say I’m gonna stay, home and away, well well,
When I said I’d catch you when you’re falling
I’d have my heart open wide
And you who’s not naive I thought
Say I thought I’d mend my heart
People say I’m so automatic
People say I’m not so systematic
When I’m down I’m in manual, lord
And time on time again I walk on by
With the look of love
And with those angel eyes, woh woh
You set me on fire baby
And with those angel eyes, woh woh
C’mon now baby
The saddest thing I’ve ever seen on my tv screen
Was a dying man who died for his dream
Toughest thing I’ve ever heard
Was that new-born scream in this naked world
People say I’m so automatic
People say I’m not so systematic
When I’m down I&r
Ideas 2007-07-11 01:21:33 Excerpt from It’s Not How Good You Are, It’s How Good You Want to Be by Paul Arden
Do Not Covet Your Ideas.
Give away everything you know, and more will come back to you.You will remember from school other students preventing you from seeing their answers by placing their arm around their exercise book or exam paper.
It is the same at work, people are secretive with ideas. ‘Don’t tell them that, they’ll take the credit for it.’
The problem with hoarding is you end up living off your reserves. Eventually you become stale.
If you give away everything you have, you are left with nothing. This forces you to look, to be aware, to replenish.
Somehow the more you give away the more comes back to you.
Ideas are open knowledge. Don’t claim ownership.
They’re not your ideas anyway, they’re someone else’s. They are out there floating on the ether.
You just have to put yourself in a frame of mind to pick them up.
Mental diet 2007-07-10 20:26:15 Its been 3 long days since I last posted on this blog.
I have started a mental diet, starving myself from negative thoughts. The diet was started on 07 July 2007 on a Saturday. However, it got tougher instead of easier and I gave up after 2 days.
The negative thoughts have a knack of sneaking up on you when you least expected it. The moment you let down your guard, they will just creep in from no way and intoxicate your mind. Then I will lapse into nostalgia and drown in the future. A sign that I was not totally present.
Not surprisingly, most of these negative voices and images were pertaining to my ex and prospective future partner.
The thoughts couldn’t be considered as positive I still dwell on the past and fantasize about the future. Most importantly, if the thoughts affect my functionality and productivity, then it is deem not fit to dwell in my mind.
Love? 2007-07-15 06:00:09
Have you really loved a woman by Bryan Adams
To really love a woman,
To understand her,
You’ve got to know her deep inside …
Hear every thought,
See every dream,
And give her wings when she wants to fly.
Then when you find yourself lying helpless in her arms …
You know you really love a woman
When you love a woman,
You tell her that she’s really wanted.
When you love a woman,
You tell her that she’s the one.
‘Cause she needs somebody, to tell her that it’s gonnalastforever.
So tell me have you ever really … really, really ever lovedawoman?
To really love a woman,
Let her hold you,
Till you know how she needs to be touched.
You’ve got to breathe her, really taste her,
‘Til you can feel her in your blood.
And when you can see your unborn children in her eyes …
You know you really love a woman.
When you love a woman,
You tell her that she’s really wanted.
When you love a woman,
You tell her that she’s the o
Everything passes by 2007-07-14 03:24:55 Everything
in live is temporary.
Darkness of the night; or a bright day.
Even sunrise is temporary; so is sunset.
So if things are going good, enjoy it because it won’t last forever.
And if things are going bad, don’t worry.
Because it won’t last forever either.
Everything passes by.
Truth to be told 2007-07-19 22:58:52
We tell lies when we are afraid.
Afraid of what we don’t know,
Afraid of what others will think,
Afraid of what will be found out about us.
But every time we tell a lie…
the thing we fear grows stronger.
Be truthful.
With others. With self.
Read more:Truth
Capturing, harvesting; be totally present 2007-07-19 22:33:23 Blogspotting
July 17, 2007
Critics: Just point to Google
Stephen Baker
Tyler Cowen wonders what critics are good for. He says he looks for only one thing when reading a book review: Whether he should Google it. He calls it a binary decision. The next binary decision is whether he should Amazon it.
If you look at life as a series of decisions about what to acquire, maybe these binary processes make sense. But imagine someone is talking to you about a fascinating book. Are you thinking: I wish this person would shut up and go away so I can get busy Googling and Amazoning the book? It might make more sense to focus on what the person’s talking about, to process a thought or two–and maybe later move into the acquisition mode.
In a way, this thinking Cowen describes is like when we walk through the forest or along the shore and think non-stop about taking pictures. Instead of concentrating on the present experience, we obsess about what we can harvest from it. I’m guilty Read more:totally
For the longest time 2007-07-19 21:05:38 Its been a long time
It has been 5 days since I last posted anything on this blog. Wow, that’s a long time indeed.
Well, 5 days? What have I done in these days? A little bit of everything.
On Monday, I have gotten so frustrated with the one and only landline provider that I have taken the matter into my own hands. Over here in this self proclaimed developing nation with developed infrastructure, the telco service for landline or fixed line or whatever it is called, is still quite a monopolistic industries. Though there aren’t that many entry barriers to be breached by the competitors, the cost of the infrastructure has made competition irrelevant. Therefore, there is one and only telco we go to for our landline service.
I have a business venture with a few partners that didn’t exactly work out as what we intended to be. So, cost cutting exercise kick in and one of the first conveniences to go was the landline and broadband connection at the hostel or the apartment rented f
Convergence 2007-07-27 21:18:00 Where shall I start? Lately, I’ve been very much into self help and spiritual books. Here are some Mash ups of a few concepts or practice that I managed to gather and making sense of in my own quirkiness way.
I can now narrow them down to 4 concepts, practices or habits. Mentality of abundance, bootstrapping, proactive and the power of now.
First stop, if you find yourself in a shit situation or any undesirable situation, you must acknowledge the NOW. You must accept that it is only your life situation and don’t identify it as you. When you finally managed to take stock of the situation, you can then plot your way out of it. It is much more constructive than blaming other of putting yourself in such situation or being angry with your own self for landing into the hot soup.
The habit I must emphasize during such dire situation is proactive as advocate by Stephen R. Covey in his book titled “The 7 habits of highly effective people“. Yes, you heard me right, don&r Read more:Convergence
Bootstraps 2007-07-27 20:49:50 Going With The Flow
Question:
Some people say that the way to succeed in life is to bust your hump until you get what you want. Other people say you should just go with the flow. It seems like one humongous contradiction. What’s a Yuppie to do?
Sincerely,
Humpless
Answer:
It’s not a contradiction, it’s a paradox
Remember Kung Fu, the TV series? A soft-spoken character named Caine wanders the Old West, with no particular purpose, and no particular destination. He’s just going with the flow. About forty-five minutes into every show, the flow forces him to fight. He breaks a few heads, dispenses some sage advice, and wanders off to the next episode. It’s corny, but it can teach you a lot about what it means to go with the flow.
Caine wasn’t some alienated college kid who decided to drop out of the rat race, carve himself a flute, and spend the rest of his life living off the land. He was a Shaolin Priest. He spent his youth training his body, mind, and
Bootstrapping 2007-07-30 23:42:34 The Art of Bootstrapping by Guy Kawasaki
Someone once told me that the probability of an entrepreneur getting venture capital is the same as getting struck by lightning while standing at the bottom of a swimming pool on a sunny day. This may be too optimistic.
Let’s say that you can’t raise money for whatever reason: You’re not a “proven” team with “proven” technology in a “proven” market. Or, your company may simply not be a “VC deal”–that is, something that will go public or be acquired for a zillion dollars. Finally, your organization may be a not-for-product with a cause like the ministry or the environment. Does this mean you should give up? Not at all.
I could build a case that too much money is worse than too little for most organizations—not that I wouldn’t like to run a Super Bowl commercial someday. Until that day comes, the key to success is bootstrapping. The term comes from the German legend of Baron Münchhausen pulling him
Appreciate and enjoy whatever you have in hands before it all go away 2007-07-30 21:38:38
If I Were You by Hoosbatank
You seem to find the dark when everything is bright
You look for all thats wrong instead of all thats right
Does it feel good to you to rain on my parade
You never say a word unless its to complain
Its driving me insane
If i were you
Holding the world right in my hands
The first thing i’d do
Is thank the stars for all that i have
If i were you
Look what surrounds you now
More than you ever dreamed
Have you forgotten just how hard it used to be
So whats it going to take
For you to realize
It all could go away in one blink of an eye
It happens all the time
If i were you
Holding the world right in my hands
The first thing i’d do
[If I Were You lyrics on http://www.metrolyrics.com]
Is thank the stars above
Tell the world i love that i do
yeah ,If i were you
yeah , if i were you
if i were you
if i were you
So whats it going to take
For you to realize
It all could go away in one blink of an eye
It happens all the time
If i were you
Holding the world r Read more:Appreciate
, enjoy
, whatever
Friends forever 2007-07-30 06:42:00 Friends
will be Friends by Queens
Another red letter day,
So the pound has dropped and the children are creating,
The other half ran away,
Taking all the cash and leaving you with the lumber,
Got a pain in the chest,
Doctors on strike what you need is a rest
It’s not easy love, but you’ve got friends you can trust,
Friends will be friends,
When you’re in need of love they give you care and attention,
Friends will be friends,
When you’re through with life and all hope is lost,
Hold out your hand cos friends will be friends right till the end
Now it’s a beautiful day,
The postman delivered a letter from your lover,
Only a phone call away,
You tried to track him down but somebody stole his number,
As a matter of fact,
You’re getting used to life without him in your way
It’s so easy now, cos you got friends you can trust,
Friends will be friends,
When you’re in need of love they give you care and attention,
Friends will be friends,
When you&
Deciphering the Negarakuku code 2007-07-31 08:47:59
WORK IN PROGRESS update No. 2
Blogs and websites which are on the Negarakuku bandwagon;
Embracing Technology
Monkey Wong
Mahaguru58
NameWee Official blog in Chinese
Namewee on Taiwan’s News in Chinese
Politics 101
The Cicak
ShadowFox’s hideout
My Rojak Life
My Words to The World
Recently, the boy name Namewee is making wave on the Malaysian political and social scene. This guy from the southern Malaysian town of Muar has posted a controversial music video on youtube. Love him or hate him, he has been transform to some sort of superstar and is on almost every Malaysian lips ever since. The video he posted is a self made MTV and the tune is taken from our beloved national anthem, Negaraku.
Below, you can find the translated lyrics from that song which is originally in Mandarin. Anyhow, the paradox and double meaning or hidden message can only be understand by Malaysian in particular and people in this part of the world in general.
I will try to decipher it so that people fr
Get a Life and Look at the View 2007-08-03 23:49:48
Get a Life and Look at the View
Villanova Commencement Address by Anna Quindlen (Pulitzer Prize Winner)It’s a great honor for me to be the third member of my family to receive an honorary doctorate from this great university. It’s an honor to follow my great-Uncle Jim, who was a gifted physician, and my Uncle Jack, who is a remarkable businessman. Both of them could have told you something important about their professions, about medicine or commerce.
I have no specialized field of interest or expertise, which puts me at a disadvantage, talking to you today. I’m a novelist. My work is human nature. Real life is all I know. Don’t ever confuse the two, your life and your work. The second is only part of the first. Don’t ever forget the words my father sent me on a postcard last year: “If you win the rat race, you’re still a rat.” Or what John Lennon wrote before he was gunned down in the driveway of the Dakota: “Life is what happe
Nasty Response from the other side 2007-08-07 09:46:29 I wish that somebody can translate this article for the benefit of those who don’t understand a word in Malay.
Pelajar cerca negara, polis
Oleh Ahmad Fitri Che Musa
KUALA LUMPUR: Biadab! Itulah perkataan tepat untuk menggambarkan tindakan tidak bertanggungjawab seorang pelajar dari Muar, Johor, yang dikenali sebagai ‘Namewee’ kerana menghina lagu Negaraku, tidak menghormati kerajaan dan menyentuh sensitiviti masyarakat Islam di negara ini.
‘Namewee’ yang berusia 24 tahun, dipercayai masih mengikuti pengajian dalam jurusan Komunikasi Massa di Universiti Ming Chuan, Taiwan.
Gaya dia menyanyikan lagu kebangsaan dan diberi nama ‘Negarakuku’ itu dapat dilihat dalam klip video selama lima minit 32 saat di laman web, YouTube dan sudah dilayari lebih 400,000 pengunjung sejak disiarkan pertengahan bulan lalu.
Dengan menyelit nyanyian rap dalam bahasa Mandarin, dia menyindir kerajaan dengan beberapa perkataan yang digunakan agak kasar dan lucah.
Perbuatan pelajar itu mem Read more:Response
Hornets Nest 2007-08-07 09:33:16 It seem like I have unintentionally stirred up a hornets nest with my controversial post of “Decipheringthe Negarakuku Code” which I have updated for the third time. This post is excerpted from another blog that will surely touch on the sensitive nerve of the dominant ethnic group of Malaysia.
Enjoy.
Malaysia Kini
Hope for Malaysia
“Anthem” of UMNO (United Malays National Organisation)
(English Translation Below)Bersatu Kita Bersatu
Dengan Setia Berganding Bahu
Tipu Terus Menipu
Kita Tipu Melayu
Bersama Kita Bersama
Menjunjung Hasrat Semua
Berjasa Pada Kroni
Anak Isteri Dan ‘Bini’
Lambang Kita Yang Rebah
Dipandang Keji Dan Haprak
Bersatu, Bersedia … Khianat
Cogan Katanya
UMNO Terus Mara
Rompak Rakyat Malaysia!
(my translation which may or may not be accurate)
United, we stay United
With loyalty alongside shoulder
Cheat we continue to cheat
We cheat the Malays
United we stay united
Respect deeply everyones’ desire
Service to the cronie
A Flat World 2007-08-09 08:23:47
We should forget about the 50 years old constitution or the legacy left behind by the British colonial power. We would do much better to stand back and take stock of the reality and devise a strategy to better integrate into this hyper competitive world. Nothing stays the same in this world, even more so in this so called Flat World
. Development is progressing at a break neck speed. For those who can’t keep up, they will be flattened. It is not a matter of choice but necessity.
The following is an excerpt from The World Is Flat written by Thomas Friedman. The author observation is first class and very eyes opening.
Everyone should read it if they not already did. More so is all the stake holders who chart our nation direction and destination.
——–
…………….there was a discordant note in this exciting new era.
It wasn’t only Americans and Europeans who joined the people of the Soviet Empire
in celebrating the fall of the wall-and claming credit for it.
Wind of Change 2007-08-08 07:58:33
Wind of Change
by Scorpion
I follow the Moskva
Down to Gorky Park
Listening to the wind of change
An August summer night
Soldiers passing by
Listening to the wind of change
The world is closing in
Did you ever think
That we could be so close, like brothers
The future’s in the air
I can feel it everywhere
Blowing with the wind of change
Take me to the magic of the moment
On a glory night
Where the children of tomorrow dream away
in the wind of change
Walking down the street
Distant memories
Are buried in the past forever
I folow the Moskva
Down to Gorky Park
Listening to the wind of change
Take me to the magic of the moment
On a glory night
Where the children of tomorrow share their dreams
With you and me
Take me to the magic of the moment
On a glory night
Where the children of tomorrow dream away
in the wind of change
The wind of change
Blows straight into the face of time
Like a stormwind that will ring the freedom bell
For peace of mind
Let your balalaika sing
What my guitar w
Moderation; Harmony and Blame it on the internet 2007-08-08 07:43:10 The jury is still out on whether, Namewee is a glory seeker, reckless rebel or simply a boy having some fun stating the obvious or all of the above. Though you and me might not agree with what he wrote for the lyrics of Negarakuku, the same sentiments have been expressed over and over again, almost every second among the Chinese community. The difference is, they are too timid to say it openly.
If there is someone or something you need to blame the Negarakuku phenomenon on, it is the INTERNET and YOUTUBE. Only with the proliferation of broadband connection that this controversy can spread wide and fast. Without Namewee, there is still a large percentage of Chinese who share the same feeling but didn’t go to the extend of spreading it.
Most of the Chinese here, mistakenly identified the nation with the government. Government come and go but we only have one nation. We don’t have to love the government but as with the opening sentence of Negarakuku, I love my country, we have Read more:Moderation
, Harmony
, Blame
Latest hot news concerning Namewee, the superstar 2007-08-13 13:04:46
Sinchew news no. 1
Sinchew news no. 2
The New Straits Times
Sunday, August 12, 2007
Hello, Semua Orang Melayu sila tengok sini
KEPADA SEMUA PIHAK MEDIA
MENUJUKAN KESILAPAN TENTANG LAPORAN BERITA PIHAK MEDIA METRO
Sebab-sebab menegaskan tentang kesilapan berita :
Pada 7 Aug 2007, saya mendapat tahu dari beberapa pihat tentang surat khabar Melayu – Metro dan berita dari televisyen melaporakan hasil ciptaan lagu saya baru-baru ini yang telah melanggar undang undang di Malaysia. Tetapi selepas saya membaca berita-berita yang berkenaan, saya mendapati bahawa berita yang dilaporkan oleh surat khabar Metro mempunyai kesilapan yang serious. Pihak pemberita menggunakan cara yang agak subjektif untuk melaporkan berita ini dan menyebabkan masyarakat salah faham tentang hasil karyaan yang telah saya ciptakan.
Pertama, pihak metro mengatakan hasil ciptaan lagu saya adalah menghina negara, bangsa, agama dan kerajaan tanpa memahami maksud tersirat lirik tersebut.
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