My Internet Dating Journey
2007-09-18 23:14:16
by Jayne Dressor.
I have always been the type to do research, but, I never thought internet dating would become one of my projects. It started very innocently; I was bored and lonely. Internet
dating has become quite an “interesting” journey. to say the least. The word “interesting” is not really the word I would use to describe my experiences over the past 2 years.
I was a very naive individual; somewhat sheltered, in a worldly sort of way. If I had a mean bone in my body, it was never intentional. I took anyone and everyone, at their word. The reality wouldn’t kick in for quite a while.
I believe I will never fully understand some of the thinking or behavior with which I have encountered, by the male species. Even my male friends couldn’t explain to me why other men would act the way they did. I thought by going straight to the source, I would find some answers. Go figure, even the men couldn’t answer a simple question about why o
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, Journey
, Internet Dating
Dating Your Boss
2007-09-13 23:28:48
by Katy Franklin.
Ladies, let me start off by saying that I am not strictly opposed to the idea of you dating your boss. Let’s make that very clear. If your boss is smart, funny, interesting, charming, perfect, single and looks exactly like Matt Damon, stop reading this article immediately and go date him!! I know I would have, had that been my situation. Unfortunately, it didn’t quite go down like that.
Guys, you may, in your lifetime, come across some ruthless cougar who is also higher up than you, who will sink her claws into you, and beg you to have sex with her everyday on top of the $4000 mahogany desk in your office with a breathtaking view. If that sounds like something you may be interested in, I’ve got my fingers crossed for you. Unfortunately, my situation wasn’t quite like that either, but hopefully I can shed some light on what it was like for me when I dated my superior in the workplace.
At twenty-two years old, I moved to New Yo
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Online Pickup Lines : One Line at a Time
2007-09-10 18:07:24
by Calvin Azuri.
In today’s boisterous society, the Internet offers a convenient avenue for meeting new people. One has simply to sit down in front of the screen, choose a random name, and fire off a pickup line. Online pickup lines can vary from the highly adapted pun “Do you come to this web space often?” to a more general and significantly less coherent “You’re Hawt” - At least those are some of the ones I have seen.
Online pickup lines are a safer way of meeting someone for you don’t have to worry about the embarrassment of doing it face to face if you happen to be rejected. We have all been there if you say you haven’t you’re LYING! Although one can just throw any old line out without taking into consideration the elements involved, the pickup line is almost certainly doomed to failure.
Now these pickup lines can be an art form if you know what you are doing and know what you are after. It is not fishing so put the tackle b
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, Lines
Date Rape
2007-09-05 23:49:36
This is a great article about one woman’s experience with date rape, and how she got out of it. For you gals out there hopefully this can provide some tips on what to do if you are ever in the same situation like this.
Date Rape by Isis1854
Warsong Gulch? Is Not On A Map
2007-10-01 22:28:50
by Erin Steiner.
The other night I was making dinner when, from the other room, I heard my boyfriend say “Welcome to Warsong Gulch.” I paused, halfway bent into the oven and thought to myself, “Why do I know that name?” I flipped through my mental rolodex of places that it might be but couldn’t find a visual to match. I knew I’d heard that name before and the words brought up a vaguely Chernobyl-ish picture, but I knew that had to be wrong. I must have stood there for a good fifteen minutes, driving myself crazy, trying to figure out where on the planet Warsong Gulch was located. After all, if the name was so familiar, there must be a reason. Finally, I went into the other room and asked my boyfriend “Where is Warsong Gulch?”
Turning around, and looking at me with what can only be described as an incredulous look on his face, he said “Um. It’s a place on my game?” His voice said “how the heck do you know about War
Hooking up with a perfect partner. Just imagine…
2007-10-13 13:49:54
by Andy Cowan.
WHY does perpetuating the species seem to hinge on hooking up with a person who inevitably has at least one major character flaw? Maybe it’s because if you stumbled upon someone who was absolutely perfect, you’d die.
But what if you lived? Like a dog chasing a car, would you even know what to do at the end of the chase?
What would I say to the perfect woman? “It’s nice to finally meet you.” The perfect woman’s response: “It’s nice to finally meet you, Andy.”
Already I’d begin looking for flaws: “I’m not sure someone who thinks so highly of herself that she calls herself the perfect woman would necessarily be the perfect woman in my book.”
“You’re absolutely right, Andy. I apologize for being so full of myself.”
Wait. Maybe she is perfect.
“That’s OK. After all, if you were full of somebody else, you’d be schizophrenic.”
(Her, laughing endlessly) &ldquo
What a Night!
2007-10-08 22:14:12
by Deb Preece.
I have been on-line dating for years and my experiences have been everything from instant infatuation to the most horrendous escape out a bathroom window you could possibly have imagined. The one date that comes to my mind was a dance I was meeting a gentleman at whom I had spoken with on line. We had a most wonderful time and after we escaped up into the canyons of Utah for a view of a waterfall and a couple of “smooches”. He took me back to my car (which by the way had just had its breaks done the day before the 50 mile travel to meet my new “beau”).
Driving home, dressed in black hose, red (sexy to say the least) dress and 2 inch heels, I was approaching a light, when all of a sudden the left front tire of my car falls of, sparks are flying everywhere, my car axel is dragging on the ground going 40 miles per hour, and my tire proceeds to roll across the center of the street, across the opposite traffic and down an embankment. I slam on my breaks and for a
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Tricky Internet Identities: An Internet Dating Cautionary Tale
2007-10-05 12:47:25
This internet dating story by Wired Magazine has all the makings of a psychotic movie, complete with romance, jealousy, and murder.
Thomas Montgomery, a 45-year-old husband of 16 years and father of two teenage girls was living out a fantasy by pretending to be Tommy, a 19 year old marine who was getting ready to ship out to Iraq and who stood 6 feet tall.
In a chat room on Pogo.com, he met Jessi, an 17-year-old West Virginia girl, with whom he completely fell in love with. What little did Montgomery know was that Jessi was really Jessi’s mom who was using her daughter’s IM account.
The two really hit it off online. Tommy proposed to Jessi after eight months of instant messaging every day and speaking on the phone. Jessi accepted and sent Tommy G-Strings. In a strange New Year’s Eve resolution, Montgomery wrote on his note : “On January 2, 2006, Tom Montgomery (46 years old) ceases to exist and is replaced by an 18-year-old battle-scarred marine”.
Cindy,
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, Internet
, Dating
, Internet Dating
How to Avoid Leaving a Relationship Bruised in the Face
2007-10-26 00:43:53
by Jason Nellis.
A warning to men everywhere:
Don’t be stupid.
I’ll be the first to admit, I am not, nor can I ever be, the perfect date or boyfriend. In fact, sometimes, I’ve been downright moronic.
Chalk it up to being male (a commonly-blamed attribute), young (though this tends to shift—the older I get, the younger I claim to be), or impetuous (or, really, more like ADD, because—hey, look, a kitty cat!).
Whatever the case may be, I’m not without faults. Most of the time, I end up getting myself into heaps of trouble by ignoring them rather than admitting to them.
Let me explain:
At the beginning of my junior year of college, I met a girl named Deanna. She was a freshman straight out of the South, twang and all. She was only four foot eleven, so I towered about a foot over her, but I found that more endearing than funny. She also called me on whatever BS I happened to be spewing (usually when I made outrageous claims to get attention, like
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, Leaving
, Relationship
To Date or Not to Date a Famous Person: One girl’s true account
2007-10-19 03:28:47
by Katy Franklin.
You know how, in all those magazines on the stands today, there’s a whole bunch of celebrity worship and gossip, and they kind of make you feel like: a) you could never be a celebrity, and/or b) as a normal human being, you could never be cool enough to come close to dating one. That’s the vibe I get from those publications. But then, if you’ve ever paid enough attention (which, I unashamedly, admittedly have,) every once in awhile, you’ll find that someone really famous is dating someone really “normal.” Nicolas Cage dated and married his sushi waitress. Matt Damon married the girl who was his bartender at a club. Sure, it happens. But not very often. I was definitely skeptical about the reality of these situations until my sister, (we’re going to call her Annabelle) recently dated someone pretty famous (we’re going to call him Brad.)
Now please understand that I do not consider my sister “normal” by any
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From Charming to Crazy in less than Two Hours
2007-10-31 02:09:49
by E. Tracy Coker.
After several weeks of searching through the internet dating site I subscribed to, “Carl” (whose name has been changed) sent me a little message saying hello; from his profile and the things he said, he seemed like a nice guy. After a few days of e-mailing and a single phone call, Carl asked me to meet him at a subway station for a first date.
I was looking forward to this date. Carl not only seemed enthusiastic to meet me, but he was intelligent and seemingly down to Earth, as well. The real test was going to see if he looked anything like his picture.
I was a college student looking for a stable and loving relationship. He was a college graduate staying in Boston to attend dental school with the desire of becoming a dentist and opening his own practice. I’m no gold digger, but what girl doesn’t love an ambitious suitor?
Standing outside of the subway entrance, I watched people passing by, anxiously wondering which one of them would be Carl; final
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, Hours
How Do You Date A Baby Boomer?
2007-11-03 11:37:10
by Charles Pixley.
Life continues ever faster. Obviously we aren’t the same people we were in high school, when we had everything to learn, wide-eyed, and our life was in front of us. At this chronological phase, we come prepackaged, we are in the middle of a journey, and have a great story, which includes family, wisdom, and a keen intuition, a list of preferences and what we don’t want.
Perhaps, it should go without saying; our youth lives inside us. We still feel, 16 or 23, on the inside, I do. Perhaps, we live with someone and are blessed to have the ideal relationship or we thought it would be for life and something changed the outcome. We watch our partner change ever so gradually, didn’t really notice the changes, as we changed too, and we observed change in ways we found to be intolerable.
Rachel Carson warned us, but our generation endures being nuked, fluoridated, infused with toxic agents, whether emissions or elimination of the rain forest to pollute or limit the a
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, Baby Boomer
Around the World for $250
2007-11-07 03:46:48
by Janet Trakin.
I’m a self-defined lesbian, but what lesbian isn’t tempted by a cute guy? I recently posted my profile and picture on My Space.com, that intergenerational melting pot of cyberbabies and misfits. Where most people wrote, Angelina Jolie, Dalai Lama, Hillary Clinton and other assorted luminaries under the question, “Whom would you most like to meet?”, I wrote, “A woman who understands me on all levels.” Amazingly so, my inbox was then inundated by a barrage of e-mails from male geeks from all around the world.
Among the photo of a tribal chief from Ghana, an e-mail of a faceless British artist, and a hate-filled, homophobic abusive e-mail from a Yugoslavian 16-year old punk, appeared the picture of Tom Smith. He had dark hair just messy enough not to be neat, dark brooding eyes and a sweet smile. He appeared to have a melancholy spirit underneath the smile, and his broad shoulders hinted of strength and masculinity–the perfect combinat
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Do most women prefer to date their own race?
2007-11-11 00:39:04
A study was done recently by economists and psychologists from Columbia University trying to answering the age-old dating question: “What, exactly, makes someone desirable?”. During the two year study, speed dating experiments were conducted to collect response by more than 400 daters.
Among the result of the study some “not-so-surprising” findings from the experiment typically include things such as:
- Male based their decision heavily on the physical appearance of their dates, while women based their decisions on the intelligence of their dates.
- Women who are more ambitious than their dates are considered less desirable.
These conclusions are fairly well known and intuitive. However, one of the most surprising results from the experiments indicates that women prefer their own race, while men just don’t care.
Also among the findings, it is found that “…East Asian women did not discriminate against white men (only against black and Hi
Dating in the Islamic World : “Getting a Muslim Women Online is Onerous”
2007-11-16 21:23:48
by Wais Hassan.
There have been numerous articles written recently about online dating and courtship but I have not seen many from the Muslim
perspective. Actually, there are a number of Muslim dating sites that have popped up during the past few years and some of them are pretty well designed and have thousands of registered users. I, an Afghan American 1st generation graduate student, have joined a couple of these sites during the past few years.
It is so difficult to meet and become friends with Muslim women in my everyday life because there are so many expectations the culture places on both men and women. Women
do not want to be perceived as being loose or immoral and many who date will never admit to actually be dating anyone. All Muslim parents I know frown on casual dating and most of my relatives agreed to arranged marriages when they decided they were ready to settle down.
Some of these marriages did not turn out very well (Muslims do not divorce at a very high r
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, Islamic
, World
10 Things You Should Never Mention In Your Profile
2007-11-23 14:23:01
by Vicky Zhou.
Creating an online dating profile can be challenging, particularly if you’ve never done it before. There are some definitely things you do and do not want to do when you create your profile in order to have the best success with your endeavour.
Here are the things you should definitely leave out.
1. Past Relationship Experiences
While it’s okay to mention what you’ve learned from past relationships, don’t ever go on and on about the way your ex treated you or anything of that resemblance. The more positive you are in your profile, the more positive people will think you are in real life - and everyone wants to date someone positive, right?
2.’Players Stay Away’
Nothing turns potential suitors off more than direct instructions of who should and who should not contact you. While you may think you are just stating what you don’t want, it comes across as slightly ignorant. Rather, state what you are looking for.
For example, us
How I Made It Through the World’s Most Awkward Date
2007-11-28 00:52:02
by Sara Hodon.
Online dating is not for the faint of heart. It’s good if you post a profile but don’t have the highest expectations in the world, because more often than not, you’ll be disappointed. But if you’re considering trying it—congratulations! You’re far braver than about 80% of the single population out there.
I’m not ashamed to admit that I’m no stranger to the world of online dating. Though I haven’t met a bona fide, “Okay-I-must-be-leaving-now-because-you’re-too-weird-for-words” wacko, I’ve definitely had my share of bad experiences. The hard part is just getting through the date itself. This can be tricky, particularly if you seemed to hit it off so well when you first started talking. Sadly, my friends, a person can post as many pictures as they want, but until you experience the real thing, you can truly only take a picture at face value.
So the real question remains—how do you make it past those awkward moments on a first date?
Un
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, Awkward
Happily Single – It’s Not a Myth
2007-12-06 01:46:26
by Brenda.
A few months ago I left a comment here on a post entitled “Are You Permanently Celibate” and have been asked to expand on my thoughts.
Basically the post was about a women who had her name on a dating site and in her profile stated that she was permanently celibate. The post itself didn’t compel me to leave a comment, it was everyone’s comments that got me a little hot and bothered. Most of them were about how this woman was a tease, had problems, didn’t like men, was lying to herself, etc. I disagreed completely. She seemed to understand herself well and was very upfront about what she wanted, which struck me as being very honest. Chances are she only got responses from men who felt much the same way she did about dating…more power to her I say.
Unlike this woman I haven’t made some declaration to be permanently celibate, but I do consider myself to be happily single. As I said in my comments to the original post, “There’s a myth out there that wo
Dater Beware : My Encounter with …
2007-12-04 02:51:15
by Paul G Akins Jr.
Dating can be summed up in one word, annoying. The whole process and all of the games involved irritate the hell out of me. Which is why when my friends suggested that I give online dating a try I politely said hell no.
But after about a month of harassment and ridicule I signed up to a few sites to test my luck. I was surprised by the shear number of sites and how many lonely and horny women there are out there. All just waiting for Mr. Right, but for right now they’ll settle for Mr. Big Johnson and Sir Quick Tongue.
I met a few women online but one stands out. Her names was, well you don’t really need to know her name—besides it was bootyluscious or lickous or something. Her real name wasn’t important, however her butt was. From the pictures she had on her site this girl had a nice big, juicy, yet firm butt.
I sent her a message and she replied back. Then she asked me for something I never thought I’d be asked. She asked to know how big my, well my Joh
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, Encounter
Good Dating Tip or Not?
2007-12-13 00:11:42
Are you watching old Seinfeld reruns for dates because you're broke? Do you need help with saving money without being a cheap date? If you answered "yes" to either or both of these questions, consider this dating advice: Spice things up a bit with these 7 money-saving and fun dating ideas.
Here’s the link to the full article.
7 Dating
Tips - Ideas for How to Save Money
Some of these ideas have potentials of being Romantic (e.g. Central Park), while others may be disasterous if you want a second date. It’s definitely worth a look though.
Late Bloomer
2007-12-18 00:47:07
by Carly Zinderman.
You know that Drew Barrymore movie, Never Been Kissed? I totally relate to it, except for being a completely pathetic loser. Yet, in high school, no boy ever showed me the slightest bit of interest. I wasn't worried about it though, my friends were never asked out either, despite the attempts my closest friend occasionally made on random guys that happened to catch her interest. Other than her over-aggressive pursuit of the male sex, my friends and I had next to no contact with boys during our four years of high school and for most of us, the male-free barrier continued on into our college years as well. But the dearth of dating didn't bug me as much as you'd think. You don't miss what you've never had and never having had a guy; I didn't miss not having one. Besides, my friends and I had each other, and that was enough. We would sometimes joke about how we would be old cat ladies, which did bother me, because I'm a really a dog person.
After high s
How I almost married my AIM lover
2008-03-04 09:01:27
by Heather.
One night in July, I was up late on the computer, and recieved an instant message from some guy. It stated, “Hey, remember me?” I didn’t know who it was so I asked him a few questions to see if I could remember. Well, he told me that I met him at some party, [...]
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, lover
Secrets Of The Boys Club: What Guys Really Think The First Time They See You
2008-02-24 08:48:44
by Matt Titus.
There is one thing I try to convey to all of the women I work with: most men do not approach a woman because he thinks she is moral, funny or smart. His initial intention is to sleep with her. I know this sounds harsh and it may be shocking, but it’s true. [...]
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, First
Speaking the Universal Language of Emotion
2008-02-16 14:10:53
by Joshua Thompson.
Buddha said, “We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts, we make the world.” Our thoughts honestly control what we do. There is plenty of material written on this. So I won’t get into it too much.
We are a product of what we think…but also [...]
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, Universal
, Emotion
The “Dealbreaker”
2008-02-08 14:02:14
by Katy Franklin.
Every girl has her own little hang-ups about a guy that drive her crazy. Whether you’re out on a first date with someone, have been dating him casually for quite some time, or have been in a long-term relationship with a man, these little annoyances can become “Dealbreakers” or “DB’s,” as my friends [...]
The Fake Women in My Life
2008-02-02 18:56:32
by Andy Cowan.
As with the early days of live TV, the early days of “live women” are starting to seem like a quaint remnant from yesteryear, yet another golden age we didn’t know was golden until it faded away with our memories. I admit that most of the ladies who’ve been “communicating” with me lately [...]
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Dating Embarrassment
2008-01-25 01:47:17
by Chania
Well, dating is never easy when you’re 16 and desperately want a boyfriend, but it can get much more difficult if you’re very naive and with your head in the clouds.
I had my first boyfriend at 15 (it only lasted a month and a half), and I can’t possible imagine what I saw [...]
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Is that a Sty in your Eye?
2008-01-15 23:19:45
by Karen Rodriguez
I was 24 years old and divorced living in a house with six other flight attendants, with only a laptop and a suitcase as my real processions. However, that wasn’t the worst part. I was now at the airport being picked up by my first date via Myspace, which is a current site [...]
Online Dating Profiles: A couple paragraphs that can change your life
2008-01-03 23:33:16
by Ed Attanasio
Because I am a writer, many of my friends ask me all the time to write their online profiles to post on dating web sites. I always feel like it’s a big commitment — kind of like writing someone’s resume or biography. There’s a lot at stake and the pressure to write something [...]
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, Profiles
, couple
, Online Dating
Happily Single – It’s Not a Myth
2007-12-06 01:46:26
by Brenda.
A few months ago I left a comment here on a post entitled “Are You Permanently Celibate” and have been asked to expand on my thoughts.
Basically the post was about a women who had her name on a dating site and in her profile stated that she was permanently celibate. The [...]
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