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Q & A: Engagement and Pre-wedding Plans 2008-04-04 12:34:00 Etiquette authority Peggy answers the most frequently asked questions on wedding
s, engagements, and showers.Engagement
and Pre-wedding Plans What happens if an engagement is broken?The bride immediately returns the engagement ring and other gifts of value her fiancé has given her. Her fiancé also returns any gifts of value given to him. Gifts from friends and relatives should be returned to the
Wedding Etiquette: Second Wedding 2008-04-04 12:32:00 Are parents obligated to pay for a daughter's second wedding if they paid for her first?No, although many parents do offer to help pay some of the expenses. Often, the bride and groom pay the expenses themselves, especially when parents paid for a first wedding. The decision is entirely up to the couple and their families. Is it appropriate for a bride to invite her ex-husband and former in-laws Read more:Etiquette
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Wedding Etiquette: Ceremony and Reception 2008-04-04 12:28:00 How does a bride-to-be decide who should walk her down the aisle if she is close to both her father and her stepfather?It's her choice. It's fine to select either one, though generally better to ask the one to whom she's closest. If she's equally close to both, she might find it most diplomatic to fall back on tradition and ask her biological father to escort her. If a bride prefers to omit the t Read more:Ceremony
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Wedding Etiquette: Invitations 2008-04-04 10:56:00 What's the best way to let guests know that children are not invited to a wedding and reception?Even when the invitations don't include children, it's best to tell family and close friends -- and ask them to spread the word. But it's incorrect to write "no children, please" on an invitation. What can be done about a guest who doesn't RSVP to a wedding invitation? If an invi Read more:Etiquette
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Wedding Etiquette: Bridal Showers 2008-04-04 10:49:00 If you're invited to a bridal shower but can't attend, are you expected to send a gift anyway?No, although you might want to send one to the hostess's home ahead of time if the bride-to-be is a close friend. Should someone who was invited to a shower also be invited to the wedding?Yes. An exception: coworkers who give the bride-to-be an office shower. If you give a bride-to-be a shower gift, is i Read more:Bridal
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Wedding Etiquette: Gifts 2008-04-04 10:45:00 If you receive a wedding announcement, but not an invitation, are you required to send the couple a gift?You may send a gift, but it's not obligatory. If you've been invited to a wedding and reception but can't attend, are you required to send a gift anyway?You're not required to send a gift, but usually you'll want to, unless you don't know the bride or groom well or haven't seen the couple or t Read more:Etiquette
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Planning for the Second Marriage 2008-10-20 13:03:00 Although nobody likes to enter a marriage thinking about the potential for problems, they happen. It's a statistical probability that some marriages will fail, no matter how genuine the couple's romantic intentions. Second
and third marriages are particularly prone to uncertainty, as both parties are usually older and less flexible. There are often children from previous relationships and the coup
Tea for Two or Three or More? 2008-10-20 13:02:00 When can a romantic evening and a marriage proposal become more than just the typical "Tea for Two"? When children are part of the package, couples find themselves with much more than just romance on their minds.There are so many things to consider when planning a marriage and a life of sharing and this list grows very quickly as children are figured into the equation. Many couples today are begin Read more:Three
Q & A: baker at my reception hall is unable to make the wedding cake I requested 2008-10-20 11:34:00 Q. The baker at my reception hall is unable to make the wedding
cake I requested, shouldn't I be compensated by my caterer if my original contract stated wedding cake included? And by how much?A. This is not good - and this is not the way to approach the wedding - but let's look at some possible legal ramifications and what it might take to have a true understanding among and between two people -
Q & A: What type of food and drinks are appropriate for NON-ALCOHOLIC wedding reception? 2008-10-20 11:33:00 Q. What type of food and drinks are appropriate for an October, Saturday 2:00, NON-ALCOHOLIC wedding
reception?A. Being in the DFW area myself I'm sure we'll come up with something GREAT - but - is it formal, semi-formal or informal? Is this a usual wedding, a western wedding, a theme wedding? Is it inside or outside - is it at the wedding location or a separate reception site - how many people -
Q & A: What are the duties of the bridesmaids? 2008-10-20 11:32:00 Q. What are the duties
of the bridesmaids?A. The term "Bridesmaid" historically refers to those maids (true maids of the household) or maidens (single girl friends) who were to help the bride in accomplishing all those tasks required of the bride prior to the wedding and at the reception. Today, the term bridesmaid refers to those best of friends and family who are there to help the bride in accom
Q & A: Whose responsibility is it to pay for the bridesmaid luncheon? 2008-10-20 11:30:00 Q. Whose responsibility is it to pay for the bridesmaid luncheon? My mother has already stated she will not do so and unfortunately my budget is stretched to the limit. Any recommendations?A. The bridesmaid luncheon is an optional affair and, should someone (almost anyone) elect to hold it the payment is also a rather optional affair. At times the bridesmaids throw a luncheon for the bride - this
Q & A: What is the proper form of response to a formal invitation to a very small wedding 2008-10-20 11:29:00 Q. What is the proper form of response to a formal
invitation to a very small wedding
where the reception is the featured event? The large reception invitation and smaller wedding invitation were received in the same envelope, separated by tissue paper, but only the reception invitation had "The favour of reply is requested" engraved on it. There was no customary reply envelope included.A. Receivi
Q & A: Can the host/hostess of the reception ask the caterer to wrap up all the leftovers? 2008-10-20 11:25:00 Q. Can the host/hostess of the reception ask the caterer to wrap up all the leftovers?A. You better believe you can!!! After all, you paid for it - it's yours and it's a very common (and a proper occurrence). Be sure to let the caterer know ahead of time that you will want to take some leftovers so he/she can have the proper contains ready for you.
Q & A: What is the proper donation to the minister who performs a simple ceremony? 2008-10-20 11:25:00 Q. What is the proper donation (tip, gift, or contribution -I'm not sure of the proper term- etc.) to give to the minister who performs a simple ceremony?A. The proper amount to offer a minister for a wedding ceremony is an ethereal thing - depending on what part of the world you are in - depending on any pre-marriage counseling - does the minister to a rehearsal - does the minister "host" the eve
Q & A: We would like to let all know where our bridal registry is 2008-10-20 11:23:00 Q. My fiance and I both have large families filled with divorce and remarriage, as well as friends from all over the place. We would like to let all know where our bridal registry is, because the tradition of letting the information pass by word of mouth will probably not be sufficient. Is it absolutely inappropriate to include a note in the invitation stating where we are registered? If not, how
Q & A: How should announcements and invitations to the celebration be worded? 2008-10-20 11:21:00 Q. My fiance and I are having a family wedding and a reception for those attending. He is in the military and is being sent overseas for 6 months soon after the wedding. After he returns, we plan to have a huge celebration
and invite everyone we would have invited to the wedding had we had the big wedding originally planned. We are sending invitations to the wedding to family members. We are also
Q & A: How my divorced parents should be seated at the wedding? 2008-10-20 11:20:00 Q. My parents are divorced, have not spoken to each other in the last 15 years and in general do not like one another. What is your best advice as to how they should be seated at the wedding
? We are catholic.A. Your mom and current husband? (if one exists) sit on the front row right hand side with the rest of your relatives behind her in the next row or more - then your father and his current wife
Q & A: Destination wedding in Jamaica 2008-10-20 11:12:00 Q. I am having a destination wedding
in Jamaica. There will be no traditional wedding party. When and how do we formally announce this? We have the blessing of friends and family. We will be having a party in April before our June date. Who could I contact in Atlanta (GA) that would offer advise and inform me of the protocol for this type of event? I appreciate you sharing your expertise.A. I'm no Read more:Destination
Q & A: Correct form for listing the bride's parents who are making the wedding? 2008-10-20 11:11:00 Q. I am keenly sensitive to the separate identity of women and men and find it problematic to refer to the parents of the bride on the wedding
invitation as Mr. and Mrs. John Smith. What is the correct form for listing the bride's parents who are making
the wedding? Can one say Mr. John and Mrs. Mary Smith, or if not, what do we write?A. Well, if you plan to print "traditional" invitations - tradi Read more:Correct
Q & A: Custom to have the groom's family pay for half the wedding? 2008-10-20 11:04:00 Q. My 44 year old brother is getting married to a 41 year old, never married woman. She is from an Italian-American family. Upon meeting my mom and dad, her parents told them it is their custom that the groom
's parents pay for half of the wedding
. They were very blunt and quite offensive to my parents. My brother's response was to take out a loan and he would pay the other half of the wedding expe
Q & A: What is an acceptable donation to pastor who is marrying us? 2008-10-20 11:01:00 Q. The pastor that is marrying
us indicated there is no charge for him to marry us, but that a donation is acceptable to cover the cost of the custodians cleaning up, etc. What is an acceptable donation? We do not belong to this church, but we are very pleased with the pastor who is marrying us.A. Tipping the pastor/minister/officiant is traditional - and in good taste - and varies throughout the
Q & A: Who traditionally pays for floral arrangements for the church? 2008-10-20 10:59:00 Q. I saw your answer to the question about the responsibilities of the groom and his family. I have two other specific questions: 1. "Corsages for all immediate family members" - the groom's family or both families? 2. Who traditionally pays for floral arrangements for the church?A. The GROOM is responsible for paying for the Bride's bouquet, the bride's going away corsage, corsages for the mother
Q & A: Wedding will not be held in a church 2008-10-20 10:57:00 Q. The wedding and reception will be held in a ballroom and there will be 150 total guests. We are budgeting the whole affair somewhere in the neighborhood of $2,500-$3,500. We both are Christians but are not overconcerned about religious conflicts because the wedding will not be held in a church.A. Guessing it is probably formal, but at least semi-formal, I would suggest having a buffet (easier t
Q & A: Is it improper etiquette to exclude the bridesmaids and groomsmen from riding in the limo? 2008-10-20 10:56:00 Q. My fiance and I are planning a wedding in August of this year. He wants to have a limo drive us from the church to the reception and he wants only he and I to ride in the limo. Is it improper etiquette to exclude the bridesmaids and groomsmen
from riding in the limo?A. It would be improper etiquette to INCLUDE the wedding party in the limo. It should only be the two of you. Though members of th
Q & A: What is the proper way to cut a tiered wedding cake? 2008-10-20 10:53:00 Q. What is the proper way to cut a tiered wedding
cake?A. We went to one of the very TOP wedding cake bakeries in the U.S. - cakes the White House are common from here. The shop is "Cakes of Elegance" in Dallas, Texas. Here is the "quote" for properly cutting one of their cakes (three tiers or more). This procedure will vary with how your cake is constructed and what type of base and/or bases are
Q & A: Is it proper to give the birth mother a corsage too? 2008-10-20 10:51:00 Q. I was adopted at birth
and in the past 4 years have met my birth mother
and other family members. They are coming down from Ohio, and my sister is one of my bridesmaids. Is it proper to give the birth mother a corsage too without hurting the feelings of my mother?A. Don't be nervous or confused - you can give a corsage to anyone and everyone - sure it's OK - the fact is she IS a family member a
Q & A: Is the old adage that the brides parents pay for the wedding still in force? 2008-10-20 10:48:00 Q. Is the old adage that the brides parents pay for the wedding
still in force? Or have they changed that like they did the thing about the white wedding dress?A. When you ask if "they" have changed this, I assume you mean "da wedding police". The concept behind the brides parents paying for the wedding is NOT an adage (which is defined as a "saying or proverb") but is in fact one of the very OLDE
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