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Blog for Choice 1970-01-01 00:59:59 The topic for this year's Blog for Choice
is "Why I'm pro-choice". I could talk about this for a long time and go into a lot more detail than is probably needed. So to make it short I'll just say that for me it's about trust.I am pro choice because I have enough faith in women to to think choose what is right when it comes to abortion. Not every woman who has an abotion has it for the same reasons. Not everyone who chooses that comes to that decision the same way. I don't think there's a woman out there who had an abotion because it was something she wanted to do. I think there are many, many women who choose abortion because it's the responsible thing to do. It's the logical thing to do. It's the (as crazy as it may sound) loving thing to do. It's the right thing to do.Look at the women in your life, the ones that you know and love and respect. Ask yourself if you trust them to make major life decisions for themselves. With abortion rates in the US being 1 out of
Joseph's plan 1970-01-01 00:59:59 Joseph has been super attatched to Jesse and I lately. He's even refused to spend time with my parents so that he could be with us instead. I don't know what's going on with him but he just really does not want to be apart from is at all.On Friday Jesse brought Joseph to school just like he does every day. After he left Joseph got very sad and started to cry because he missed Jesse so much. So he this is what he told me he did. He took out his feelings chart (little chart he has numbered 1-5 with each number being a different emotion has has). When he saw that he was at #4 (crying and not able to stop) he looked at what the chart said he should do. The chart said that he should take a break in Mrs F's office. (Mrs F is his IEP case manager.) All on his own he went to his teacher and told her that he needed to go to Mrs F's office so that he could calm down. Then he and Mrs F talked and she told him she was proud of him for figuring out on his own that he needed to come do Read more:Joseph
Dinner with the IFs 1970-01-01 00:59:59 On Saturday night Jesse and the kids and I had dinner with my IFs and their son. It was really nice. Joseph and their son got along really well and B (the IF I had not yet met) was just as nice as J (the IF I met in LA). The kids were as good as gold and we were all able to sit and talk and have a really nice time.Turns out the IFs have already picked out an egg donor but it just didn't work out. So now they're on the hunt again. Hopefuly this time will be the charm and we'll get this show on the road.As for now I'm sick. Again! It never flippin' ends! I have to believe that there will come a day when everyone in my house is healthy for 2 days at a time. Read more:Dinner
Big PIPin' 1970-01-01 00:59:59 So what can I say about my PIPs (potential intended parents) without giving away too much about them? I want to respect their privacy but here's a little about them.It's a gay couple from Minnesota. One of them has the same name as my dad and they have a son that they adopted and the son has the same name as my brother. Included with their profile was a picture of them at Disney World. They seem like they would be a really great match for me. I already called the case manager I'll be working with and left her a message saying that she can go ahead and pass my profile on to the PIPs for them to look over. Assuming they want to work with me then the next step will be for Jesse and I to fly to LA again and meet them in person. We would meet at the agency first and then go out to eat together or something afterwards. Assuming we all still want to work together at that point, the next step will be for me to fly to LA again for the embryo transfer. This could take a little while
The new look 1970-01-01 00:59:59 Good? Bad? What do you think?
What a rotten day 1970-01-01 00:59:59 What a day. Ugh. What a day. I need to go take a hot shower and have a good long cry. Crud.
A little better 1970-01-01 00:59:59 Ok, I'm a littlebetter
today that I was yesterday. Sometimes stuff just sucks and it gets to be a lot to deal with.But how could I be crabby after I go to get Elle up from her nap and she says "Hi baaaaaaybeeee!" when I walk in the room? You can't get that kind of therapy anywhere else.
My insurance 1970-01-01 00:59:59 The IFs are continuing to work on the insurance
issue. If anyone can do it they can. One of them is a doctor and one of them is a lawyer.* That's right, I'm going to be a surrogate for the Huxtables.*At least he was until he left his job at a very prominent law firm to become a stay at home dad. Love!
This just in 1970-01-01 00:59:59 The teams for The Amazing Race All Stars have been announced!1. Kevin and Drew2. Danny & Oswald3. John Vito & Jill4. Uchenna & Joyce5. David & Mary6. Charla & Mirna7. Rob & Amber8. Teri & Ian9. Eric & Danielle10. Joe & Bill11. Dustin & Kandice
The little things 1970-01-01 00:59:59 When Jesse and I were dating and when we were first married he was a pretty romantic guy. He would bring me flowers for no reason, write me little
love letters, take me out to eat, leave little suprise gifts for me to find, that kind of stuff. Well, we've been married for over 7 years now and after a while those kind of gestures happen less and less. And honestly, they seem less and less important to me. We've got 2 kids, 2 cars, a house and a never ending pile of laundry to deal with. We don't have time for flowery romance.That's not to say Jesse doesn't do other things
to let me know he loves me. Whenever he drives my car he makes sure to fill it up with gas so that I don't have to. In the past year I've probably gotten gas once and I don't even remember how long it was before that. In the summer he mows the grass and in the winter he shovels the snow and he never, ever complains about it. He lets me pick where we go out to eat and where we go on vacation.And he stil
No end to this rope 1970-01-01 00:59:59 Here is an interesting article about what it's like to parent a child with special needs. I thought really agree with a lot of what she has to say. I like this quote a lot: "Why anyone thinks that we are uniquely suited for this task is beyond me-we are plain, ordinary parents. He is ours, we are his, and that will have to be enough for now. "
Tackle It Tuesday 1970-01-01 00:59:59 My very first Tackle it Tuesday
! Like I said in my last post I already did a ton of other housework today but for my TiT project I chose two things.The first thing is the end cupboard in the kitchen. It gets really cluttered so it's hard to use my breadmaker and my nice new mixer. This is actually pretty tame compared to what it can be like but it's still not as nice as I would like it to be. Here I have these two really nice kitchen appliances and then I don't even want to use them because they're such a hassle to get to.Next is Joseph's living room book/magazine case. The poor kid can't even see what books he has. You almost hate to walk by the thing because if you create too much of a breeze the whole thing is liable to explode.Here's the kitchen counter after I cleaned it off. Ooooooh, shiny. And you'll not that the appliances are actually plugged in and usable. Fancy.And here's Joseph's bookshelf after tackling. I just noticed there's still a block on the floo
Blog Party 1970-01-01 00:59:59 How fun is this? I recently discovered this really fun website (thanks IDAT) with a ton of neat stuff. They have contests and theme days and a lot of other ways to interact with other bloggers. This blog party is just a way to get to see some new blogs and to get people to your blog and to make new friends. Check it out if your a blogger and a woman. You don't have to be a mom to get involved.One of the themes this site does is "Tackle It Tuesday". The idea is to post a picture of a house project that you want to tackle and then post another picture after it's done. After I've tackled getting the camera to work I'm going to do my first TiT post. (Because that's what this blog needs, more tit talk.) Ack! Do I really want to air all my dirty laundry? Literally? I think it will be a good thing. Just reading what some of the other women did inspired me to put away 3 baskets of clean laundry, load and unload the dishwasher, pick up the living room, put new pillowcases on a Read more:Party
Hate made pretty 1970-01-01 00:59:59 When I was pregnant with Elle I had brieflt considered finding a doula to assist me with my labor and delivery. This idea kind of fell away after I decided that I would rather have my mom there with me during the whole thing. I figured that between her and Jesse I would have all the support I needed. And I was right, they were awesome. Then, when I started to consider a surrogate pregnancy I thought how nice it would be to have someone in the room during the birth who was really there just to focus on me. Since I knew I woulld not be comfortable asking my mom to be at the birth of someone else's baby I started thinking about finding a doula.I did a little searching online and I met a woman with 25 years of birthing experience. She seemed really great. I exchanged probably a dozen emails with her. We discussed all the aspects of my last pregnancy/birth, what problems I had, how I would hope for this labor/delivery to go, on and on and on. Then I told here that nothing was set
A few pictures 1970-01-01 00:59:59 When this girl sleeps, she sleeps!I don't know why this picture is fuzzy but I had to share it because it's so sweet. Joseph is reading a story to Elle to keep her entertained while I run to the bathroom. He's such a good baba.
Help! 1970-01-01 00:59:59 I need someone to help me make my blog prettier. I'm tired of this basic layout. Anyone willing to spare a little time to help an internet dummy be a little less lame?
Can't sleep, clown will eat me 1970-01-01 00:59:59 I'll be curious to find out how school went for Joseph today. He pretty much pitched a fit this morning about not wanting to get up and go to school. When Jesse finally got him there he said Joseph looked reallyupset, almost crying. When he asked him what was wrong Joseph finally explained that he didn't want to be at school that day because a clown was going to visit their classroom. He's totally freaked out about this. I really don't know why. From how it sounds I would be pretty suprised if he was able to get through the day without it being a big issue. I would not be at all suprised if he had to spend some time with Mrs F if the whole thing gets to be too much. My hope is that when I go to pick him up he'll say he had a great day and loved the clown and all is well. My fear is that his teacher will tell me that as soon as the clown walked in Joseph started to shriek and cry and had to be taken out of the room. I figure it's about a 50/50 shot at either of those. S
Ass Burgers 1970-01-01 00:59:59 "Hey Mom" he'll say "Remember when I had aspergers?"Aspergers, ass burgers, aspergers. I'm so sick of aspergers.I'm so sick of forgetting that I have a little boy and not just a little boy with aspergers. I'm sick of seeing him do something naughty and wondering "Is that the aspergers? Is that his medication doing that? Did I do something to set that off? How did I fail? How did he fail?" and not remembering that sometimes 6 year old boys are just naughty. I'm tired of not really knowing what's going on with Joseph becuase even though we've been told "aspergers" we know that it's really just a working diagnosis and what it really means is "there's something wrong here and this is what it probably is but maybe not because he fits A and B but not really C so who knows what in the heck is going on".I hate always feeling like my parenting is on display, with my family, with my friends, with an army of doctors and therapist. Because when you have a child with special needs Read more:Burgers
A disclaimer 1970-01-01 00:59:59 Joseph is a blessing and a gift and a ray of sunshine in my life. The things I expressed in the previous entry are in no way directed at him. It's just about my frustration.Oh, and Joseph really liked the clown today at school. Good for him because between you and me, I'm terrified of clowns. Read more:disclaimer
What? 1970-01-01 00:59:59 Elle has a bunch of new words all of the sudden. She says "zorts" and that means "dessert". She uses it whenever she sees something she wants to eat or whenever she tastes something she likes. Everything is zorts to Elle. She says "pudges" for "pajamas". That's pretty cute. She says something that sounds a lot like "bullshit" but I'm not sure what that's supposed to mean. "What's this?" maybe. She says "buhbay" for Barbie. It's so fun to hear her say all this new stuff.
Butter brains, er, braids 1970-01-01 00:59:59 I'm so lazy today. I don't want to do anything other than lay on the couch. I'm hungry but I'm too lazy to get myself something. The beauty of my couch plan is that there's probably enough food under the cushions to keep me fed for a week. If I could get someone to come by and pour a little water into my mouth every so often I could be set.I'm soooooo lazy today. How lazy am I? I'm so lazy that at some point this afternoon I got a S'mores Ritz Bitz ground into my sweater and I didn't even notice it until Elle started picking it out and eating it. I let her continue. Hey, either she cleaned it up or I had to. I think there might be a carbon monoxide leak in our house. I don't know, I'm too lazy to check the detector.Anyone want to buy a Butter
Braid? Joseph's school is having yet another fund raiser and this time they're selling Butter Braids. For only $8 you can have a hand braided pastry with layers of 100% real butter, filled with a delicious variety of fruit Read more:braids
Surrogacy update 1970-01-01 00:59:59 So my surrogacy update is ...... that there's really no update. We're a teeny, tiny step closer to getting the legal stuff done and I should be getting the contracts fairly soon. Other than that there's nothing new. I'm going to continue to try to be zen about all this.In other news, Joseph won an award at school for "making positive behavior choices in the lunchroom". Translated to english that means he was good at lunch. He was pretty pleased about the whole thing. I was too because I know how lunch has been a struggle for him. It was nice for him to get some positive feedback. He got a certificate and a pair of sunglasses. What more could you ask for?Elle continues her quest to be the cutest baby ever. If you say "Hi princess" to her she'll repreat it right back to you. She's such a sweetie.
Tackle It Tuesday 1970-01-01 00:59:59 It's Tuesday
again. Please be kind.This is Joseph's art desk. Needless to say he can't use it as is. He can't even find his art supplies under all that mess. Poor boy.Here is the desk after I tackled it. The harderst part was throwing away some of his little art projects. My mom instinct every little piece of paper he ever scribbles on. My survival instinct tells me that if I don't start throwing things away once in a while I'm going to the the first person ever to die after being buried in an avalanche of paper and stickers and glue.Does your house have a junk drawer? Ours does. It also has a junk chair. In addition to being uncomfortable and kind of ugly this chair also has the tendency to fall over if you blink to rapidly while sitting in it. Hence, it has become a dumping ground for all kinds of things - library books, clean clothes, dirty clothes, toys, things that need to be taken upstairs, things that need to be taken downstairs and so on and so on.And here's th
Killer rabbit 1970-01-01 00:59:59 I have a confession to make. I ...... cannot draw. Not to save my life. My dad can draw but I did not get any of his natural ability. My mom used to not be able to draw but she started learning how and now she's pretty good too. So I figured I would give it a try using some drawing books to teach me. Here are the results.If you ignore the fact that this bee is missing a couple of legs it's actually not that bad of a drawing.It's acutally freaking me out a little bit. (shudder) Bees...Ok, this is a pretty cute little mouse. Hey, maybe I'm not too bad at this after all!Well look at that cute little hampster type thing. That's pretty good! Hey, I'm an artist!Andit all falls apart. Not only is this drawing really, really bad, it looks like it wants to come alive and eat my brains. How did I manage to make a simple little rabbit look so evil? That's the end of my drawing career. Read more:Killer
Enjoy! 1970-01-01 00:59:59 I've got a stomach flu of some kind. I'm too weak to say much more than that. Oh, one thing. The other night I spent over three hours on the phone talking to someone with a delightful southern drawl. Now I find that the voices in my head are talking to me that way too. It's a nice change of pace.By the way, if you're not reading Lately Bothered also linked over there on the right) then you are missing out on some funny, funny stuff. Come for the animated story about buying a sandwich, stay for being told that you smell like beef and cheese.
Liquid diet 1970-01-01 00:59:59 Since I seem unable to kick this stomach flu my doctor has put me on a liquid diet for 2 days. For the 2 days after that I have have soft mushy foods, heavy on the yogurt which she says will help restore all the enzymes and bacteria in my bowel. Lovely! It's day one of the liquid part of the diet and I'm ready to start chewing the walls. I told Jesse I'm going to stay up till everyone has gone to bed and then make and eat an entire pan of brownies. I'm so hungry. I'm not really looking forward to the part of the diet where I eat yogurt. I really, really don't like that stuff. But at this point I would happily eat a bowlful of yogurt over one more sip of chicken broth.Sigh. I'm so hungry. Read more:Liquid
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