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Are You an A Student? 2007-03-14 18:00:00 Life's lessons never stop coming. Class is never over while we are here! Have you ever noticed how you will get the same lessons over and over until you learn it? I used to think that that was merely a matter of circumstance and the reason you didn't have the lesson again after learning is because you were no longer doing the things that that brought the lesson on in the first place. I didn't think there was anything other than that causing the lessons to occur. However, I was wrong! I learned its far more magical than that a couple of years ago when I was delivering pizzas for a living (a whole other life lesson, mind you) I've always been a bit impatient in certain areas of my life, driving was one of those areas. I'm fairly quick acting in anything I do. I think quickly, make decisions quickly, and just function in life at a faster pace than most people seem to. So I've always hated for people to make me wait. This was reflected in my driving when I'd attempt to pul Read more:Student
Baruch Spinoza Quote-Food for Thought 2007-03-19 03:29:00 "If there were in the world today any large number of people who desired their own happiness more than they desired the unhappiness of others, we could have paradise in a few years."~ BaruchSpinoza
- Dutch Philosopher (1632 - 1677) Today I offer this quote that I ran across in some of my reading as food for thought. Read more:Quote
What are You Really Seeking? 2007-03-19 17:40:00 Is it happiness you seek for yourself? Is that what you are really looking to get out of life? Be honest. It may be that you are seeking to prove yourself. Who are you proving yourself to? Your father or mother, or perhaps a sibling or an uncle or a grandparent or maybe you just want to prove yourself to yourself! Well, there is nothing wrong with proving yourself as long as you are being true to yourself. However, you wont be happy if you spend your life trying to prove yourself to others doing what others expect of you. You have to be true to YOU! You have to do what will make you happy. So if inside you feel that proving yourself will bring you some degree of happiness then I say do some soul searching. Prove yourself doing what makes you happy, not what others expect. For you see even if you succeed in your endeavor if you have been untrue to you then you wont feel much happiness at that success. You’ll have climbed yourself right up to a pile of manure and now you’re the king/ Read more:Seeking
Controversy of The Secret 2007-03-21 18:19:00 These days there seems to be a great deal of controversy over The Secret and and or, The Laws of Attraction. I hear a lot people talking about it. Many don’t believe in it and a great many of those that don’t believe simply don’t seem to understand its concept. Some people seem to have the misconception that you just sit around wishing for what you want and you get it. I don’t think that’s the real concept at all!!! It’s about following your inspiration and believing. No you can’t sit home and eat bon bons while that dream job out of the blue decides to call you and a million dollars fall from the sky! You have to go out and make it happen! The Secret isn’t at all about wishful thinking and dreaming up magic at all! However, what it is about is going after what you’re inspired to go after and getting it! It’s about attracting more good things toward yourself because you desire them, and believe you deserve them. You’ll get them because you believe and your draw Read more:Controversy
To All Those Working to Make a Difference 2007-03-20 17:16:00 This blog focuses on change and what we need to do to make ourselves more whole and happy and healthy of mind and spirit. I wanted today just to say that I am thrilled by all of the people I have met since starting this blog. I am totally delighted to meet so many caring wonderful people who are striving to make a difference in their own lives and in the lives of others. I am very pleasantly surprised at how many people are doing what they can and what they know to make this a better world. Just look at the links at the side of my page to discover some of the wonderful people I have run into here on the net. Whenever I have the extra time I try and find others too and I’m always pleased that I usually do discover someone wonderful.I’ve always said that most people are good, that my experience with mankind has always been 90 percent good with a small percentage of Ten at the most being negative. My experience here on the Net has simply reaffirmed that! So many people out there sho
A Word About Relegion 2007-03-22 17:20:00 With the comments from my last post I find a lead into this next post. Religions throughout the world share a great many similarities. In fact, I believe the differences were strongly influenced and have more to do with the people who first practiced the said religion and wrote the sacred documents more than anything else. I know in my heart that all religions were guides, gifts from a supreme being. I don't care to speculate as to whether there are more than one Supreme Being for I only know one in my heart. You can choose to call him God or Alah or Joe he doesn't care! He gave us our sacred documents, the ones we've turned into books as guides to a happy and successful life He handed them out to every people. This Supreme Being chose people to write these documents. Perhaps he chose those whom he could trust and who could communicate the concepts he gave them in a language that would be easily understood by the people in question. Obviously with all of our cultural differences
Evolving Times 2007-03-25 06:33:00 I recently stumbled on a blog that I really appreciated. It's called the Evolving Times
. The blogger is Ed who also does a radio show about implementing the Laws of Attraction.Listen live on Monday’s from 11:00 - 12:00 pacific time, toLaw of Attraction Live:Practical Tools for Creating the Life You DesireHis next topic is supposed to be about how to figure out what you really want. This made me think of some of you who have mentioned having that kind of trouble. So if you are available at that day and time please stop over there and have a listen.
A Journey 2007-03-24 16:40:00 When I first started this blog it was my intention not to mention God too often as if to tiptoe around the subject and not upset anyone. I see how emotional people can get over this subject. However, since the time that I first started this blog I’ve realized that God is just as much a part of this blog if not more than I am. This blog was created because he called me to it. So it’s only right that God be in it, clear for you to see! Two years ago I started a blog about my philosophies. The blog never got off the ground because when I went to place my fingers on the keyboard the thoughts were not there and when the thoughts were there they didn’t come out right or make enough sense. I had valuable thoughts in my head but they were lacking something and I couldn’t figure out why I couldn’t write them out. I am a writer by nature after all.Now I understand as clear as day why I couldn’t because I hadn’t at that time brought God back into my life nor opened my heart to his w Read more:Journey
Thanks! 2007-03-26 18:51:00 Thanks to all who offered their support. I think I am moving forward now. Writing and hearing your thoughts and thinking some more has helped me move through some of this and now I am able to change my focus and am concentrating on moving forward. Focusing on the little I do know and in opening my heart to God in preparation of his next message or glimpse of inspiration. It will surly not be the life I planned but I couldn't ask for a better director! Read more:Thanks
Away 2007-03-28 07:57:00 Taking some much needed R & R I need some tranquility and to spend a few days shutting off the world as much as possible and comversing with God. I'll be back in a few. Hope you all have a wonderful and peaceful week!
Moving Past Your Fears 2007-03-27 19:30:00 What I’ve experienced over the past several weeks can be used to illustrate a lesson. Things happen in life and those things sometimes overwhelm our emotions with fear. This sort of occurrence is commonplace. When this happens we are then left amongst a heap of emotions and often feel we don’t know which way to turn. The only way out is to dig though the emotions, typically fears. Feel them and move on to the next. Which is basically what I have done for the last several weeks. However there was still some last remaining mess that I was struggling with. This was because I hadn’t dug it up yet.I was fearful. I am still fearful, don’t get me wrong but now with understanding my fears and other feelings I’m able to move on in spite of them. Each one of my fears posed a barrier to moving forward because I wasn’t owning my fears. However, once I recognized each fear and owned the fear I could set it aside and take a baby step forward.. We don’t need to admonish our emotions to Read more:Moving
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Out of Balance 2007-04-01 06:55:00 On my dinner break at work I often will run over to Starbucks and buy a cup of coffee, my one true vice in this world is a cup of flavored coffee. On my way there last night I saw an ambulance coming toward me in the left lane. I pulled over and the people behind me followed suit. However the cars in the left lane did not and that was the lane that the ambulance was traveling in. The ambulance was forced to drive in the right lane putting himself at extreme risk should someone pull out from one of the streets without really looking or had someone traveled through the green light on the corner now behind me. It occurred to me that most of these people in the left lane were probably not bad people and perhaps not even inconsiderate people. However, they certainly have their priorities messed up! How are they so certain that that ambulance isn’t rushing to save one of their loved ones? What’s more why put the ambulance driver at risk too by forcing him to drive on the wrong side of Read more:Balance
The Revelation 2007-03-31 03:13:00 I’m back sooner than I expected. I’ll give you all the rundown on what happened because I’m sure some of you are wondering and in many ways I think its kind of unique to see the calling and the struggle of the calling documented. There is much we can all learn from this! First though I just want to say thank you to all of you who wished me well! Your words have brought me much comfort and your support means a great deal to me I assure you! One major lesson that I have learned from this experience is that, when God says he’ll show you something once you fully submit to him and have complete and absolute faith in him, then take his word for it, he means it! As you may recall originally God had given me a mere glimpse of an inspiration and promised me the entire thing once I was willing to put all of my faith and trust in him. Somewhere along the way I lost my focus and I focused on the glimpse. From the glimpse I knew he wanted me to start some sort of a ministry, I knew he want Read more:Revelation
Name Calling 2007-04-02 04:29:00 I was thinking today about why I so strongly feel we shouldn’t call one another bad names. I’m not talking just curse names but anything of a negative connotation. Well almost needless to say calling someone a bad name hurts them. However, when we call people bad names even when they are out of earshot it hurts us. Now I wont say I never say anything bad about anyone. I have a neighbor as a matter of fact who is a real challenge to me. However, I really do try not to do a lot of name-callingMy goal is to totally refrain from it. This includes my neighbor who irks me to no end.I must admit I’ve never thought much about why I feel name calling is bad until now. I realized there are a few reasons. First of all there is the golden rule. Do unto others as you would have them do unto yourself. Well I certainly wouldn’t like for anyone to call me names to my face or behind my back. That would really hurt and humiliate me. What’s more, though I think when we call people something an Read more:Calling
The Blame Game 2007-04-03 18:59:00 Mr Anonymous inspired this post. He brought up the word BLAME. Blame
is a dirty dirty word! When we choose to blame others for our thinking or our actions we relinquish all responsibility! We dispower (sic) ourselves! Do you wish to be powerful and in control of your life? Then stop blaming others. It’s not other people’s faults for the choices you have made. It’s not God’s fault that bad things have happened or that you have made bad choices. It’s up to you to make your life what you will. Yes bad things can and do happen but even then its up to you what you do with those bad situations. There are people who have been handed horrible fates and have gone on to rise above them! Then there are those who sit around and blame someone, anyone for their sad sad lives and wallow in their misery, choosing to feel sorry for themselves. I know this first hand for I once blamed God for my sad life. Finally one day I realized I was wrong. I needed to let that go and take responsibility f
Listen to Your Feelings 2007-04-06 17:16:00 (Another Mr. Anonymous inspired post)I’ve had many moments in my life where I’ve felt lonely or sad or any other number of things. I remember feeling that way and having no idea what to do about it. I bet you have all experienced similar feelings and possibly didn’t know what to do about it either. In the past I would just deal with those feelings and they wouldn’t usually go away. They’d hang around hounding me wanting me to fix them.Well that is a silly way to deal with such emotions. Our emotions are like a meter for our soul they tell us what we need. Then we need to adjust our lives to balance out the meter. If you are feeling lonely that merely means you have been spending too much time alone. You need to get out see friends or family or join a club and make new friends. You need to change your life to accommodate your needs.If you are feeling sad the same can be said. One of the best cures for sadness is happiness. Do something to cheer yourself up. Go visit a friend Read more:Listen
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Fear Fear! 2006-12-20 17:19:00 If you haven't visited The Naked Soul yet or lately you should. It's a great blog! Today he wrote a post on letting go and being all that you can be. You can read that post here This topic seemed to fit so nicely here that I thought you all should read it and give it some thought.He writes about letting go of the old you in place of the new you. This is a tough one. We often get comfortable even when we are not happy. There is a comfort in being in familiar settings. Only the brave or adventurous ones are quick to take the challenge and even they may hesitate. Change is never easy no matter which direction we go. However, you have nothing at all to gain by sitting still and everything to gain by moving forward. Fear is the number one cause for failure in any respect, be it relationships, jobs, bettering oneself, or even a hobby. Fear is our biggest foe! Think about the things that you are fearful of. What do you have to lose? What do you stand to gain? Will you let fear drive you or
About Me 2006-12-08 01:11:00 I guess before I get too far into this blog I should introduce myself better. My name is Desiree I'm a single mother of three. One is grown, two are still at home. I have one grown son out on his own and two beautiful daughters at home.I've always loved to write and consider myself a writer though I've never seriously pursued a career in writing mostly for reasons I'll explain in a moment. I came from a rough childhood, left home at 16 and subsequently got pregnant and had a child at 17, my son. I spent the rest of my life at that point dealing with being a single parent and dealing with deep emotional scars and serious depression. When I look back now at where I came from sometimes I can't believe how far I've come. Even though financially I still struggle, emotionally and spiritually I have grown to great heights. I am very proud of myself for that for it took a great deal of work on my part to get there.I have found that I have been gifted with great insight and the ability
Thinking Blogger Awards 2007-04-09 18:10:00 I was tagged by my dear blogger friend Annie. I usually place all of my tags in my other blog. However with this one I thought it pointed to people who are doing their part to be the change and hence are making the world a more positive place. So it seems quite appropriate to post it here.First and foremost on my list is a well respected and admired blogger Mark. Mark is a very insightful man full of wonderful ideas on bettering your life and your relationships. I try never to miss a day at The Naked Soul because I find it fills my day with inspiration more often than not! He was already tagged by Annie but I just wouldn't feel right if he weren't also included on my list. If you haven't gone there yet make today the day you start! Blessed who is a new find has a wonderful new idea! Go and check it out and participate! Go blessed! My blogger friend Bokjae is a special kind of guy. He has a disabled wife whom he loves and cares for and his love for her, his family, for God and for hi Read more:Blogger
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Confession 2007-04-09 02:53:00 Why does the Bible tell us to confess if God knows everything? Did you ever stop and wonder about this? At first glance even I have to admit it sounds a bit odd. I mean God is all knowing. He already knows our sins. Right? Indeed he does and so that leads us to understand that there is another purpose for confession. If you've ever had a secret sin then you know only too well how it shapes your life and how strongly it can affect you until you finally confess it because it's eating you up inside. You see? We are not being told to confess so that God can hear our sins. No, quite the contrary, we are being instructed to confess because it is so beneficial to the human soul to confess! It is the only way we can seek forgiveness. We can't even find it in ourselves to forgive ourselves until we find a way to unleash the secret sin. It doesn't rightly matter where you confess or if you believe in God or not. It merely matters that you confess. If you believe in God feel free to confess
A Special Gift 2007-04-14 16:45:00 This post was inspired by something Brian said in his comment in yesterday’s post. He brought up how painful it is to try and live up to other people’s expectations. He is so right about this! This is very painful because we are going against our own grain and being untrue to ourselves. It also hurts when others have expectations of us that we can’t live up to. It leaves us feeling like we are not good enough or we are not the person that that person wishes us to be and this hurts. With this in mind this is why it’s so crucial for us to keep our noses out of our loved ones business! Stop planting our own seeds in their heads! Encourage the ones you love to be all they can be but don't decide for them what it is that they should be. Give them the freedom to decide on their own! This is how you love someone! This is how you treat someone the way you would like to be treated. You offer total love and support and if they come back and tell you they want to live with wolves then y Read more:Special
Authentic Life 2007-04-13 14:45:00 Are you being true to yourself? Are you doing what you really want in life? Are you really enjoying life? If you are like most than you probably aren’t being totally true to yourself. So often we make our decisions based on the wants, needs and expectation of others or even of society in general. Who are you and what do you want to do with your life? We don’t always know. The reason we don’t always know is that when the desire comes calling we wipe it out. We send it packing! We feel it, we hear it calling, we know it’s there but it doesn’t fit in with our vision of things. It’s not what you planned or what your parents or some other loved one planned for you. It might take too much work t convince everyone your not crazy to pursue such a dream and so you push it aside. You refuse to give your thought any merit.You continue plugging away secretly wishing for another way of life, something more fulfilling, something more meaningful perhaps or something more suited to your Read more:Authentic
Virginia Tech 2007-04-17 18:41:00 As you all know a horrible shooting occurred yesterday at Virginia
Tech. It’s such a atrocious event and in many ways completely avoidable. I don’t know the mass murderer by any means but I know his anger. It’s an anger that is not all that uncommon for young people. It’s an anger that comes from growing up feeling worthless, unloved, not liked by the majority of your peers. It’s the anger that occurs when one feels that everyone sees them as worthless. It’s not uncommon for it to stir an uprising of the soul. That anger then either turns inward or outward. In this young man’s case it obviously turned outward and he expressed and released his anger on his unsuspecting classmates and professors. Now we as a nation have lost over 30 people because of one man’s rage! And we’ve once again shattered our sense of security. Is there a parent in this country that doesn’t think about this kind of thing often as they send their children off to school? I know I think about i Read more:Virginia Tech
Fear Kills 2007-04-16 17:59:00 Our fear can DESTROY our loved ones lives, and maybe even our own! I know that is a strong statement but its true! Sometimes projecting our fears instead of being supportive and encouraging of our loved ones as described in the earlier two posts can have even more drastic effects then what we already spoke of. When you crush someone’s dream because of your own fears or need to protect they are going to have bad feelings toward you as well. Thinking back I remember my relationship with my ex and of all the things that he did the one thing that really crushed me was when he called me crazy because of the horror novel I was writing at the time. Yes I can write horror too. Difficult to imagine I’m sure but I have a very active imagination and it can take me anywhere and it has. When I told him my secret scene in the book that was going to reach in an grab audiences everywhere. He reacted by calling me crazy. It hurt me deeply. My imagination and my ability to write have always been ce Read more:Kills
How Does One Love Oneself? 2007-04-22 07:17:00 Mark wrote a great post about feeling unworthy and I was inspired then to write this post. How does one love oneself when it seems that no one else does? How does one love oneself when they think that they are worthless or unworthy of love or unworthy of sharing their life with a great partner or having a great job or being happy?How does one move on and love oneself? Several things come to mind. However, lets start with the basics. The very first thing one needs to do to love oneself is to in fact love oneself. Love is an action word and so when I say love I mean actively love yourself. This means making better decisions for yourself and doing nice things for yourself. This means not allowing yourself to hurt yourself or make decisions that would hurt you. To really love oneself one has to practice and practice and practice. It does gets easier with time though I can assure you! Another crucial part to loving yourself is giving yourself a reason to love you, keeping it honest and ha Read more:One Love
Please Help 2007-04-24 06:35:00 Please help my very dear friend's family member out with this! This is a very good cause so I thought I would ask you all to help out too! Please visit here and do what you can! Click on this paragraph to fight against breast cancer. This is a cause near and dear to my heart because I lost a friend to this disease a couple of years ago. Do what you can, every little bit helps! Read more:Please
Self-Worth 2007-04-29 16:03:00 Our sense of self worth affects every aspect of our lives. It affects our jobs, our relationships with everyone, even our hobbies are affected by our sense of self-worth. Our self-worth determines whether we’ll be successful or not and how far we go in our careers. Our sense of self-worth affects what kind of parents we will be and how our children will turn out.Decisions that we make every day are directed by our sense of self-worth. The people we choose to relate with, the decisions to drink, use drugs or smoke cigarettes, the decisions to have sex and with whom and how often, the decision to go to college and earn a degree or to become the President of the United States all come down to your own personal self-worth. Each person has the potential for greatness of some sort. It’s all there inside of each of us. Perhaps it isn’t what you’d imagined it should be, but it is there. It’s difficult to see though to it when your self-worth is clouded by your emotional relationship Read more:Worth
Worthy of Love 2007-04-27 16:08:00 The majority of relationships that fail do so for one main reason, the underlying feeling of unworthiness experienced by one or both partners. Oh relationships have many different ways of ending but when you boil them all down their endings come down to this one element the element of unworthiness. Either we feel unworthy and so we choose people who will not treat us well or we don’t treat our partner well because we are sabotaging what we do have due to our own feelings of unworthiness. Our partners can’t fix our own feelings of unworthiness only we can. I ask you to examine your own life. Are you feeling truly worthy of love? Have you chosen wrong again and again? Are you constantly setting up your relationship to fail? Do you look for trouble? Do you make ridiculous accusations or are you needlessly cranky or nagging toward your partner? Do you snoop through your partners things trying to find something, anything to point toward a wrong doing? Do you find yourself overreacting t Read more:Worthy
Shine 2007-05-01 17:02:00 Just one more word on self-worth. If you increase your own personal self-worth you will indeed be worth more! Think of it as much like owning a house that you want to sell. If you fix it up a little it suddenly increases in value. Well we people are like that too! If we fix a few things here and there about ourselves our value goes up! The wonderful thing is that once you increase your self-worth you can continue to increase it a little bit at a time. What's also important to keep in mind is that your self-worth directly affects the world! Yes, if you don’t feel good about yourself you will undoubtedly send out negative reverberations into the world. What’s more, if you don’t feel good about yourself you will not be all that you can be. You will not shine and the world will lose out on receiving whatever special gift you have to offer the world. So you see your self-worth isn’t just important to you. It is important to all of us! You are the star of your life. Let your inner b Read more:Shine
Lack Of Blogging and Courage 2007-05-04 22:51:00 I must apologize for my lack of posting as of late. Life has been keeping me very busy. What's more I'm writing a book and it's shall keep me very busy for awhile. I hope you will all bear with me as I won't have as much time to devote to this blog or even to all those wonderful blogs that I enjoy reading. I will still visit you all but not as often as I'd like. In the meantime I'll leave with a quote. This philosophy has often gotten me through some tough times. The bravest thing you can do when you are not brave is to professcourage and act accordingly. ~Corra May Harris an American Author- 1869-1935 Read more:Blogging
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