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How Full is Your Glass? 1970-01-01 00:59:59 The other day a girl at work was trying to buy a soda from the vending machine on her break. Unfortunately the machine ate her change and didn't produce the soda. Knowing that this vending machine had a history of the soda getting stuck only to be freed by the next soda purchased she placed another dollar in the machine and still she wasn't able to get the soda. So she did what most people do when all else fails with a vending machine. She shook it! This worked and both sodas fell down. She started telling me all about it. Then she said she was now in a bad mood and her whole night was ruined because of the whole incident. I thought that was a strange thing to say and I told her so. I said, "Why would you be upset? You got your sodas!" "Yeah, but I had to fight for it" "Yeah, but you won!" I offered excitedly."It doesn't matter. I had to fight the machine and now I have two sodas and I only wanted one""Well just save one for tomorrow" I suggested."Yeah, b Read more:Glass
Enforcing the Boundaries 1970-01-01 00:59:59 Another integral part of becoming the change is making sure you keep your boundaries defined. This one trips up a lot of people! You have to decide for yourself what is acceptable behavior and were your own personal boundaries are and then you have to defend your boundaries by not allowing others to get away with stepping over them. This is a very important step because otherwise you allow people to overstep those boundaries and walk all over you. Once someone is walking over you. You lose self respect. Self respect is a crucial element in becoming the change!We all have weak spots in our boundaries. Examine your past to discover where your own weak spots are. Perhaps they are with the opposite sex. Perhaps you allow them to get away with too much once you're in a relationship. Perhaps it's with friends. Perhaps you over extend yourself, finding it too difficult to say, no. Or Perhaps it's with your children who you just can't seem to lay down the law with. Where ever your weak sp Read more:Boundaries
My Intentions 1970-01-01 00:59:59 Because I do deal with serous issues and offer you advice and tools in self-healing I thought that perhaps it was time I made a few things clear. First of all, it is not my intention to replace anyone's professional therapy. If you feel you need that then please seek it! I'm just here to offer some very valuable tools that I've learned to use to heal myself. What's more these are yours for the taking but I wouldn't impose them upon you.I do believe therapy to be highly overrated. I live in the US and it seems that every other person is running off to a therapist and with all that therapy I don't see evidence of a whole lot of healing. My own personal experience has been that therapy did not work for me. However, I did find on my own some tools that worked in my self-healing. I feel we are a nation that coddles people instead of treating them with dignity. All people with the exception of those with serious mental illness or serious mental defect can heal themselves and it
Society's Warped Perspective of an Abused Mind 1970-01-01 00:59:59 I wasn't going to get into this subject here on this blog but it seems that the doors have been opened and so perhaps it is meant to be discussed or brought into light. In an earlier discussion Mark hit a nerve, he didn't intentionally set out to hit this nerve in me but he did and I realized that there was some things that needed to be pointed out. Not pointed out to Mark mind you he was merely an instrument in opening this Pandora's box. To begin one of the problems with a society that uses therapy like a catchall for all of human emotional suffering is that it holds us back. Yes, it weakens us. We believe ourselves to be weaker because we are told that we are weaker. Our minds are a powerful thing we believe what society tells us. Right now society says that if we were abused in any form that we need therapy and it infers that something is amiss with our minds. I'm here to tell you that most of you don't! Most of you have the power to heal yourself. What's more, there is no Read more:Perspective
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Your Advice is Sought 1970-01-01 00:59:59 I wanted to write a little about the girl who I wrote about the other day. This girl isn't all about negative behavior. She is actually quite likable. Oh like anyone she has a few qualities that are unnerving but overall she is funny and can be fun to be around. She also has a heart. She plans to cut off her long beautiful hair for cancer patients. I have to admit that is something I would never be so generous with! So like most people she has good and bad in her. I see her as a challenge. One of my life's lessons perhaps. The trouble is I'm not sure how to approach her or what to say to her to perhaps persuade her to be less negative. The thought occured to me that some of you might be more experienced in such a situation or may have some approach that works well with such individuals. I'm always seeking to learn new things that will bring me further onward in my spiritual journey and in my quest to better myself and our world.So I thought I'd ask you all for ideas. What would yo
Thank the Thankless Help 1970-01-01 00:59:59 The way you treat the hired help speaks volumes about you. Do you thank the waitress? Are you courteous to the check out girl or the bagger boy or how about the guy who collects the carts out in the parking lot at your local grocery store? You know the one who walks through sleet, snow, rain, high winds, bitter cold and horrid heat just to collect your cart! It's easy to forget these people, even easier to ignore them. Imagine how you would feel providing a service for someone and being ignored! Yet for the most part most of these people walk thorough our daily lives almost invisible. Part of becoming the change is understanding that we are all equal here on this planet. We are all special. We all provide something to our world. No one is better or worth more than another regardless of how much money they have or where they were born or who they know or even what their talent is. Movie stars are no more valuable to our society then the garbage man is. How silly that we typically do Read more:Thank
Thank You Kindly 1970-01-01 00:59:59 While we are on the subject of thank you let's talk about just how important that little sentiment is. Some people are very good at saying thank you. Some throw it around without really seeming to feel sincere. Others never say it but may really feel it. When someone thanks us sincerely for some deed we have performed it makes us feel good. It makes us feel appreciated. It's a beautiful parenting skill. If you catch your children doing something good and then thank them for doing it, you have just greatly increased your chances of having them repeat it. The same can be said for your intimate relationships, your working relationships, and just about any of the relationships you can have with another person. Thank
you is a great word for both the people you say it to and for yourself. I always feel good after I've taken the time to tell someone thank you. What's more, is that it's a great way to spread positive reverberations!However, make it sincere. When it's insincere it's mean
Mr Ego 1970-01-01 00:59:59 Many will tell you that in order to find peace and happiness you must shed your ego. I'm here to tell you this just isn't so! Yes, your ego can be a troublesome fellow. Yes, your ego can certainly distract you from your spiritual growth but here's a little secret: Your ego is important!! Not only is he important but he is essential to the growth and well being of mankind! Yes that is right! The real secret to happiness, peace and well-being is learning to balance all parts of ourselves and our lives. Those pesky egos drive us to do unimaginable things, create bigger better things, invent amazing equipment and do great things for our world. Egos get a bad name but just like anything they have a good and a bad side. Stop beating up your ego! Instead embrace him, love him and see what he can bring to your life. Just remember to keep him on a short leash for he is a mischievous little fellow. Oops! Did I say little?
Fuel My Blog 1970-01-01 00:59:59 I just wanted to take a moment to share with you a new great site I have discovered, Fuel My Blog! It's really cool! There is a whole wall of different bloggers and different walls of categories too. You can place your blog there with a tiny picture and become part of the wall while sharing in the fun. Today I'm listed as the Blog of the Day isn't that cool? What's more, you could even wind up on the news, radios or TV shows and you could even win cash! Well we bloggers just don't get that opportunity every day! So while I'm out to change the world Fuel my Blog is out to change the way we bloggers get the word out! Is that cool or what? Check it out and become part of the Great Wall of Blogs! I didn't want you to miss out on such a great blogger opportunity!
Lost Souls 1970-01-01 00:59:59 I read a short while ago that Anna Nicole Smith died. I was saddened to hear this because I thought here was a woman who never reached her potential. She lived a sad life and was side tracked and distracted at every corner. I bring this up merely because Anna Nicole Smith could be anyone of us. We all make choices about our own lives and we all either allow ourselves to become distracted or we move forward and do the things we must do. To me my greatest fear is to leave the earth with my work undone. I've always known I had work. I didn't always know what it was. I think I've managed to obtain a much clearer perspective on that now and I must admit I was very surprised to learn that all of those answers resided inside of me. I wish that I could embrace all of the Anna's out there and hand them what knowledge I've accumulated to help them find their way and reach their potential. There isn't much worse than feeling lost among the distractions of life except maybe never findi Read more:Souls
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You Hold the Magic 1970-01-01 00:59:59 One of the things you can do today to start bringing about positive change to your life is to focus on your dreams, not on your failures. If you want something try not to spend too much time thinking about how you don't have it or your lack of it. Instead think about what you do want. A simple change in focus will change not only your outlook but it will also increase your chances of getting the things in life that you want most. Have you ever heard someone say or perhaps remember yourself saying, The minute I forgot about it, it finally happened.... This is because so often we spend valuable energy counting what we don't have. The more we think about something, the more we attract it. The trouble is we are often too focused on the negative aspect of whatever it is we are thinking about. Life has a lot more magic in it then most people give it credit for and our thinking is our magic wand. Those who are happy living successful lives have learned the secret of the magic wand.But don' Read more:Magic
Act Kindly and Tell 1970-01-01 00:59:59 Today I have a special favor to ask of you. Today I ask that you do something kind for someone else. It doesn't matter how big or how small it doesn't matter who you do it for. Just do it. Then please come back here and tell everyone what that kind act was, the other party's reaction and how the whole thing made you feel. You can post as anonymous if you like but please do tell us about it. I ask you to do this as a means of taking pride in our kind acts. They are wonderful things and we should share them. They have the power to make everyone feel good. So even if you are always very kind I ask you to step outside of your box and do one extra act of kindness for someone.
Purpose Driven 1970-01-01 00:59:59 I was listening to a radio program on my way home from work tonight. They were discussing a book. Forgive me if I don't remember the title but it was something like The PurposeDriven
or something similar sounding to that. In any event the author of the book went out and questioned a bunch of elderly people to find out what their regrets were. This of course makes perfect sense! Who better to ask than elderly people to learn what our own regrets might be if we don't do some serious changing starting today! They came up with three top regrets. The drum roll please…I don't necessarily know the order of these but the top three regrets of the elderly were1. They wish that they would have reflected upon their lives more instead of getting caught up in the daily things.2. They wish that they would have taken more risks in their careers and their relationships.3. The wish that they had stopped and figured out their purpose in life. I found this quite interesting though not all that su Read more:Purpose Driven
Anger Monsters 1970-01-01 00:59:59 Today's topic is about monsters. Yes monsters! In particular a little monster that lives inside all of us all. Anger. Anger is often a wild card. We never know when it will show up or where it will lead us once it does. It's an out of control monster that can be so ugly that it forces some to commit unspeakable acts.Anger is no stranger to me. In fact, when I was a young girl I had a temper to the point where I remember beating up my bike with a wrench when I couldn't fix it. There is a funny story to that bike. I had ordered a three speed and had received a ten speed with three speed handlebars. Consequently, I could never get the gears to sit on the bike properly and this caused all types of problems. However, when I received the bike and realized it was a ten speed I wouldn't bring it back. Why? Because at the time ten speeds cost a lot more money than three speed bikes, so I thought I was getting a deal. Even though a little voice inside of me told me I was wrong and accep
Today's Thoughts 1970-01-01 00:59:59 Today I leave you with these beautiful thoughts because the creator of this piece said it all so beautifully! Read more:Today
Kindness Movement 1970-01-01 00:59:59 Here is another great slide show to visit. The kindness Movement This one is brought to you by Pam over at Make the Most of U A really great blog that I read daily when possible! Read more:Kindness
Recap 1970-01-01 00:59:59 Every once and awhile I like to recap what I've already talked about here and break it down to simple terms. So let's recap then. Shall we?If you want to change the world you have to that change. If you want to bring peace and happiness into the world you have become peaceful and happy. You become peaceful and happy by healing yourself. We all have scars, we all have healing that needs to be done. When we ignore our healing we tend to end up with even more pain and even more scars. When we do not heal our past pains we often end up repeating the similar acts that led to our original pain or we tend to over correct causing other types of pain. Either way the result is more pain! So it's imperative that we work on healing our past pains. For the most part we need to learn to forgive. Forgive those who have hurt us, no matter how big the hurt. Forgive all and stay mindful that we are all human. We all make mistakes, we all on occasion allow our human form to have it's way ignoring Read more:Recap
Control 1.1 1970-01-01 00:59:59 One of the reasons we sometimes hold onto anger is because we want the other person to be different, to change or just think differently. We may not even realize this consciously but it can lie there in the back corners of our minds haunting our lives. This stems from a hidden desire to control our world. The sad part is all that hanging on waiting for this miraculous change is futile. The other person isn't suddenly going to see your side and understand your pain and come to your way of thinking. That's not to say that someday they can't have some wonderful moment of clarity but the odds are pretty darned good that its not going to happen at least not any time soon. The other party is not going to change and you're going to be left filled with the same old anger that you're just not willing to let go of.If you find yourself fighting against giving up your anger stop and ask yourself, what's going on here? What am I feeling? Why is holding on to my anger so important to me Read more:Control
Positive Anger vs. Negative Anger 1970-01-01 00:59:59 Matty read my last post and seemed to get a bit angry about it. This was difficult for me to understand but then I thought about it and realized that she was not clearly understanding what I was saying about anger. So in an effort to not be misunderstood I thought perhaps I need to start defining anger here as negative and positive anger because there are in fact two types. The negative causes us to do negative things. The negative holds us back. The negative hurts others. The positive anger however, causes us to make changes to fight for causes or for the ones we love. Good anger makes us stand up for ourselves and not let others hurt or take advantage of us or the ones we love. So to be clear in my last post I was referring to negative anger. Negative
anger like I felt for many years. I couldn't move forward. I was stuck. What happened to my negative anger? Well I went though a great deal of healing and I transformed my anger. Now my anger is a positive anger! Now it wants to stand Read more:Positive
It's Up to You! 1970-01-01 00:59:59 As was demonstrated here on this blog anger seems to be a very explosive topic! Is it no wonder that it is such a powerful emotion? The fresher the wound the harder it is to heal from it. Then again the older it is and more we pick at it the harder it is not to leave horrible scars. The point I am trying to make about anger is that you don't have to hold onto the negative anger. You don't have to allow it to ruin your life. You don't have to be a victim to your own anger! You can turn your anger around. Let me give you some little examples to how I have transformed my anger at various times in my life. One time when I first left my ex I had moved into a new apartment on the not so nice side of town. It was all I could afford at the time. While out grocery shopping someone broke into our house and stole our stereo. When I came home I was very upset! I felt so violated. How dare someone break in my house and steal my stereo! How dare they steal from someone already destitute! I c
Full Rich Flavorful Life 1970-01-01 00:59:59 So what can you do to be happy? Well the first thing you can do is make the choice to be happy. Say out loud I will be happy. Feel that one for a moment and then say, I am happy! It's really and truly a matter of believing! If you believe yourself to be happy then you will be.Other things you can do to nurture your happiness is be nice to others. Do nice things that make others feel good. It makes you feel so wonderful inside and gloriously happy. Do nice things for yourself. Listen to nice music read great stuff surround yourself with the things you love. Take a walk in a beautiful park, visit a friend who makes you smile. Engage yourself in the things that you love to do. Paint, draw, write build model cars or whatever it is that you enjoy doing. All these things will nurture your happiness! You are responsible for your happiness. If you aren't happy you have no one to blame but yourself. Now I know that sometimes bad things happen and sometimes we are sad for periods of time. Th Read more:Flavorful
Ship Ahoy! 1970-01-01 00:59:59 Is your intimate relationship lacking? Are you unhappy? Can you run down a list of things that really and truly are wrong with your partner? Well if you can it's time to make a new list. After all, you can sit around and blame your partner but you are the one that allowed you to get involved in that relationship in the first place and you are the one who allows it to continue.We tend to spend too much time focusing on what other people do wrong. We need to understand we are the captain of our own ship! We are responsible for our voyage! If you have allowed your ship to be manned by others or worse left it a drift you have no one to blame for where it ends up but yourself!The great news is there is still time to take control. Grab that wheel and navigate your way into happiness and success! Start right now! Today! Don't let another moment go by without your hands upon that wheel. Ship Ahoy!
The Secret 2007-03-01 18:41:00 I once wrote an essay on how as a child the world held magic and for some reason as an adult the magic was lost. This was a mystery to me. However, this week the mystery revealed itself to me! I’ve been reading The Secret this week and suddenly that old magic that I knew mostly as a child made sense! The magic was there as a child. I wished and my wishes were so often granted! Silly wishes really but still I received them! However, in my teenage years I fell into a major depression and stayed that way for years. That’s when the magic left for the most part. I destroyed my own magic with my sadness and depressed mood. For years I attracted bad things, horrible things! For years I was hurt, mistreated and the saddest girl I’ve ever known. When I changed my mood. Things began to change for me. I attracted better and better things. I had spent years jailing myself and never even realized it! I’m so happy that the magic is coming back into my life at warped speed!There were momen
Imperfections A Plenty 2007-03-04 06:27:00 The great thing about changing the world is that we don’t have to have any great knowledge or be anything “special” I say that lightly because we are all special but that is another subject for a different day. We don’t have to do any great deed to change the world. We merely have to heal ourselves, be kind toward others and be kind to ourselves. Easy enough. Right? Well one would think so anyway. However, healing ourselves is perhaps the hardest part! What’s worse is that for some, they will never dare even face the truth about themselves as if seeing themselves for less than perfect would somehow destroy them. I’m not sure why looking at one’s self is so painful for some but it surely is. Those are the people I worry about the most. Because those are the ones that will never be at peace.We should never be afraid of the truth about our shortcomings. We are all human. We all make mistakes. None of us are perfect! Forgive yourself for not being perfect. Don’t be afraid o Read more:Plenty
Abuse-Want to Do Something to Change It? 2007-03-07 17:11:00 To some degree we are all responsible for child abuse! We are all responsible for all the abuses of the world. Is that difficult for you to believe? I do understand that it would be. However, as I've pointed out many times the negative reverberations we send out into the world do not stop with the person we direct them to. What's more, even then we don't know what the intended will do with his anger once we pass it on to him either. Perhaps he will simply learn and change his behavior, doubtful though. No, odds are he'll just take his anger out on someone else. It's the old proverbial go home and kick the dog that we are talking about here! Only I’m taking it a step further in that I’m asking you not just to acknowledge it but to do something about it! Until we make changes, until we heal ourselves and work to stop sending out all of the negative reverberations that we send we will remain responsible! Yes, there is a distinction between actually laying your hands on a victim Read more:Change
Nickelback - If Everyone Cared. 2007-03-09 01:42:00 I found this on Matt's blog, Empathy and I just had to have it too! Nickelback is my all-time favorite band and I'm so thrilled to see them doing this. So be sure to go over and visit Matt to show your appreciation for finding this gem! He's a great read! He's worth the click! Read more:Everyone Cared
Love, Hate and Tolerance 2007-03-09 17:31:00 Mark wrote a very excellent post yesterday. He wrote: The Proliferation of Hate and What You Can Do About It. Something in the article really struck a chord with me because I’ve had similar feelings and have said so for years and that is about the word tolerance. I hate that word! Why should we merely tolerate others when we can forgive them for their differences and love them? Why preach tolerance it doesn’t really fix anything. It’s not tolerance that we need it’s LOVE! It doesn’t matter rather you are black, white, yellow; Jewish, Christian, Muslim; Arab, American, or French What matters is that we are all HUMANKIND and we need to love and respect one another. So what if we think different? If we all thought the same way what a horribly boring place this would be! We all think differently for a reason! We all have a place here on this earth. We all share a purpose. Just as I’ve found a purpose in bringing you information on healing yourself and changing the world so ha Read more:Tolerance
The Magnificant Garden 2007-03-11 05:32:00 Imagine if all of the flowers in the world were just one color. What would color our world come springtime? Imagine if all of the flowers of the world were daisies. We planted a garden of our beautiful white daisies and then one day after years of enjoying the pretty white daisies a violet sprouted and with that violet some sisters. Now the gardens were white and purple. So much prettier than when they were just white. Then one day a sunflower sprouted tall and bright with the power to make us smile at first glance. Oh how beautiful our garden has grown. So much prettier now then when it was just white and purple.One fine sunny day a rosebush sprouted and before we knew it beautiful red flowers lined the back of our garden and the scent was heavenly. Our garden was so much prettier than the early days when all the world had were white daisies! It seemed that every time we turned around there were new flowers and new colors being added to our garden until finally the garden grew to cont Read more:Garden
Give a Man a Fish... 2007-03-12 05:23:00 Balance should always be one’s goal. All things in our life work best when properly balanced. This brings me to my next point. As much as I stress the importance of being kind that doesn’t mean that you should allow anyone to walk all over you or abuse you. To be at your optimum best , emotionally and spiritually you have to achieve a balance of kindness and self respect and responsibilty. Being kind NEVER means allowing others to take advantage of your kindness or to use your kindness. What’s more sometimes kindness means holding back and not doing for others. Always remember: If you give a man a fish he’ll eat for the night If you teach a man to fish he’ll eat for the rest of his life When I was a young girl, 16 years old to be precise I discovered an old man eating from a garbage can in front of a local diner. It broke my heart! I gave the man five dollars which today would probably be like giving him $20 and I went inside to meet a friend. When I came back out I saw the
Gifts 2007-03-15 17:27:00 For me the life lesson that I wrote about in my last post was a life-changing event though it took some time for that change to transpire. I could no longer doubt the existence of something bigger than myself. There was something that knew much more than I and that cared enough to teach me what is right, but allowed me the freedom to do as I pleased or at the very least there was some kind of magic to the world.One could take this experience and attribute it to the laws of attraction, no doubt. Whatever, the case may be there is something far greater than us and something magical in this world. There is a rhyme and a reason to the world far beyond our understanding. To this I am one hundred percent certain. There is so much that we don't know, so much for us to learn and so much that will probably never be revealed to us while here on earth. One thing I do know though is that we need to respect what we have! We need to be a good steward to our planet and to each other. We need to be Read more:Gifts
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