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Advice Column: Nice Guys 2007-12-25 02:34:51 Q: Why aren’t nice guys ever good enough? If a guy is always around when you need him, if he’s always paying for things for you, holding doors open, ect. Do you ever wonder if he likes you? Maybe even loves you? Or are girls just taking advantage of him, because they expect it from him?
Please enlighten me! I’m just as curious as the next guy.
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A: Coincidentally, I just recently read a passage in an e-book sent by an acquaintance PUA that dealt with this. Here’s a simple explanation for you, and a lot of this is just information found in this book. Read The Blueprint by Owen Cook when it comes out.
When a guy comes who just throws himself at a woman, he isn’t displaying high value. And that’s what men and women ultimately care about - value. Because high value in a man signals to us that he is fit to reproduce. This doesn’t necessarily mean money or looks. It means social val Read more:Column
Conformity 2007-12-25 01:55:19 An interesting (and hilarious) video displaying the importance that people place on conformity and fitting in.
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Making Fines Fair 2007-12-24 03:41:37 HHRay and I got into a debate today. We talked about demerit points and fines for getting caught for irresponsible driving of some sort - drunk driving, speeding, etc etc. Something you’re not allowed to do on the road. We started talking about fines and how they impact wealthy and poor people. Say the set fine for some kind of misbehavior is $500. And every person they stop for that misbehavior has to pay $500. Well, some poor person will pay that $500 and not be able to pay his rent next week. A millionaire pays $500 and commits the same thing the next day because $500 out of his pocket, to him, is nothing. So poor people are impacted greatly by that fine and rich people don’t think twice about it. How is that helping? It’s just telling us that rich people can get away with more than poor people can.
I suggested that maybe there should be a fine based on a percentage instead of a static amount of dollars. For example, say the amount the person would have to pay migh
Setting Boundaries 2007-12-21 23:33:50 Let’s talk about boundaries. Every woman should set her own boundaries as to what is acceptable to her in a relationship. Now, that isn’t to say that you shouldn’t explore and perhaps expand those boundaries in the future. Boundaries
can be useful to make sure that you don’t get sucked into a relationship that you are not happy with - a relationship that you are so attached and dependent on, that you are willing to put up with things that make you unhappy.
I suggest making a list of things that you absolutely would not accept in a relationship and let your partner know this. You can’t expect him to know what your boundaries are unless you reveal them to him clearly through your words or actions.
For example, here are two common boundaries in relationships:
- I will not accept physical or emotional infidelity.
- I will not put up with physical or emotional abuse.
Now, sitting down with your partner and handing him a list may work…but I bet you can fi Read more:Setting
The Moment of Truth 2008-03-11 07:25:08 There’s a fairly new show out there called The Moment
of Truth
. Each participant takes a lie detector test before the show, answering lots of different questions. To win money, all the participant has to do is answer these same questions truthfully in front of thousands of people. From my understanding of it, the participant [...]
The More I Learn 2008-03-10 08:04:12 I recently ran across this quote in the signature of a user at the Virtual Humans Forum and really loved it:
“The more I learn, the more I learn how little I know”
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The Chatterbox Challenge 2008-03-10 06:27:22 It’s that time of the year again. The Chatterbox Challenge
is about to kick off its 2008 competition and my online chat bot is competing for the 4th year running. I don’t expect to win, I mostly put work into him only near this time of the year, but I hope he’ll put in a [...]
Badge for Meeee 2008-03-10 05:36:19 Here’s the badge I got for being picked as an Entrecard Favorite. I love it ;D
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Finally, a Perfect Heel! 2008-03-09 04:02:45 Keeda is now a year and 9 months old and while she was OK with heeling before, there was always excited pulling involved at least a couple of times on our walks to the park and back, especially when another dog would pass by.
I tried everything I could think of - bringing a spray bottle [...] Read more:Finally
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Baby Liza Photos 2008-03-08 22:44:58 I was flipping through my old old old baby photo album. It came all the way from Ukraine. And as I was looking at pictures of my grandparents’ summerhouse I started to really miss Ukraine. Here’s a short video of me when I was little :).
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She’s F*cking Matt Damon 2008-03-08 22:12:47 Sarah Silverman fucked Matt Damon
So Jimmy Kimmel did Ben Affleck.
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Entrecard Favorites 2008-03-08 19:58:37 Everybody should check out Entrecard Favorites, a blog on which Lady Rose picks her favorite Entrecard blog every day. I have the honor of Vanilla Soup being today’s favorite.
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Safer With a Dog 2008-03-07 05:54:48 Keeda makes me feel safe. It’s dark out and I was walking her in the big park at the back of the neighborhood. It’s pretty spacey and empty there as the houses around the area have yet to be built, it’s an expanding neighborhood. Only half of the park is illuminated, and even that doesn’t [...]
Bolzano 2008-03-07 04:48:10 I have found my dream handbag. It’s called the Lucia Clutch by Bolzano. Bolzano offers a huge collection of fashion handbags at competitive prices. Every single design looks awesome and unique. Bolzano has store locations all over the U.S., particularly in the Southeast. The company boasts a quality guarantee as well as offers repair [...]
Night-Time Orchestra 2008-03-13 02:26:12 We have new neighbors. I haven’t met them yet, but guess what. They have a dog. A small dog, by the sound of her. And from what my mom said, she’s got quite a sound last night. I wasn’t here, so all of this is from my mom’s perspective.’
…night. Everyone in the house is in [...] Read more:Night
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CMYK and Spot color. 2008-03-12 21:56:16 I want to write this down as fast as possible so I don’t forget. We learned about RGB, CMYK, and Spot colors in our Illustrator class yesterday and I didn’t take any notes, so I’m writing them here because I just want to show off my great knowledge :D.
RGB: (red, green, blue ) Light. Used [...]
JB Weekend 2008-03-16 09:07:05 My lack of posting can be explained by me working my butt off all weekend. Work on Friday night, then all day Saturday and Sunday. I’m getting paid to go to a festival which I would normally have to pay $200 to go to. Yeah, I can’t believe it, either. It was lots of fun, [...] Read more:Weekend
Tom Cheats 2008-03-17 22:18:59 As if Katie Holmes didn’t have to deal with enough crap with Tom’s Scientology thing, he was now caught kissing a mystery blonde. Not only that, but there are rumors that Tom Cruise chose Katie to be his wife through an audition process which was organized by some of his Scientology buddies. Poor Katie. Her [...]
Suppressing Interests 2008-03-20 23:13:56 Girls often feel the need to suppress their true interests and desires because society portrays these interests as unattractive traits. For example, computer games. Some people feel that women playing computer games is weird, antisocial, lame, and so on and so forth. Well you know what? I love computer games and I’ll talk about them [...] Read more:Interests
Atomship 2008-03-20 06:03:09 I remember, when I was living in Alabama and doing some web design for a local recently-signed band, being very much interested in the local music. I heard and met local bands through the band I was designing for. If it was not for this band, I would have never heard of Atomship. Atomship was [...]
1:12AM 2008-03-19 11:14:11 I have allowed my blogging frequency to slip lately. Not because I don’t have time, but because I don’t feel as if I owe it to anyone to post here when I don’t feel like it. I’m not getting paid to do this, you know? There have even been things to tell, but I chose [...]
Ridiculous Marriage Contract 2008-03-22 23:03:41 Wow. Just wow. An Iowa man is being charged with attempted kidnapping of his own wife. The man apparently created a 4-page contract for his wife, outlining rules that she is to live by. Such rules as having to sleep naked, being his personal sex slave, and wearing g-strings instead of regular panties 24/7 (he [...]
Boyfriendly Expectations 2008-03-24 02:01:37 In honor of the Wifely Expectations written by the Iowa man (details in post below), I have created my own document. Boyfriendly Expectations, for HHRay. I think they’re quite reasonable, don’t you?
BOYFRIENDLY EXPECTATIONS
For purposes of clarification:
You or any form of it will refer to *HHRay*
I or any form of it will refer to *Liza S.*
HYGIENE [...]
Spirited Away 2008-03-25 18:53:13 Everyone says you’re amazing now that you’re cleeeeean
Only you know who the real ones are cause you’ve seeeeeen
I’m listening to my Myspace profile song, Amazing by Seal.
HHRay and I watched an anime cartoon a few days ago, called Spirited Away. It was surprisingly good! I don’t know how they come up with these awesome, completely [...]
I Bought a Cactus - two, actually 2008-03-28 01:43:52 On the way home from TAFE today I stopped by the flower shop in the train station. I’ve been keeping an eye on it since I started TAFE and decided that it was time to make one of those impulsive feel-good purchases. I bought HHRay a cactus. It’s pretty big - not like to my [...] Read more:Cactus
Boredom 2008-03-27 21:59:50 I’m at TAFE, photoshopping a creased and ripped photograph of an old couple, making their faces more aesthetically pleasing, and placing them on top of a relevant background.At least that’s what I’m meant to be doing. I’m here instead, writing about it. I’d better get back at it :(
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The Glass Ceiling 2008-03-30 21:23:12 I haven’t posted on this topic in a while. Gender roles. Women nowadays like to believe that beat into others’ heads that they are equal to men on every level. This is true to some point. We rightfully deserve the same political rights, our opinions rightly have the same impact in voting ballots as do [...] Read more:Glass
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Awesomeness of Asian food 2008-04-02 07:16:39 Today I found out that sushi isn’t even Japanese, but was invented in California or something :S I dunno, don’t take my word for it. It still seems Asian
to me, so I will continue to think of it as an exotic, wonderful Japanese delicacy.
And don’t even mention honey chicken to me, I will drool [...]
Sushi and Astrology 2008-04-02 06:51:42 First, I tried sushi for the second time in my life today. Not the crappy school canteen sushi that repulsed me on my first attempt, but real sushi from a friend’s mom’s restaurant. It was so unbelievably good! I mean WOW. I think I will be living off of this stuff from now on. And [...] Read more:Sushi
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Dinner Night 2008-04-07 07:18:05 I’m at HHRay’s, helping him to cook dinner. Tonight is his first dinner night - he got some plastic containers off of my mom and will now be cooking a huge batch of various foods periodically, freezing them, then microwaving him when he gets hungry. This way, he says, he will not have to cook [...] Read more:Night
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