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Getting A Divorce 2007-10-11 10:35:00 Keep cheating or divorce?Chrystal, a married woman with three children, writes, "I have been having an affair for over two years. I can't decide if I should divorce my husband and be with my lover. No one knows yet about the affair. I don't want to lose my kids and I don't want a big mess on my hands."Your question makes it pretty clear that you don't love your husband and our position on this matter has been very clear. There is absolutely no reason to be in a relationship when there is no love. You will need to decide one way or the other because otherwise you will not only have a lot of mess on your hands, you might also lose custody of your children.Here are a few questions for you to ask yourself and your lover before you decide your next steps:1. Does your lover wants to marry you?2. Will your lover be happy with the relationship if you keep custody of your children?3. Do you want to marry him?4. What will be the likely reaction of your husband when you ask for a divorce?5. W
How To Save Your Marriage? 2007-10-11 10:28:00 Only when the couple works together, can the marriage be savedWhen a couple has problems within less than 7 years of a marriage, there is serious problem ahead. I picked up this number based on several studies that show that first seven years of a marriage are generally very good. It is only after that things might go off-trackSo when Eddie tells me that just after two and a half years he is having some major issues with his marriage, I can imagine where this relationship is going. He says, "I think there is no hope. I don't think my wife is attracted to me at all. I have tried everything that you have suggested in your articles and more. I am slowly but surely going completely and utterly insane."Why do women lose interest in their men?Despite the world changing completely in last 50 years or so, women have not changed their perceptions of marriage and husband. Vast majority of women are still stuck in that dream world where the Prince Charming comes, sweeps you off your feet, and ca
How To Be Nice To Women? 2007-10-11 10:08:00 Yes, dear men. You have to learn to be nice to women in your life not only because you are providing the women with an excuse to find a loving relationship with someone else but also because that is what brings joys to both of you.Let me share a story with you. Neil and Mary are a couple in their 60s and live in London. I have known them for a couple of years and consider them to be good friends. We both share something in common - a link with Japan. I have lived in Japan while Neil and Mary host Japanese students in their home so that they can learn English. Mind you, they have yet to go to Japan but they seem to have learned a lot about Japan from spending months with their Japanese students.Apart from dozens of stories that the couple shares with me, I was rather surprised hear this one from them:"Yet another cute daughter of the great land of Japan, unhappy with her life, but not knowing quite what to do about it. My God, Japanese guys really don't seem to appreciate their womenfo Read more:Women
Confessions of A Woman About Love And Desire For Her Boyfriend 2007-10-10 15:14:00 Quest of a woman in her 30s to find the man of her dreamsI was becoming more and more intimate with Don in terms of sharing my feelings. I had started talking to him about things that I had never talked to anyone before – mostly about how I felt. I was discovering a new dimension of human communication. For me, it was interesting to see how I could open up to Don more than I would to any of my other friends. I felt even stranger to look at my behavior because Don was a man. I thought the reason I could do this because he was ‘not’ what a typical boyfriend ‘is.’ I had heard that women behave differently in front of their first boyfriends. They do things that they would not with other friends.I talked to Don about the feelings that had been piling up inside me for several years now. I honestly shared with him my feelings on a daily basis. I would tell him how uneasy I felt on certain days and wished that I were just with someone who will twist every muscle in my body. I told Read more:Desire
Playful Relationship With Your Partner 2007-10-10 15:10:00 Quest of a woman to find a man of her dreams after she is over 30I had touched Don before, even though briefly and it was not in any intimate areas. Well, probably not true! Don and I held hands when we met and it was hard for me to consider it as a big deal but it was also difficult to ignore the sensation that I felt long after it was over. So when Don hugged me on arrival, it was like a fire had been re-ignited after being dormant for weeks. I just wanted to touch Don all over and wished that I could feel his whole body on top of mine. How could I tell him so? He was being very romantic and I felt nice to cuddle next to him as I tried to drink my coffee. Don did not stop teasing me in a playful manner. While I was getting redder with embarrassment, I did enjoy his pulling my legs. It was all so innocent and made me laugh all the time. At some point, Don and I entered into a discussion about the reluctance of politicians to initiate restructuring of the economic system. He was very Read more:Partner
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How To Find A Boyfriend? 2007-10-10 15:06:00 Most of the time we are being ourselves and that is good - it is not easy being someone else. It does not mean, though, that we should not try to change our behavior, particularly if it is not the best one. While your behavior has a huge role to play in how you do at work, it can also have a huge impact in another important part of life - relationships.Let us take the case of 19-year old Lisa, who thinks that she is attractive, cheerful, stylish, and friendly, but still has never had a boyfriend. She writes, “Maybe I act a little too hyper all the time? I don’t know. And I’m a Christian, if that could be an issue with some guys. But, my theory why guys want no relationship with me is that I’m kind of an A-cup. You know, I’m kind of small up there.But, I don’t know if that has anything to do with it, but it might. And I have a really loud laugh. Am I not good enough for the jock kind of people, because I don’t do any sports or anything like that? But I’m really smart….
How To Approach Japanese Women? 2007-10-10 06:44:00 Be sensitive, patient, and charming Jack goes to university that also happens to have a Japanese
girl, Ayumi, in his class. "She is a friend of a friend of mine. I have always thought Japanese girls had the looks after I visited Iwaki in Fukushima, but this one she is the complete package. She comes from that city I visited. She is rich and enjoys sports like me.All her boyfriends she has had here have been Japanese but I can sense something between us, either a stronger friendship or there is something there she cannot see. When your article said do not pickup a Japanese woman at a public place I had an enormous culture scare, so I do not know what do to. I am looking to have a relationship with her. I don't think she is a goukon ((an event where one girl and one guy bring their friends in hopes some of them hook up) person so that idea is off too! Please help!" It is good that Jack has not done something stupid yet; otherwise his chances would have been over a long time ago. Read more:Women
Myths About Japanese Women 2007-10-10 06:30:00 How to date a Japanese
?I am a Canadian man and was teaching in the Tokyo area for a year. I met Rumiko towards the end of my stay there. While I only have one experience to share, it does help in dispelling some of the myths about Japanese women that are widely prevalent. Hopefully, my account will point to exceptions that exist and how Japanese women may not really be the stereotypes that we are made to believe.Myth #1: Japanese women are shyWhen I met Rumiko through an online ad, I found her to be very conservative, professional, and proper – everything one would think a professional salaried woman working in Tokyo would espouse. However, when it came to making the first move, Rumiko surprised me. She took out her business card, presented it to me, and said rather forcefully, “Call me”. Intrigued, I e-mailed her and she immediately invited me out to dinner with her and a friend. At dinner she presented me with a small gift. I later found out that this was her first sign of af Read more:Myths
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Want To Be A Chick Magnet? 2007-10-10 06:16:00 How to make any woman want youIf you are middle-aged or older man, put yourself on the market. Consider some plastic surgery, dye your hair, visit a cosmetic dentist, start a diet, visit the gym more often, spruce up your wardrobe, and give your apartment/bedroom a makeover. Be cool and confident. Don’t get upset with other people while you are with her. It’s embarrassing and undermines your “gentleman” image.Age difference is less of an issue even if that whisky you're drinking is older than she is.Don't be quid pro quo. Tell her you are looking for exciting dialogue and mean it.Everyone’s so busy you need three girlfriends to get two dates a week.Once you have one girlfriend, offers come out of the woodwork.If the conversation is going nowhere, realize it’s her, not you. So cut your losses.Don't be disappointed if she is uninformed on international affairs. That's what watching only Fox News does to you.Remember she has to sell the new man in her life to fri Read more:Magnet
How To Seduce Women? 2007-10-10 06:09:00 Find them, do the right things, and go for itWhen I teach men how to seduce women, I get them to work on three things: 1. Getting as many women in their lives as possible, meeting them, talking to them and having them somewhere in their "seduce women" radius. 2. Content - What to say, how to flirt, and how to be funny when these women are around. 3. Confidence - How to be the person you want to be and not get nervous. This makes it a lot easier to achieve 1 & 2 above.In order to seduce women, you need to know where to meet them. If you don't meet any women, then you won't be able to seduce any as there are none in your life!It is extremely difficult to seduce a women that you meet on the street. To make things easier, you need to have a place that you can go to reliably, to meet eligible women. For example, a good deer shooter, for instance, doesn’t just go to any forest to shoot deer — he knows where the best forests are, and that’s where he goes.If one forest isn’ Read more:Women
Should You Wait If You Really Love A Man? 2007-10-09 07:04:00 So many things have to go right in a relationship for it to work that it is almost amazing that we have relationships and that they work. One of the common challenges that couples face is related to long-distance relationships. Another one is when one partner is ready to commit but the other is not. It is not that he or she is not committed to the person but she/he just does not want to say the big YES because of the timing.Margaret in Sedona, Arizona, has been dating a wonderful guy for about two years now. She is already settled down with a good job and two kids from a previous marriage. He is still in college and has two more years to go. Tells me that they both love each other and can't imagine a life without each other, but her boyfriend wants to wait till he graduates and has a career before he ties the knot. She says, "He does say that we have a future. It is just believing him. Do I wait for two years until he is done with his school? And think that things will work out for us
How To Seduce Anyone? 2007-10-09 06:49:00 Hypnotism provides a few excellent choices for seductionI tried to learn more about hypnotism merely out of curiosity. I was trying to help my clients find ways to better influence the object of their dreams. A large number of the men who were coming to me were apparently doing everything right but were not having success in being able to penetrate the heart of the women they liked. Many of them were getting hit on in bars and parties. Most would have tremendous success in being able to talk to women or going out on dates. Some even got physical. However, they did not find the secret door to their dream-girl's heart. Don't you think that the word hypnotism is hypnotic? As I learnt more about hypnotic techniques, I was introduced to its potential in relationships with people. I found that in those situations where you were at a disadvantage either due to status or power, hypnotism could be used to level the playing field. So I started to exploit hypnotic techniques at w Read more:Anyone
Consequences of Adultery 2007-10-09 06:45:00 How to response when your partner is unfaithful?Summary: Adultery
can cause enormous damage to a relationship and in today's world where it is so hard to find a decent relationship to destroy one's relationship by being unfaithful is just not the right thing to do. In this series of articles, we have already discussed the consequences of adultery, what happens when one partner violates trust and becomes unfaithful, how to deal with adultery, and that adultery destroys relationships and causes break-ups/divorces. We will now discuss how to respond when you find that your partner is unfaithful.Ensure that you have solid proof or accurate information. Calm down, painful as it may be, and confront your partner when he gets home. Don’t follow her/him to the office or in a public place. If he she denies it, show them the proof. Truth is powerful. I tell you that they will be hit and confess. Don’t react negatively, but stay calm and say, “I need time and space to think about this
When Is A Marriage Over? 2007-10-09 06:30:00 Nothing saddens me more than a story where a man has simply given up on his relationship and completely frustrated his partner. If it happens because the spouse is overweight or is unwilling to put in what it takes to keep the relationship strong, I can understand, but when it happens because of any other reason, then there is no excuse. Not even when the man suffers from erectile dysfunction.Let us review Karen's case. She writes, "I'm a woman that is not fat, and there is nothing wrong with my libido. I do everything for my husband - all the farm work even the building. He sleeps on the couch, we never make love, he never hugs me, kisses me or associates with me at all but yells at me. I go to my room watch TV alone.I see him 2 hours a day; that's it. I can't cheat on him no matter what. I hate those vows, for better or worse. I'm the one with depression. What's up with this marriage? I have talked with him about it and he gives me an excuse, maybe it's my eye sight that I fal
Men Positively Inclined Towards Plastic Surgery 2007-10-08 03:47:00 We knew it was coming: Men now want to have perfectly shaped bodies like women. No fat in the wrong places, no love handles, and no big noses or weird looking ears. To summarize - men want to go under the knife so that they can look younger and better, like their spouses and girlfriends, according to a survey by Lindisima Latinas.Almost three-quarters of men have a positive attitude toward cosmetic plastic surgery, according to a recent American Society of Plastic
Surgeon’s (ASPS) online survey. Of the 1,065 men polled, 74 percent said they approved of cosmetic plastic surgery for themselves or others, while only 11 percent disapproved and 15 percent were undecided.This is in line with the feedback that MYNIPPON and LuvCube have received. We also found that those men whose partner had plastic surgery were five times more likely to get a procedure done themselves. In our survey, one procedure that men had almost as a hobby was Botox injections.The trend is driven by two factors: an lo Read more:Positively
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Should Men Wear Lingerie? 2007-10-08 03:38:00 Does it have to be feminine underwear?It is still very controversial if men should simply wear boxers and white undershirts in the bedroom or opt for something more exotic, in other words, lingerie. The camp is divided. Many women are appalled by the idea that men will even consider wearing something else. They suspect that any men who do so or even contemplate the idea are not "men." No wonder that folks like Larry are terrorized. "I am a 21 year old male from Sydney and have been wearing g-strings (as they are called over here!) secretly since I was about 15. My last long term girlfriend found out I wore them and I almost died, but she didn't mind and went on to buy them for me and even take me shopping for them!! My current girlfriend does not know but hopefully she will soon. I know people would think I'm gay and I probably wouldn't mind not being obsessed with them but I've tried to stop wearing them and I can't. They are comfortable and taboo, both keeping me in them!!" h Read more:Lingerie
Tips For Men To Improve Their Looks 2007-10-08 03:19:00 Basic skincare and personal care is enough to get startedHoward writes, “I think that my looks are affecting how I am perceived at work and how women treat me. I am a hardworking, educated professional (you can call me a nerd), but dress very simple and beyond shaving, I hardly do anything else. I find that some of my peers at work who have been on the fast track are all smartly dressed while I prefer my flannel shirts and khakis. I am also completely ignored in bars at parties by women who tend to gravitate towards men in stylish clothes. What can I do to become like one of these guys?”Yes, of course, it might come across as more intimidating than learning a new programming language, but below are a few simple tips to get started. You may not look like George Clooney at the Golden Globes award ceremony, but you will look far more attractive than you currently do:Trip to the spa or medspa: Have a facial along with a hair cut. The esthetician will also recommend products for y Read more:Improve
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How To Find Out If A Man Likes You? 2007-10-08 03:07:00 As anyone can attest, there is nothing worse than a crush, particularly if it happens when you are no longer a teenager. I remember when I got a crush on this blonde in my class in grad school and I simply could not sleep for weeks. And I never got the courage to tell her that I liked her. I even sent her a note with a hint (but not my name) and hoped that she would somehow figure it all out and smile at me. She never did.But let us see what Carrie is going through. She is 32 years old and has a serious crush on a co-worker, who is 24. She tells me, "We've been "hanging out" for several months. We have not even kissed or held hands, but it's clear he enjoys my company, values my opinion, and admires my work. He's got lots of traits I like too, granted he's not as mature as I'd like, but that's not his fault. The thing is, he has a girlfriend. He calls her his "best friend" not his girlfriend, but it's obvious he cares for her.I have been encouraging and supportive of their relat
Should You Take Your Ex Back? 2007-10-08 02:48:00 How to make sure that you take him back on your termsAfter 5 years since her divorce from James, her former husband and father of her two sons, Jane’s life had finally stabilized and she was enjoying her new found appreciation of life. Little did she know that this peace would soon be challenged. On this particular morning James called her, he wanted to see her and the children again. Keep reading if you end up in a situation when your Ex shows up and wants you back.James was sentenced for 5 years in prison because of wife battery and abuse and a year later his wife divorced him. During his absence she never remarried nor dated any man but preferred to concentrate her efforts on taking care of the boys. That call shook her life again. She was facing one of the greatest challenges of her life again but this test was going to show to her if she was stronger now and in control of her life now. What would you do in this situation? Have you ever been in a situation when you thought you
Characteristics Of Seducers 2007-10-16 13:42:00 Eight Characteristics That Give A Man The Absolute Chance To Score With WomenFor a man, successfully meeting women is all about how you ACT. Period. Sure, you have to look halfway decent in the way you dress, stay groomed and not stink like the chunk of two month old polish sausage that I just found hiding in the back of my refrigerator the other day... but the make-or-break factor is and always will be the WORDS that come out of your mouth, and the ATTITUDE that underlies it.With that in mind, here's eight points to load into your mental backpack when you're getting ready to go off to battle (which is to say, every day of your life...)1) Remain Focused on the Game -- The art of attracting women is all about knowing how to engage them with a natural curiosity that shows you are at least a little bit interested in *their* world (WARNING: too much = a slick phony, so be careful). Look for Life Lines (anything that she's hinting she would be open to talking about) and stay com
Leading A Spiritual Life 2007-10-16 13:38:00 How to learn from Nature and understand the true meaning of life?Nature consists of plants, flowers, animals of all types, rivers, fish, etc. and they are all so different but beautiful in their own unique ways. You may appreciate keeping a dog instead of a cat but that does not mean dogs are better than cats. We all have different tastes, likes, and dislikes. The differences are what make the picture even more interesting and good to look at. Moreover, to make a fruit salad you need various fruits. So what does this mean? It means variety is the spice of life. So if a man just does not like you or want you any more it does not mean that you should panic and try to change yourself for his sake. Or in other words, you need to lead a spiritual life that goes beyond the superficial. It simply means it won’t work and you are going nowhere; instead of him wasting your time, being unfaithful to you better he ends it. Painful as it may sound to be rejected, but I think it’s the best way. Read more:Leading
Discovering Your Partner's Body 2007-10-16 13:26:00 Find out the sensitive pleasure zones of the bodyPleasure zones? No, we are not talking about theme park rides. We are talking about the numerous parts of our bodies, which are our pleasure zones. A man whispering into his girlfriend's ear is surprised to find her sighing in ecstasy... the girlfriend is equally surprised when the man becomes excited as she touches him. These two unsuspecting lovers have now entered a special zone. You may have heard the quip about women having dozens of places on their bodies that cause excitement when touched, while men have just that one. The truth is, most men, as well as women, can become excited when their partner pays attention to certain special spots beyond the obvious ones. You may not even know yourself where these spots are, but that's OK, because that just makes finding them all the more fun for both of you.The key lies in the stimulation of the major and minor zones. When these areas are stimulated in the right way, they trigger the mos Read more:Partner
Women's Feelings When They Date Younger Men 2007-10-16 13:22:00 As many of you know, I have been a big proponent of dating and relationships without any age barriers. In my extensive discussions with couples, I have found that age has much less to do with wide age gap than is generally believed. It was interesting, therefore, to have someone very close to me undergo this experience. I am always advising perfect strangers on how to succeed in their relationships if one of the partners is much younger but it was a totally new experience to have someone come and stay with us for two weeks. A family member, Jolly, 37, is undergoing a nasty divorce from her husband of 15 years.The guy cheated on her and is living with his new, younger girlfriend. Jolly has three daughters, one of them a teenager. Her ex-husband has not been particularly disciplined about paying child support or in any way making life easier for her. On the other hand, he uses the kids to play nasty games and harass Jolly.We have been helping Jolly move on and that includes some financia Read more:Feelings
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Prepare Before Meeting Her 2007-10-16 12:21:00 Meeting Women Takes Awareness and PreparationWant to know a pivotal secret of the mating and dating game? It's that women plan, practice and prepare for this contest from a very young age, and (surprise!) are flat-out *contemptuous* of those men who refuse to play their expected role.Want to know a pivotal secret of the mating and dating game? It's that women plan, practice and prepare for this contest from a very young age, and (surprise!) are flat-out *contemptuous* of those men who refuse to play their expected role. Sad but true. Women put countless hours into prepping for the competition between the sexes... hair, makeup, style and look, clothing, etc. etc. They burn half their disposable income on just about anything they can dream up that makes them more attractive to men. Guys, on the other hand, typically put minimal effort into making themselves attractive to women... other than trying to stay within shouting distance of the latest clothing trend, I suppose. For the most
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