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Taking Proactive Control Over Your Emotions 2007-09-28 06:46:49 miWisdom today… People have a tendency to say things in a certain way which can stir up negative emotions in other individuals. One must be aware and wary not to get drawn into these kinds of traps, otherwise one is giving full control of their behaviour over to the other person which can easily be taken advantage of. One must therefore come to know and understand the other person’s intentions before they have a chance to overwhelm you.
Once our emotions start to get the better of us we psychologically lose control of the situation. Be it anger, jealousy, anxiety, stress or any other overwhelming emotion, we fall into the trap of reacting to situations instead of proactively taking control over them.
To proactively take control of a situation without being drawn into emotional re-activeness, ask yourself the following set of questions:
What is it that this person is trying to do through their words or actions? What are their real intentions?
How is it that this person wan Read more:Taking
, Proactive
, Control
The Pitfalls of Our Emotional Decisions 2007-09-27 08:51:26 miWisdom today… Sometimes the most obvious choice to make isn’t always the best option to take.
We are all very impulsive creatures. As such, we take many actions throughout our lives that have less than desirable outcomes. What appears to be the right thing to do in the moment may only appear to be so on the surface.
Think twice before making any impulsive decisions, especially if they involve those who are closest to you.
Our emotions are the ones that lead us astray in moments like these because they shape our reality with many shades of colours and perspectives, therefore making things appear to be somewhat different than what they really are. Yes, emotions are a wondrous yet dangerous experience, especially when it comes to our impulsive decisions which are purely based on the emotions we are feeling in the moment.
Next time you feel as though you are about to make an impulsive decision that just seems like the most obvious choice to make; step back, hold off for a mo Read more:Emotional
, Decisions
A Fool Only Makes Decisions Based Solely on Experience 2007-09-27 08:18:52 miWisdom today… Only a fool expects the world to remain the same and constant, and then bases their choices and decisions on what they already know. This type of thinking is entirely based on past experiences, based on that which has long gone and that might not apply to the present moment. You must instead be constantly vigilant to all the new information presented to you and the changing circumstances that life brings your way on a daily basis.
Every new choice, decision and action must be made in the moment based on what you know of the moment, and not what you knew of your past. If we do not take the time and make the effort to study, take into account and reflect on everything that has changed from yesterday, than we will simply fail to see the light of new opportunities that are coming our way.
Look at every piece of information, every person, every sound and sight that enters through your senses, and begin to understand that life isn’t what it used to be, it isn&rsq Read more:Decisions
When Opportunity Turns to Disaster 2007-09-26 08:23:44 miWisdom today… What looks like an opportunity on the surface to progress your life forward may in fact turn out to be a terrible mistake because of a simple yet noticeable oversight. One must therefore learn to always be extremely vigilant, to take into account all possibilities, and to develop the necessary foresight to make the right and best decision in the moment.
Life will always bring an endless array of opportunities our way each and every day (whether we notice them or not). On the surface every one of these opportunities will probably look very appetising. It is only when we look under the bonnet and ask ourselves the right kinds of questions that the demons will eventually reveal themselves. These demons are there to teach you lessons about where your life is headed. They are there to wake you up and show you that you may be on the wrong path, that you may be heading in the opposite direction, or that you may not as yet have asked the right questions that will lead y Read more:Opportunity
, Disaster
Are You Making the Right Decisions? 2007-09-26 07:57:31 miWisdom today… It is not usually the decisions or actions that people regret taking but rather the results of their actions and how these outcomes have impacted the people, events and circumstances of their lives.
On a deeper level of understanding you will find that people wholeheartedly support the decisions that they make and actions that they take. If the outcomes are satisfactory and to their liking they will feel secure in their decision and action making process. On the other hand, if their outcomes contradict what they expected, they will regret their decisions and actions. Yet it is not their decisions and actions that they are in actuality regretting but rather the outcomes of these decisions and actions.
What are all the possible consequences or outcomes of this decision that I am about to make?
How could my decision impact other people both directly and indirectly? What potential consequences could result?
How could my decision impact my life and circumstances? Wha Read more:Decisions
, Right
Challenge Yourself to Take Control 2007-09-26 07:39:20 miWisdom today… Being strong and assertive at all times is what really matters if you want circumstances to bend your way. A strong assertive approach will enable you to take control of a situation and will make others unintentionally miss gaps or oversights in your potential lack of knowledge or effective strategy. In the end, this all boils down to one’s levels of confidence and how one projects that confidence out towards others.
When in conversation with another person, you will notice that the person with the most confidence is the one who controls (or at least appears to control) the situation. People naturally and unquestionably trust and have faith in those who project high levels of self-confidence and belief. As such, one must strive at all times to bring forth high levels of confidence in one’s interactions with other people. If this is difficult to do, than Act as If you are confident, as though you are auditioning for a role in a movie. Don’t take Read more:Control
, Challenge
, Yourself
The Secret to Becoming Indispensable to Others 2007-09-25 06:08:41 miWisdom today… You must at the very least appear to be indispensable to others within your network. In this way you will hold insurmountable power of influence over your relationships with them. When you are wanted and needed for very specific reasons people will flock to you and will want to assist you with your every need, want and desire. You can become indispensable in two concrete ways:
Become indispensable by creating a strong emotional connection or bond with the other person. If however you are unable to lock away a strong emotional connection with the person you want to influence, than your next best option is to create this bond with someone they hold very dear to their hearts. In such a way you will be able to influence them indirectly through this other person’s decisions and actions.
Become indispensable through a specific knowledge-base or skill that this other person or network of people cannot do without.
Becoming
indispensable is a skill in itself that Read more:Others
Struggle… The Yo-Yo Effect 2007-09-25 05:41:25 miWisdom today… One’s predicaments do not last forever. It ain’t over till you raise the white flag… until that moment you must fight for all you have till the outcome you seek rests securely in your hands.
Many people start feeling sorry for themselves and they have a tendency to become frustrated and disheartened with the circumstances that life throws their way. Without a network of supportive family and friends, they see little hope and begin to wilt away into the abyss of unfulfilled dreams that have been drained of life and sustenance. Little do they realise that they are just moving through a phase, a challenge of sorts that is teaching them lessons, developing within them habits and beliefs that will eventually allow them to deserve to live a life filled with only their dreams and desires. However, unless we learn from these challenges and adapt to what life throws at us, we will indeed struggle, yo-yoing back and forth from despair to experiences of m
Adaptation is the Key to Success 2007-09-25 05:19:55 miWisdom today… One must be prepared to do the unexpected at any moment in time in order to get ahead and stay ahead in this world. Whether this means stepping out of one’s comfort zone and overcoming a fear, or it could just be learning to master a new skill for the first time. Either way, one must be prepared, willing and able to step forward, adapt and do what is required in the moment, otherwise one will struggle to move forward in life to any measurable degree.
What possible unexpected events or circumstances could lay on the horizon for me?
How can I best prepare myself to deal with them as they arise?
What new skills must I master over the coming months to prepare me for the possible challenges that lie ahead?
How will I go about obtaining and learning these new skills?
Who could assist me with knowledge or mentor me in this area?
If you have a similar learning experience or would like to add to the list of questions, you may do so by commenting below.
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Covering all Your Communication Bases 2007-09-25 04:26:58 miWisdom today… One must be very careful as to when, where and how to raise certain topics or issues with other people.The when refers to the timing of your encounter with this other person. Keep in mind that at certain times people will be more receptive to what you have to say than at other times.
The where refers to the place of your encounter with the other person. Keep in mind that the other person will feel different emotions within different environments. You must approach them within an environment that is going to be helpful to your communication.
The how refers to how you will go about communicating your message to the other person. Keep in mind that it’s not so much what you say to the other person but how you say it. However, choose your words carefully especially when discussing sensitive matters.
Another factor to consider is the whom. Whom this person is in the presence of when you are communicating your message to them is of critical importance. At times wh
You Never Really Know a Person Until… 2007-10-02 07:32:29 miWisdom today… One mustn’t reveal what one has learnt or discovered about another person if one is still uncertain about this person’s motives and intentions. Instead, one must buy more time and act as though one is not aware of this new found information.
First, take your time to really get to know this person in a variety of different situations and environments. When people are not under stress or difficulty they can easily deceive and convince others of their deceptive ways. However, put them into a situation where they are pulled outside of their comfort zone, or thrown into an environment that isn’t familiar to them; and this person’s true colours may well come to the forefront.
How best can I take this person out of their comfort zone?
What environment could potentially bring out their true colours?
How are they different within this new environment or situation?
How are they different under these awkward and stressful situations?
Does this diffe Read more:Until
The Subtle Approach - Subduing Anger & Resistance 2007-10-01 01:16:58 miWisdom today… Getting angry or upset at others doesn’t normally work to one’s favour, as it creates resistance and throws the other person against you. Not only does the other person now see you as the enemy, they also completely resist what you have to say no matter how much logical sense your argument may have. This ends up being a “no win” situation for both parties. You don’t win because you haven’t been able to get your point across, and the other person doesn’t win because they have not learnt from their mistakes or their lack of understanding. Their Ego has simply impeded on making logical sense of the information that you are attempting to convey across to them.
Instead of getting angry or arguing with the other person, the solution is to simply discuss the matter with them in a very subtle and calm manner. Focus on asking the right kinds of questions that will get this person thinking logically about their situation. These que Read more:Subtle
, Resistance
What is the Greatest Gift You Can Give to Others & Yourself? 2007-09-29 20:31:28 miWisdom today… The most honorable way to assist people in need is to do so in an indirect manner without alluding them to the fact that you were the one who helped them in their time of need. This comes down to the principle of giving without having any expectations of receiving.
People are strange creatures indeed. They seek help from others, however they feel guilty about asking for it. This tendency to shy away from receiving assistance from others comes down to the fact that these people simply don’t want to feel as though they owe something to someone. They also don’t want to show others that they may be inadequate, weak or incapable of not being able to help themselves. These forms of resistance and avoidance create much unhappiness and anguish for many as they go about their daily lives.
By being observant of other people’s needs, and later assisting them when they require it most in an indirect and covert manner, will not only bring a vast array of ric Read more:Greatest
, Others
, Yourself
Solutions are Found when the Mind is Unbound… 2007-10-11 23:57:59
miWisdom Empowering Thought & Reflection…
When an apparent problem arises, I center myself and relax. I then patiently propose a question to my higher self and thank it for providing me with a solution. I then let go and partake in something that is fun, pleasant and relaxing; fully knowing that my question will soon be answered when I least expect it.
The Love You Seek Can be Found Within… 2007-10-11 23:48:31
miWisdom Empowering Thought & Reflection…
Whenever I desire love, I first search for it within myself.
Do Not Fear the Change that Becomes of You… 2007-10-11 23:43:35
miWisdom Empowering Thought & Reflection…
I encourage change in my life. The more accelerated the change, the more rapid my growth.
Read more:Change
A Crisis of Stress - The Critical Act of Being Under Emotional Control 2007-10-11 04:11:46 miWidsom today… In times of crisis or when absorbing high doses of stress, you must at the very least appear to be under emotional control, otherwise other people will tend to lose confidence and faith in your abilities. This is especially important if other people are looking up to you or you are seeking to influence others through your behaviors, decisions or actions.
At times of great stress or hardship it is very easy for the human mind to fall prey to negative emotions that can sap one’s energy and make one lose focus of one’s main goals and objectives. During these times people tend to make the worst out of every situation. They tend to filter all events in a very dark and gloomy manner. Hope appears to be lost, they have no idea what to do next, and the resulting effect is that they lose control over their emotions.
Our emotions are like a balance bar of control, they keep us steady and centered even during times of crisis; as lon Read more:Crisis
, Emotional
, Control
I Won’t be Swayed by Other’s Opinions… 2007-10-10 03:49:55
miWisdom Empowering Thought & Reflection…
I accept that I am different to the majority of people in this world, I therefore hold differing perceptions and perspectives. I will listen and hear others out, however I will make my own judgements and my own decisions based on my own feelings, and not allow myself to be influenced or swayed by other people’s opinions.
Read more:Opinions
Rejections Help Us Learn… 2007-10-10 03:36:03
miWisdom Empowering Thought & Reflection…
Any rejection I face is just a sign that I must learn something more and try yet again.
Everyone is My Teacher… 2007-10-10 03:30:45
miWisdom Empowering Thought & Reflection…
Every time I have a conversation with another person, I am at that moment having a conversation with myself. I therefore gain from this interaction by learning about myself. Hence, everyone becomes my teacher.
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Mistakes are the Seeds of Ever Growing Opportunities 2007-10-08 15:07:03 miWisdom today… The more mistakes I make the more I change… the more I change the more I learn… the more I learn the more I grow… the more I grow the more opportunities appear and the more I am able to achieve in life.
This is a very simple formula, yet it has very profound implications for those who are able to understand and grasp it’s intrinsic meaning. Basically speaking, mistakes are simply a form of change that we must learn and grow from on a daily basis in order to attract the necessary opportunities that will allow us to flourish in our field of endeavor.
In our society today mistakes are frowned upon. If one makes a mistake, one is seen as incompetent and unworthy of success. Little do many people realize that mistakes are simply stepping stones to higher levels of understanding about one’s life and predicament.
Just imagine you are about to cross a river, and the only way across to the other side are a dozen stepping stones Read more:Growing
, Opportunities
The 2 Critical Factors that Destroy the Procrastination Bug 2007-10-08 01:24:29 miWisdom today… Learning and mastering a single process, task or skill can take time and a lot of concentrated effort. This is why it is so easy for us to doubt our own abilities when we have very little experience in a specific area. Some “things” naturally take a little more time to master than others, and this is where the problems lie.
Many of us see these “things” that we need to learn as big challenges that seem rather overwhelming and daunting. Yet, little do we realise that the only difference between a person who has mastered a skill or understood a process comes down to 2 common and critical factors:
Knowledge and
Experience
We acquire knowledge by seeking out information that we want to understand and potentially put into practice. And we acquire experience by applying that information in a practical and measurable way.
In essence, what stops people from moving forward in life simply comes down to either a lack of knowledge or experience, or Read more:Procrastination
The Illusion of Our Emotional Realities 2007-10-06 18:24:10 miWisdom today… When people become obsessed with something to the extent that it overwhelms them emotionally, they naturally become disillusioned by their circumstances. This naturally effects the person’s decision making process to the extent that they are simply unable to comprehend the validity of their decisions in the moment. They are simply unable to logically understand the consequences of their decisions towards themselves, others and the world around them.
Acting only through emotion can lead to much anguish and disappointment in life. Our emotions can either make things appear light or dark, good or bad, right or wrong, yet they are only a perspective that we hold in the moment, a perspective that was influenced by something internal or external in our environment. If we fail to see our emotions for what they really are, than we will simply fail to make sense of the possible consequences of the decisions we are about to make.
It is important to note that our emot Read more:Emotional
The Jellybean Principle - Overestimation… The Habit of Disappointment 2007-10-18 16:45:39 miWisdom today… The vast majority of people have a natural tendency to overestimate their time, work, energy, decisions and actions. This is known as the Jellybean principle, which is the act of being incapable of estimating correctly how many colored Jellybeans are in the jar.
Back in high school there was always someone organizing a Jellybean counting competition of some sorts each year. They would get hold of the largest glass jar or container they could find, and would “stuff” it with as many jellybeans as was humanly possible. Then, one-by-one each student would attempt to guess how many Jellybeans were enclosed within the jar. I was intrigued as to how students would go about estimating the number of Jellybeans that were in the jar.
Would they try to calculate it mathematically based on the size of each jellybean and the dimensions of the glass jar?
Would they just attempt to “guestimat Read more:Principle
, Habit
, Disappointment
The Expectations Trap - Bending the Perception of Reality 2007-10-15 11:59:29 miWisdom today… When perceptively negative circumstances befall people, they will usually tend to think the very worst of their predicament. Even if this person talks positively and optimistically about their situation to others, internally, they are expecting and preparing themselves mentally for the very worst end result. Since our expectations guide our decisions, direction and actions, we will therefore tend to realize our expectations in the real world more often than not.
How is it that our expectations tend to create our reality?
It has to do with our thought patterns and the emotions that we experience on a daily basis. Simply put; the direction of your thoughts influences what you are or are not able to perceive within your present environment. If you are thinking negatively you will tend to see negative people, events, problems and circumstances around you. On the other hand, if you are thinking positively, you will tend to see opportunities abound, tha Read more:Perception
Negative Emotions are Guideposts along our Journey… 2007-10-24 00:59:47
miWisdom Empowering Thought & Reflection…
My negative emotions are like road signs on a highway informing me that I have made a wrong turn somewhere along
my journey. I therefore bless them for their wise and enlightened guidance, and redirect myself towards the direction of my choosing.
Read more:Negative
, Journey
Accepting the Daily Challenges We Face… 2007-10-24 00:51:50
miWisdom Empowering Thought & Reflection…
Whatever it is that is now presenting itself as part of my creation, I own it, claim it, accept it, bless it and be thankful for it.
Read more:Daily
Focusing on the Needs & Wants of Others… 2007-10-24 00:35:57
miWisdom Empowering Thought & Reflection…
I always show respect for the people I interact with, always taking into consideration their wants, needs and desires, while expressing my sincere gratitude for their company.
Read more:Focusing
, Needs
, Others
The Perils of Giving Advice to the Ones you Love 2007-10-29 02:55:36 miWisdom today… When people go through periods of great difficulty in their lives, we naturally have a tendency to try and assist them through their problems by providing them with techniques and strategies that we believe will help them overcome their challenges. Is this really the right and just way to go about assisting a person in need?
First of all, what may appear to be the right way around a problem to us may not in fact be the most ideal solution for the other person. Yes, we may well have gone through a similar experience, or we may have heard or read about others overcoming this sort of challenge in their life. Yet, can we rightly justify the act of providing helpful advice without first truly understanding the other person and their experience from absolutely every angle imaginable? Because this is exactly what it will take to provide this person with the right and suitable answers they are after.
When we freely help others, do we even consider the repercussions Read more:Giving
The Fred Flintstone Principle - Mistakes are the Seeds of Evolution & Change 2007-11-05 03:38:16 miWisdom today… One must always take care to learn from other people’s experiences, mistakes, actions and decisions. If one is to ignore this important principle, one will find themselves on the treadmill of life - moving consistently and rapidly, yet making no progress at all.
It has taken humanity hundreds of thousands of years to reach our current level of knowledge and understanding. This progress didn’t happen by chance, nor did it happen through planned intervention. We became what we are today through nothing more than the act of making and learning from our mistakes.
It is said that Fred Flintstone developed the wheel not by accident but rather through a process of mistakes that lead to a better and more effective way of thinking about his situation. Dragging big rocks along the ground all day or lifting them above his head, surely cost Fred a great amount of energy and strain. He even had the habit of dropping a rock or two every now and then on his hairy f Read more:Principle
, Evolution
, Change
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