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An Unexpectedly Pleasant Experience 2007-08-16 20:00:00 So, today, my wife decides she needs to go look at new beds. We have been discussing the possibility of a new bed for a while, but she has impending knee surgery in October. Normally, she almost always sleeps on the floor because of a back injury incurred the in military, and she will need a VERY firm bed to help her be able to sleep after surgery, when she will not be able to get down on the floor.So, we head out to the local mattress store (Okay, I'll plug it, Denver Mattress Company). We have breakfast first, and get there right at opening. I think, great, they are going to pounce on us like mice on peanut butter. If there's one thing I HATE, it's pushy salesfolk. But, we take the plunge and walk in anyway. As expected, we are immediately greeted by a young, fresh faced salesman, can he help us. I cut right to the chase and tell him we need to see the firmest mattress he has. Immediately, he points to a particular brand, and also says that the floor model is on sale, if
The Lack there of My Big Fat Lesbian Wedding 2007-08-16 15:40:00 I'll be turning 30 in January. It's a rather interesting milestone for me. I sit here at 29 and think of all that I had hoped to accomplish by the magical age of 30. There is nay a success story I fear. I thought I would be in a relationship. One of those long term ones were she and I meet at some random place when we're 21 and never leave one anothers side from that point on. One that would lead to a marriage at the age of 25 and a child by 27. There would be a dog, she would make me get a cat, and money would be a constant issue.I had hoped to be out of the office. Out of the confined walls of the cube I work in for a company that considers me a number. A small number at that. My pay scale too is not where I had hoped it to by by 30. However, my lack of pay is probably one of the top factors as I slipped past a few layoffs. I had fantasized about being a writer. The goal was to be carefree and not worrying about keeping up with the Jones. I was to carve out my own path since neith
11 Reasons Gay People Should Not Be Allowed To Marry 2007-08-14 12:36:00 Thought I would share this wonderful post from The House of Bone:1. Homosexuality is not natural, much like eyeglasses, polyester, and birth control.2. Heterosexual marriages are valid because they produce children. Infertile couples and old people can't legally get married because the world needs more children.3. Obviously, gay parents will raise gay children, since straight parents only raise straight children.4. Straight marriage will be less meaningful if gay marriage is allowed, since Britney Spears' 55-hour just-for-fun marriage was meaningful.5. Heterosexual marriage has been around a long time and hasn't changed at all; women are property, blacks can't marry whites, and divorce is illegal.6. Gay marriage should be decided by people, not the courts, because the majority-elected legislatures, not courts, have historically protected the rights of the minorities.7. Gay marriage is not supported by religion. In a theocracy like ours, the values of one religion are imposed on the Read more:Reasons
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LOGO LAUNCHES VISIBLEVOTE08.COM 2007-08-08 08:52:00 I normally don't post the many press releases I get in my in box, but this site is a great start for researching your 2008 canidates. Check it out, speak your mind, and for the love of all of us... VOTE!!!!!NEW YORK, NY – AUGUST 7, 2007 – Logo, a division of Viacom Inc.’s (NYSE: VIA and VIA.B) MTV Networks, today announced the launch of VisibleVote08.com. The newest addition to Logo’s federation of websites will be the premiere online destination for Logo’s coverage of the 2008 presidential election.Visitors to VisibleVote08.com will be able to watch live streaming coverage of The Visible Vote ‘08: A Presidential Forum on August 9, 2007 at 6:00 PM PT/9:00 PM ET. The forum, in which top candidates for the Democratic nomination for President discuss issues important to the LGBT community, is being co-presented by Logo and The Human Rights Campaign Foundation. Logo is inviting viewers to submit questions for the candidates on VisibleVote08.com - several viewer-submitted quest
Straight as an Arrow??? 2007-08-07 11:03:00 To this day I can not necessarily tell you if my first “lesbian” long term relationship was with a “straight” woman. I was in my early 20’s and her in her late 20’s. She was married (I came to find out later) and had a baby. I had a 2 year old. We met online. I had just come to realize my attraction to women and was too shy to meet someone face to face at a bar club or any where. The only experience I had was a 2 year sexual affair with one of my closest friend (definitely straight)so I turned to the internet personal ads.We met and it was an electric attrcation at that first kiss. She led me to believe in the beginning that she was co-parenting with her ex in the same house so she could stay home. Here I find out, after I was already in love with her and her son, that she was married already for 2 years. I should have wallked away, but I didn't as I was in love. He worked for a major league baseball team and was away 3 weeks out of the month (from March until Octob Read more:Straight
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GUEST POST: I didn't fall in love with a straight woman. I WAS the straight woman! 2007-08-06 13:59:00 I didn't fall in love with a straight woman
. I WAS the straight woman! I was 49, four years after a divorce from a 20 year marriage.We had been friends for four years when 9/11 and my brother's death made me lose my footing. She offered me regular massages to help with the grieving process.Something I didn't understand was happening in my body during those massages. The only thing I could point to was this amazing feeling that the bottoms of my feet kept opening and opening during the massage. We hugged and said I love you as friends....until......I couldn't wait for Christmas Day to pass because she was calling the next day. I hadn't identified what was bubbling up inside of me, but something was. The call came and as we spoke, she said "There's something I need to tell you. I have feelings for you." Did I slam down the phone or run away? No! because I had feelings for her too.And so we began. Because never in my life had I felt I was gay/lesbian, I told myself and my friends th
Forbidden Fruit 2007-08-05 16:59:00 The straight woman. Has she ever appealed to my senses? Has she ever stirred my desires? Has she ever made me dream of her on lonely nights? No. Not once in my 16 years of being out.Many of my pals & ex-lovers have been interested in straight women & some have even dated or "converted" a few hetero's. I however have never seen the appeal. Never had the crush.I love lesbians! Not every single lesbian in the world. Just look at my post on Rosie O'Donnell. But generally speaking I'm attracted to lesbian energy, if there is such a thing. The energy of women who enjoy & love other women. It makes me ache in certain places. It's an energy that I want to bathe in & roll around in like a joy-filled puppy!To be honest my guess why I've never been interested in straight ladies is in part because I only like to chase what is actually attainable. Married folks, straight women, movie stars and anyone else not in my reach is a waste of time. Life is hard enough without trying to go afte Read more:Forbidden
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Adoption, Gay or Straight? 2007-08-05 11:53:00 Taking a quick break from my work to comment on this topic-of-the month. I worked for 5 years in a law office where the attorneys were Guardians ad Litem, appointed by the courts in cases of child neglect and abuse. Additionally, the office also did adoptions. Mainly, the adoptions were the stepparent type, where a biological parent remarried and the non-bio parent wanted to adopt, but we also did grandparent adoptions, 2 non-bio parent adoptions, but, I have to say, no gay adoptions. Most of them went very smoothly, and it was easy to see that the adoptive parents and children were extremely happy with becoming "legal" families. Still, not all adoptions turn out so well.Speaking from this point of view, as well as from my own experience as a parent, I certainly believe that gay couples can make wonderful parents, and certainly should have the same rights as straight couples when it comes to adopting a child. That said, I must also issue a warning. PARENTHOOD IS FOREVER!!!! Whether it Read more:Straight
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Go Forward, Never Straight 2007-08-04 12:21:00 Fallen for a straight girl? Me? That would be the height of insanity, wouldn’t it? But, of course I did! Back when way more people didn’t have Internet than did, before high speed anything, I joined near-fledgling AOL. I spent hours in the evening exploring the new world laid before me. It started as news and information gathering. One day, I tried this new thing called MSN. They had these chat rooms for Lesbians and Bi-Sexuals. To join, you had to call a phone number to verify your authenticity. Wild, huh? I got in. I went to the chat room. There was this woman causing a ruckus with her more than rebellious poking of fellow chatters.I private messaged her after a few days of watching her stir things up (in a respectful, yet obviously philosophically divergent way). She answered back. We started discussing things like poetry and feminism. We started to get to know one another. Over the course of several months of chatting sometimes until 3 am, we spoke on the phone. This was a time Read more:Straight
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Getting on my feet 2007-08-03 12:14:00 I probably shouldn't post here. I mean, I no longer identify as a lesbian. I now simply identify as queer.I don't think I even identify as female, even though I am still physically female.I'm a boi. I've been a boi for as long as I can remember.I think this might be my goodbye post. I haven't posted here in a very, very long time. Why? Because so much has happened in my life over the past year and a half. It is because of all of this that I just haven't known what to say.As far as the "topics" go here are my thoughts:1) I think gays should be legally allowed to adopt. Do I think all gays should adopt? Nope. Why? Because it's just like straight people: Not all people, in general, make good parents.My parents are straight, but they should never have had kids.My friends parents are gay, and they should never have had kids.Adopting children is the same as having children, is the same as making the choice to conceive a child and raise that child: some people make excellent parents, s
A Post from Brain Clouds 2007-07-26 21:26:00 My Bohemian DreamSo I have this crazy imagination. I see things, or create things all the time in my mind. For the most part the visions are disasters. Death, macabre, all those things that make up a great old school horror movie. It is both my curse and my gift. But beneath that surface lives a dream I have had since I can remember. The dream of a Bohemian Community.For those that aren’t sure what in the Hell Bohemian means let me share a few facts with you. Feel free to skim through the facts… The Dictionary defines Bohemian as: * A native or inhabitant of Bohemia. * The group of Czech language dialects used in Bohemia. * An artisan, usually gifted in literature or the creative arts; one who defies social conventions; a gypsy. While these definitions are technically correct, they don’t seem to do justice to describing the Bohemian lifestyle. Being Bohemian is all about living in an alternative space. Bohemians express themselves without regard for social convention. They Read more:Brain
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A Recent Post: 1220 at 5 2007-07-19 08:54:00 Jester reminded me when discussing the same place (small world) on his blog, of my first trip to 1220, the local gay beverage establishment in Walnut Creek, CA. 1220 also played a part in the Great Ballerina Debacle of 2000. My first foray into meeting people online came right after I moved to California. I had just broken up with my girlfriend who decided not to move to California with me after all. That’s now been 7-1/2 years ago, not that I’m counting. Yahoo! Personals was free, which was all I needed to hear. Beat the heck out of going to the bar and hanging out until someone interesting walked by. I knew that would never happen because they were all out hiking Mt. Tamalpais or Mt. Diablo or at hanging out Whole Foods or attending women’s music festivals. I crafted a carefully worded profile and sat back and waited. Eventually, I happened upon a woman who lived very close by. We exchanged emails, spoke on the phone and agreed to meet. She: How about we m Read more:Recent
Goldstar Review: The Gymnast 2007-07-16 13:07:00 Who knows how, why, when, or where we will fall in love. I like to think of true love as the last great mystery. I'm all for those famous quotes like, "Love conquers all!" and "Love will find you when you least expect it." I'm a hopeless romantic to a fault, and The Gymnast
played right into my some times painful hopeless romantic tendencies.Talented Jane Hawkins (Dreya Weber, Lovely & Amazing) was an impressive gymnast at the top of her game until a devastating injury ended her career. Years later, a chance meeting sets Jane on a new path – performing a cirque style aerial act with a mysterious dancer named Serena (Addie Yungmee). As the stunning pair prepares for a Las Vegas show, the pull between them becomes increasingly unavoidable...This film was delightfully short on lesbian film cliches'. It had a very good storyline in regards to following your dreams and not letting go of who you are on the inside for anyone. No one dies or gets breast cancer. There is no off the wa
Amazing and Incredible Women 2007-07-15 10:03:00 Women are astounding creatures, yes? Please watch this incredible representation of women in painting throughout history. You won't be sorry.Women in ArtAdd to My Profile Read more:Amazing
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An Unlikely Midwest Lesbian 2007-07-14 06:16:00 I've read this blog for awhile now and I always find it fascinating. The internet is a wonderful, powerful thing to bring people together that would have otherwise never met. It also brings home the fact that there is a bigger world out there...especially the whole glbt community that I am sheltered from.I am a different sort of lesbian. I'm not from NYC, LA or even Chicago. I live in Iowa and I know there are many of us here. I know this because I've met a few. I don't want to go clubbing, tell or even show every person I know that I am here, queer and they better get used to it. I think that is a dangerous thing. I chose carefully the people I am out to. I am out to my boss and coworkers but not the clients and families I work with. I don't like going back into the closet but I also know it is reality. The world has spent too long of a time in a wrong and hateful state of mind and I am not sure it can ever go where we all want it to go. Oh there is a difference, for sure. It is Read more:Midwest
Wedded Bliss (a post from my blog) 2007-07-10 08:56:00 On June 22, 2007 at 8:00pm in Atlanta's Magnolia Hall at Piedmont Park I married my best friend, my heart and soul...my whole world. It was a mass ceremony with all kinds of couples from pierced and tattooed kids to older, wiser women and men. There were deaf people, loud and obnoxious people, people holding each other, continuous kissing, huge smiles and lots of love in the room. Though it was short and sweet, I can't imagine it any other way. Her roommate and parents came and took a thousand pictures (I still can't decide which one is my favorite). Afterwards, we ate at Mick's downtown...then there was the honeymoon :DShe worked for a week and a half to orchestrate a surprise for me. I had an idea what it was but I was shocked when it actually came down to it. She blindfolded me and drove me downtown from her dorm room. She walked me through the lobby and up to our room at the Glenn Hotel. Inside, she'd lit tea light candles and spread rose petals in a trail from the door to the Read more:Bliss
Changing my Focus 2007-07-09 07:53:00 Ok, this is a post from one of my blogs "CO Grumpy Granny" posted just before Memorial Day. It also pretty much addresses where I currently stand on the Bush impeachment issue, so I'm accompishing 2 topics with 1 post. I know the views stated below will be either unpopular or incomprehensible to many, so comments are welcome.A Quiet EpiphanyTonight, the eve of Memorial Day, I lay on my yoga mat, trying to twist my tired body into shapes that it just did not want to form. As usual, when I am doing this intricate physical stuff, my mind wanders off on its own tangents. And, tonight, I realized, with a rather large shock to my system (to say the least), that I love George W. Bush. Yes, I love him! Somewhere in between Bridge Pose and Downward Dog, I realized that George W. Bush, Goddess bless him, is absolutely the PERFECT president for our country as it is right at this moment. And perhaps Goddess DID want him to be president. After all, aren't people waking up all over the place? Ar Read more:Changing
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A Tina-cious Life 2007-07-01 10:58:00 Chapter 32:The boi who brought the squishee-ness back into my life.
My Life in a Picture 2007-06-29 13:46:00 It could have been a snap of one of the places I’ve been—I mean, I’ve lived in Europe and all over the US, and mingled with some pretty damned interesting people and seen some incredibly beautiful things. It could have been the things I’ve experienced—like the fall of the Berlin Wall and the exodus of thousand score from East to West. Or possibly even the things I’ve eaten, because man, do I love a gastronomic delight. Now, if I could just find a woman who loved to prepare them for me. But, it’s none of those things.This is my family—cobbled together with love. They needed me, but I needed them too—to be my center, my joy, the creators of patience and understanding beyond myself, the bringers of laughter and tears, the sharers of triumphs and defeats, the conduits of compassion and kindness, the teachers of lessons big and small. My family—and by extension, all the friends, relatives, and people I meet to whom my heart is open because of them.This is my life in a pi Read more:Picture
East Coast Lesbians of Color Sentenced for Self Defense 2007-06-28 15:41:00 This a call to action!This much I know on a day like today. In some places in our supposed "free country" being a queer woman of color can be a crime.Last year on August 16th a group of seven young lesbian African-American friends from New Jersey we're hanging out in the West Village of New York. As they walked by Dwayne Buckle a NY resident, he began to proposition and harass the women including saying homophobic insults and grabbing his own genitals.One of the women had enough and confronted Buckle. Soon a physical fight occurred between him & some of the women. After Buckle pulled out chunks of hair from one woman & chocked another, one of the lesbians, Patreese Johnson pulled a small knife out of her purse & aimed for his arm to stop the attack. A surveillance camera shows the struggle between Buckle & 4 of the 7 women involved.Two men came to stop the attack on the women. By the time the police showed up the women were across the street. Buckle wound up in the hospital fo Read more:Coast
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My Life in Picture(s) 2007-06-28 12:59:00 I really couldn't sum up my life with just one picture. There are 3. One is of my wife Lauren and I on our wedding day. It will be 4 years together in July and I still fall madly in love with her over and over again. Around July 21 we will be expecting out first child together. Its a boy and his name is Jamesen. He represents the love between the two of us and the hope for a better future. Last but NEVER least is a picture of my incredible 8 year old daughter. She is the reason I breathe, exist and just have love in my heart at all times. This is my life. They are my life. Read more:Picture
Venus Envy? 2007-06-26 11:09:00 And so the lesbians finally have our own reality dating show. I'm not sure how I feel about it, but I know I'll watch. And at least they aren't trying to trick us with straight women thrown in the mix. Well, that's if you believe the Maxim model is a tried and true dyke. Up for the challenge? Check out the site and fill out an application.What are your thoughts? Read more:Venus
GLBT Blogger Weenie Roast 2007-06-18 10:38:00 Curly, over at Ham & Cheese on Wry, is hosting the first ever GLBT Weenie Roast
. Check out her post and get more info below.Whatcha doing on Sunday, July 15th? Join me and a few of my fellow GLBT bloggers for a laid-back evening of blog talk, burgers and booze at Cattyshack here in beautiful Brooklyn, NY.I'm totally taking a page from (aka biting off) the venerable Joe.My.God.'s wildly successful Blarg Hop here. Joe has proven on several occasions that bloggers + alchohol = good times, good times. I have first-hand knowledge of this as I attended the Blarg Hop in February. 'Twas a hoot. In fact, there is photographic evidence of me making a dirty, filthy gesture and if my mama ever saw it, she'd say, "What's that you're doing with your hand? Shazbot?" And then when informed of the actual non-Mork and Mindy meaning, she would disown me tout de suite.And no, you cannot see it.Because I said so, that's why. Now drop it.But I digress, the get-together was so much fun and it provided Read more:Blogger
Goldstar Review: Bam Bam & Celeste 2007-06-12 14:00:00 Every fags favorite hag has made an amazing movie with an even more amazing soundtrack! For a little under two hours you can forget how fucked up America is. You can eat ice cream, block out your personal self pity, and laugh your ass off.The ensemble cast is huge. It seems like Margret Cho got all her lesbian, gay, and otherwise stereo types together to make a wonderfully campy film that will go down in history with films like "But I'm a Cheerleader"In Bam Bam
& Celeste, Celeste (Margaret Cho) and Bam Bam (Bruce Daniels) are best friends still stuck in the white bread Midwest hometown where they grew up. Celeste lives at home with her out of touch Mommy (also played by Cho) and has retained her outcast status since high school. She and Bam Bam are free-spirited rejects in a town where looking or dressing differently is perpetually uncool.With lines like "High Ho Dildo!" you can't go wrong! Get a group of friends together, pop some rainbow colored pop corn and get ready for a visual
Why Marriage Equality is Important to Me 2007-06-12 00:31:00 Originally posted at QWOCI'm not going to sugarcoat this. I never wanted to get legally married. Not until now. Not until I found the love I had waited so very long for. And now I see the importance of marriage & why civil unions/domestic partnerships are not enough. For many years I ran around saying "screw legal marriage, everyone should just do domestic partnerships." I believed it with all my heart & still very much feel it's a great way to go. It is not necessary to get legally married. Lawyers can draw up papers so that most things in a marriage can apply to a union. So why have I changed my mind for myself?I suddenly understand what deep love means & how important it is to protect it to the fullest extent possible. Legal marriage makes this possible. To want your partner & family to have as many provisions as possible to keep the family sustained & healthy is an appropriate response to such strong feelings. Don't get me wrong, legal marriage in and of itself can't k Read more:Equality
Sela & Me 2007-08-25 01:31:00 I've been doing this "pick the topic week" on my blog, where readers determine the subject. This one is from Margo Moon, a cool new blogger I hope you'll check out. She wanted me to write about what would happen if I ended up stuck in an elevator with my favorite celebrity. In the fine tradition of bad lesbian erotica, without the actual erotica, I give you Sela & Me—and though this story leaves the story unfinished, trust that in my mind, the entire thing played out to the very best kind of conclusion.The doors opened and I stepped cautiously into the nearly empty elevator. Never did a ride go by that I didn’t give at least passing thought to what I’d do if it started spiraling down, out of control. Would I be able to jump up in the air at the right moment and save myself? I went to the back of the elevator and turned around so I was facing forward as people on an elevator, for some strange reason, do. I glanced briefly out of the corner of my eye and noticed that there were t
GUEST POST: "the straight one" 2007-08-29 21:31:00 She's my girlfriend-non-girlfriend. She likes it when I call her that. I actually met her a year ago but I knew she'd end up being "the straight one" in my life. By April, knowing she'd be moving soon, I figured it was time for me to track her down since she'd been on my mind for 9 months. If I wanted a mate who was an equal in every way, it would be her. Drop dead gorgeous. This woman knows how to carry a room like none other. She asks me why I insist on wearing jeans and button downs. Why not grow out my hair? Do I have a self-esteem problem? No, I insist, I'm just doing me - the only way I know how. She gives me a hard time, but now that she's moved away, I'm sure she misses me. She knows I'm the type to do anything to make sure she can be everything. And she will be. With or without me - I have no doubts about that. I'm going to visit her next month. Patience is my strategy. I'll take her to Girl Bar and give her a taste of my world. I hope that she'll let me hold her, t
Guest Post From: Margo Moon 2007-09-21 08:54:00 Would you call it kismet? Synchronicity? Weird as all get out? I call it all three. Since Starr Ann is sleeping late this morning, I thought I'd talk about how I ended up stranded on a deserted island with the three things I would have chosen to bring if I were going to get stranded on a deserted island and with a person way up there on my list of women to get stranded with.It started early this summer when my friend Lori, from Hahn at Home, won a free Olivia cruise. Well, Lori needed to be at home, as her blog’s name implies, so she gave her cruise to me. God, I love cyber friends.Everything happened in such a whirlwind, that right up to boarding time I still didn’t know where the ship was headed or who the celebrity entertainment was. Still don’t know our intended destination, but I lucked out regarding the celebrity. It was the delectable Tina Fey. Yeah, I know she’s married. But still.The last tiny speck of land had disappeared on the rear horizon at least a day before Read more:Guest
A summer story or how girlfriend developed the "is the door locked ?" trauma... 2007-09-14 14:22:00 As autumn already strikes in the north of Germany let me share one of my favorite summer stories. In June 2005 girlfriend and I went on holidays to Agistri. A tiny Greek island, just about one hour by boat from Athens. This tiny island had its 15 minutes of fame when in 2003 a wanted Greek terrorist surrendered himself after three months' hiding on the island. My personal opinion is that probably he was just bored stiff and his hideaway close to a muddy lagoon smelled hideously.What made Agistri (means "hook" in Greek) a perfect holiday resort for us was the total absence of sights to see. We found a cute, cheap hotel and gave in to total relax. One day we rented a Vespa took a look at the smelly lagoon and one day we made a boat trip to the neighboring island of Aegina to visit the shrine of Saint Nectarios.At that time girlfriend and I were still conductiong a nerve-wrecking long-distance relationship (me: Germany, she: Greece) and saw each other only every three months for a few da Read more:story
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GUEST POST: From Deborah 2007-09-13 19:44:00 If I were stranded on a deserted island—what three things would I bring and what one person would I want there with me and why? I'm taking the liberty in presuming that I wouldn't be stranded forever (in reruns) ala Gilligan and the crew. That said I would like to have: first, a photo of my son and daughter. Looking at them never fails to bring a smile to my face, warmth to my soul. Secondly I'd like a musical instrument. A piano would be fantastic but I wouldn't want one of those tinny sounding kiddie units or one of those electronic keyboards. Batteries, even if I had an endless supply, do not appeal. I wouldn't want to be compelled to think about storage solutions. So, I think a guitar would fit the bill nicely. And finally a very large music book would be in order as I would want to learn to play actual songs. The person I would have with me, my girlfriend. She's the one person I'd want to explore other ways to spend time with once we were spent reminiscing or str
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