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Words to Ponder 1970-01-01 00:59:59 The easiest thing in the world is to be you. The most difficult thing to be is what other people want you to be. Don't let them put you in that position. -~~Leo BuscagliaWe need not be afraid to touch, to feel, to show emotion. The easiest thing in the world is to be what you are, what you feel. The hardest thing to be is what other people want you to be. ~~Leo Buscaglia Read more:Words
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Strange dating game 1970-01-01 00:59:59 Some emails are very specific but so outrageous that it's hard to believe someone could even write this ( I changed his name): Hello, My name is Jon White. I am looking for a LTR. This should make things a little easier for all involved. I am looking for a Petite Woman, not short and fat. Petite means, thin, slim, etc. I am looking for a woman that is well dressed, somewhat educated, and has a good heart and doesn't hate men. Someone that is into a LTR, employed, articulate, attractive, sophisticated, intelligent, available, fit, adventurous, romantic, loving and can compromise. My intellect is way above average, I am extremely successful in business and in my professional life. I am 5'9", brown eyes, mustache, (Mr. Hardbody) and have great looks and a great body. My hair is somewhat gray(worn short) with beautiful teeth. I am usually well dressed as my position in life demands it. Please no sloppy dressers! I am divorced with one child, affectionate, loving, passionate, ver Read more:Strange
Dating After 50: Online Dating Success Story 1970-01-01 00:59:59 An online success story was shared in the comments section on my Focus or Fate Blog from Sept 25. It was buried kind of deep, so I thought I'd bring it to the surface for you to read and smile. Here it is: Maggie,I joined Match.com in Sept.'05. I had 22 first dates in five months, many were a lot of fun, some were not so much. Overall, it was a good experience. I think the experience was as good as it was because it seemed like everyone was honest, maybe that's the way it is here in my state. Then in February '06, I took my profile down when I met a beautiful woman. I'll call her MMC. MMC and I hit it off from the first date, which we didn't want to end. I had tried to be original on any of my dates. This one was no exception. We went to a park for a winter walk and continued the date by viewing an art display. We stopped for a glass of wine. Wow! Then we went dancing and when I kissed her "good night," I knew I wanted more. We've been together ever since.This experience Read more:Success
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Where to Meet? 1970-01-01 00:59:59 Here's an idea ... How about a place where the Dating After 50 population can meet and hang out? This way we could check out the other people and not have to rely on photos which can be outdated or touched up. We could see the possibilities and make a connection in person.For example, every First Tuesday night at the corner coffee shop could be singles night. I could bring my laptop, have coffee and talk with others that appeal to me.. or not. How about that?Does your community have anything like this? If so, let me know so I can advertise for that shop and let those DatingAfter50 crowd know about it too. Come on ... share!Maggie
What we want 1970-01-01 00:59:59 Perhaps we can toss away the action called "dating' and just come to terms with what we really want in a relationship. Is it the person, the activities, the attention or is it the way we FEEL when we are experiencing all of these? I think we just need to find the feelings we want to experience and enjoy them. If we are looking for love, then start loving everything in your world. Love your morning coffee, the sunrise, your paycheck, and the trucks that pick up your garbage. If you are seeking attention, then give your attention to the next person you interact with - really give all your attention to the person whether it is someone in a drive-up window, a voice on the phone or a family member. Just find a way to experience the feeling you are searching for and you may be surprised at how many times they occur.So, now that you are enjoying the feelings that you thought a relationship would bring to you, you can let go of hoping, wanting, waiting, planning and all the str
Male /Female Point of View of Online Dating 1970-01-01 00:59:59 Comments below from both sexes on their online dating experience:Hi Maggie,I certainly understand. I'm 57 and meeting men is not pretty. I have my profile on several websites and can tell you that 100% of the men on those sites are married, something they seem to forget to mention in their profiles. I have not given up trying, but sometimes it seems like such a waste of time.-- Anonymous Hi Maggie, I did meet the wonderful man I am with online, and he still posts notes and ads for me here. I also met about 200 complete weirdos. So be careful. It is only an artificial way to meet someone, but everything after that artificiality is real. Just be careful. Do not post a photograph of yourself on Craigslist. Meet in a public place, do not get too excited about each guy, until you get to know him a little. Do not spend hours on the phone before you meet, and talk a little and then meet in person. There are lots of troubled souls trying to meet people this way, as well as more or le Read more:Dating
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Dating after 50 and Sexually Transmitted Diseases 1970-01-01 00:59:59 Dating
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Transmitted Diseases: Entering the dating scene for me was very difficult. After being in a marriage for 28 years I found myself back to the same dating issues I faced in my teens. Then the issue was about getting pregnant. Now the focus is on sexually transmitted diseases or STDs. I was pretty naive and since I had been out of the dating scene for so long I was also clueless. In addition to my innocence, I didn't know how to begin to ask about STDs. Was I at risk? Well, of course. If I failed to use basic means of protection, yes I was. In fact, even using basic protection such as condoms, I was still at risk with a virus called human papillomavirus (HPV) which is transmitted via skin to skin contact, not through bodily contact. However, the use of condoms may reduce the risk of contracting this virus. As you read the information below, ask yourself this …. Do you have HPV or genital warts? If you do, how do you tell
More Words of Wisdom from YOU 1970-01-01 00:59:59 Hi Maggie,I have met several decent women online. It takes awhile, and you have to learn to separate the jerks (not that any of us men are jerks, of course :-) from the legit responses. Generally, if you're willing to meet a guy in his 50s, he's probably okay. But many women only want to meet some stud muffin 10-15 years younger -- which is great if you can pull it off.Craigs is popular because it's free and easy, but it's not always the best choice. I've had pretty good luck with Yahoo Personals (again, it takes a month or two for your profile to "perk"), and another dating site that would obviously not interest you (JDate.com). A good picture is also a major plus - if you're not overweight and are reasonably attractive, spend $60 and have a professional photographer put a couple snapshots on a CD. That's what I did... I'm still ugly as hell, but the photos don't look too bad!I moved to Colorado after getting separated a year ago, and have met numerous women through the onli Read more:Words
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Old Fashioned Romance 1970-01-01 00:59:59 Isn't there just a hint of nostalgia in the soul when one wants to meet others the "old fashioned' way like we did in the good old days before computers, cell phones and chat rooms? That thought of going to a party and "clicking' with someone one. Or starting a conversation with someone at a concert, or in a coffee shop to pass the time? Last week in a local coffee shop, I looked up to see a cute young guy opening the door. This cutie was about 35 years old and I could only see the upper half of his body though the window as he approached on crutches. As the door opened, I said to him, "Come on in, Crip" … and as he did I could see not a broken leg. No… Maggie, that would have been ok because broken legs heal. This cute guy (a solider perhaps) was missing the rest of his leg. God did I feel like a creep. But he smiled and went on his way. I suppose not addressing him at all would have been just as insulting. Who knows? I only know that I'd rather mak Read more:Romance
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Dating Suggestions from You 1970-01-01 00:59:59 HI Maggie,I checked out your blog. Some ideas for responses came to me, but I wasn't sure if my input was desired, as I'm not yet over 50. I decided to just email you and chat about it instead. You state in your post, "Ok, if you had luck, you wouldn't be here, right?" Well, I guess that depends upon how you define 'luck'. Sure, if you want to talk about 'getting lucky', than there are probably plenty of folks that had luck and are back at craigslist looking for more. If 'luck' is finding the person you'll spend the rest of your life with, then you probably need a new word. Because that's not luck, it takes patience, persistence, and hard work (in my experience). If you really want advice on meeting men online, I can give you some about craigslist. Again, this is only from my experience, and only about craigs, as I haven't used those other sites in years. 1) Add a picture to your posting, and have two good friends that you trust check it out first. T Read more:Dating
Email Suggestion on DatingAfter50 1970-01-01 00:59:59 Email suggestions from my readers ... "Try this site it is free also www.mymate.tv""If you want to meet good guys, its easy. Any place there is Golf has a Golfers pub, go have lunch there! YOU DON"T HAVE TO PLAY!"Check out this site:Date Expectations Read more:Email
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Focus or Fate? 1970-01-01 00:59:59 "Maybe fate will just lead that special person to you! I hope so!" were encouraging words sent to me by Betsy. But I wonder, it is fate or do I have some hand in it? If I set my desires and write down my vision of what/who I want in my life… will I get him? If I do, will I be satisfied? Since my world is full of growth and change I would expect that my visions and expectations would grow and change, too. So, how can someone fulfill my desires? Perhaps if I create an outline of what I want and not color in the lines then I will have a better chance to have a realistic relationship.Let's say I created my vision board of the person I want in my life. I'd want him to be wealthy in friends, humor, adventures, stories and family. I'd want him to be rich in integrity, character, and personality. Above all, I want a person who embraces change, is willing to adjust and loves himself. I believe that a person who loves himself shows me that I can only add to his happiness. I don't h Read more:Focus
Online Photos and Sexual Predators 1970-01-01 00:59:59 Single mom looking to date someone with a big heart (W4M) : Dating online can be fun but there are some things that you need to understand right away. When you are promoting yourself and the things you love, do NOT show photos of your children. If you do, you are inviting individuals into your world that may want to spend time with them, not you. Sounds sick? It is. Here's the scene -- you're dating. You've already stated that you're a mom (or a grandma) and that your children live with you. So, you make a date. You date this person outside the house. You get a feel for the person. He already knows you have children so you are not hiding them. Slowly, you decide how the relationship unfolds. It may be date 3 or date 6 when you decide to have him meet your children. First, you don't want to overwhelm him. Second, you need to have a gut-check to make sure the man is "into' you and not with you because he saw photos of your kids. It's the wo Read more:Sexual
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Vision Statement 1970-01-01 00:59:59 I found this great video and wanted to try a Vision Statement for myself. What do you think?My slideshow will include --- visions of my new job, images of Glacier National Park, sitting in a mountain cabin with a glass of wine (adding wood to the fire), a week long spa resort visit, images of a hut to hut hiking trip, feeling the hotsprings at Strawberry Park Hot Springs in Steamboat Springs and some tasty other visions that are still popping up.What would you include?Maggie
Holiday Thoughts: Getting to the other side 1970-01-01 00:59:59 In a blink of an eye the holidays will be here. When they arrive will you feel anxious, depressed and sad? Or will you be excited, upbeat and positive? The way you approach the holidays is what will determine your feelings. Remember, you can control the way you feel by the way you think. Many of us look at holidays we spent in the past and wish we had them back again. In reality, many of those past holidays weren't all that ideal either. There were money issues, family problems and a crisis of one kind or another. There was worry about where to spend Thanksgiving, where to spend Christmas, what gifts to get for who, travel issues, money woes and other problems that led to holiday despair. The question you have to ask yourself is this … how do you want it to be? How do you want to feel about it? Then focus on what you want the outcome to be. Your feelings will flow from your thoughts. We can make the holidays a fun, happy event or focus on what's missing a Read more:Holiday
Urban Legends : A reminder to us all 1970-01-01 00:59:59 I received this email today. It is one of many spam items that aredelivered to me. Usually I delete them but today decided to have a 'show and tell' session. I know this is a joke and you know this is a joke but there are many who do not and actually follow through with the flow of it. I'm gonna be rich!----------KAVITA & ASSOCIATESLG 4.2, Wisma KwsgJalan kampungKuala Lumpur MalaysiaTel: +60-172356586 Dear Maggie May, My name is Ms. Karen A. Kavita legal practitioner with KAVITA & ASSOCIATES in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia. I saw your contact and profile and decided that you could cooperate with me in this proposition. I have a client who died as the result of a heart-related condition in Kuala Lumpur Hospital Malaysia on the 11 November 2001, Late Mr. Andrew May, who shared the same last name with you. His heart condition was due to the death of all the members of his family in the Gulf Air Flight Crashes in Persian Gulf near Bahrain Aired August 23, 2000 - 2:50p.m. ET I am cont Read more:Urban
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Take action against scammers (from craigslist) 1970-01-01 00:59:59 Who should I notify about fraud or scam attempts? * FTC toll free hotline: 877-FTC-HELP (877-382-4357) * FTC online complaint form (www.ftc.gov) * Canadian PhoneBusters hotline: 888-495-8501 * Internet Fraud Complaint Center (www.ic3.gov/) * Non-emergency number for your local police department. If you suspect that an item posted for sale on craigslist
may be part of a scam, please email the details to "abuse@craigslist.org". Be sure to include the URL (or eight-digit post ID number) in your message. Read more:against
The Giving Season 1970-01-01 00:59:59 Dear Universe (a.k.a. Santa, Oprah, Ellen, Inner Being),Growing up in my big family I learned that Santa only brought one gift for each boy and girl in the world. How could it be otherwise with so many people, right? So when my children were growing up, Santa only brought them one gift as well. It was the "big' gift that they wished and hoped for and it was gift wrapped and all pretty. Other gifts, from parents and relatives were received with love but Santa's gift was the "star' attraction.I'm sorry to say that I was unable to be in attendance at the Ellen show where she gave away tons of awesome presents to everyone. Or any of the Oprah shows where she bestows gobs and gobs of wonderful goodies on her audience. But UPS is free to deliver to my house and my mailbox has room for lots of wonderful gifts and FEDEX knows how to find me even if Ellen and Oprah were unable to deliver.It's just that I already have all the wonderful things I need. I almost have all the thing Read more:Season
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Interviewing for a job: "Tell me about a time when ..." 1970-01-01 00:59:59 When was the last time you went on a job interview? I went to an interview this week and sat in front of 4 people who all had questions for me. They were not the traditional questions about my strengths and weaknesses. No way. They were behavioral questions that asked me to explain "How" I solved a problem or to "Tell" them about a time when …. I was asked to tell about a time "I went the extra mile" or "When I attempted something and it failed" Prior to the interview I did my research and found a link to behavioral interview questions. This site www.pohly.com/interview-3.html had a list of questions that helped me to focus on my past performance at various jobs and decide where and how I applied my skills. Here are a handful of questions from this page: Describe a situation when you or a group that you were a part of were in danger of missing a deadline. What did you do?Tell me about a time when you worked with a person who did things ver Read more:Interviewing
It's Friday night and .... 1970-01-01 00:59:59 Yes, it's Friday
night and the work week is over. What are your plans for the weekend?With all our fun and busy activities, it's important to schedule 'me time'. That elusive sphere when you just spend time not doing anything... Just contemplating... Visualizing what you want... Where you want to be... What you want to do.Before anything happens in your world, anything of substance - you'll first have to desire it and then see it. Your brain doesn't know that what you want is only in your mind. Your brain is willing to believe anything you tell it. Yes, you are allowed to lie. Tell your brain that you're extremely successful, or wealthy, or happy or in love. And imagine you are. Then sit back and imagine what it would be like if ..... have some fun with it. Want lots of money? OK, imagine you have it. Now what are you going to do with it? Go on a trip? Buy something wonderful. Just play with it all. You have nothing to lose and your brain is getting the feel for the abundanc
What are the top 3 qualities you want in a mate? 1970-01-01 00:59:59 What are the top 3 qualities
you want in a mate? For me they are the following: Respect -- Respect is the precursor to love, trust, fidelity, and loyalty. If you respect someone then you show it through your words and actions. Humor - There is so much to laugh about, starting with me and my daily life. Humor can bridge gaps, mend bridges and link people. Using humor is a way to get others to relax and share their stories with you, too.Assertiveness --- Sometimes, just sometimes ... I don't want to have to pick the place to eat, the movie to see, the music to play - sometimes I just want to be the passenger in the vehicle of life. Ok, that sounds goofy but you know what I mean. You take the initative tell me where we're going, ok?Now hit the COMMENT button below and tell me what's important to you.
Missing: Paulina Pumpkin 1970-01-01 00:59:59 Last seen: October 28, 7 a.m. Description: •Short •Robust •Orange •12 lbs (or so) •Physically fit •Features - no tattoos, no body piercing, no facial features Diabetic and in dire need of insulin shots Contact Maggie@mk_matchme@yahoo.com Read more:Missing
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Have you voted yet? 1970-01-01 00:59:59 In Colorado we have the opportunity to cast our vote early from Oct 23 - Nov 3. And why not?By this time we probably already know who we are going to vote for and this forces us to read the Blue Book and decide which initiatives to vote for and which to vote against. When I voted early, it was using a whole new type of system than ever before. I was handed a card that looked like a credit card and I put it into the voting machine. The print was large on the screen (yippee for me!) and if I pressed a YES instead of a NO, I only had to press it again to make it go back to neutral and then I could recast my vote. When I finished voting, a printed document was spit out as proof as to my choices. I had my sample ballot with me and all the Amendments and Initiatives researched and circled. I was in and out of the building in 15 minutes. Sweet and simple, just the way I like it! Positive vs. Negative Campaigning Now, wouldn't it be lovely if for the next election the
Sir Cecil Beaton quote 1970-01-01 00:59:59 "Be daring,be different,be impractical,be anything that will assert integrity of purposeand imaginative vision against the play-it-safers,the creatures of the commonplace, the slaves of the ordinary"-- Sir Cecil BeatonI've had this quote taped to my pc monitor for a few years now. As I read it, once again, I realized that I went to the Cecil Beaton art exhibit at the Christchurch Art Gallery in NZ this past July. So focusing on people, places and things really do bring them to me. Focusing on good things as well as negative things (worry). That is why I am so rich... I look at the bright side, the good, the things that are possible. Lucky me!--Maggie
Right this moment 1970-01-01 00:59:59 ---------------------------------Hope you're having a great day!Can you imagine where you will be next year at this time? If you were watching a movie about yourself, how would you like the world to see you? In a relationship? In a different job? In the same company with a title and raise? On a cruise? Fit and strong? With a degree? With a new vehicle? Climbing a mountain? Picture it, describe it, smell it, and believe it. Why not? Go ahead and Dream. Make it fun, be silly. It's your show ... in every way!Love ya, Maggie Read more:Right
Chemistry? 1970-01-01 00:59:59 Chemistry? At our age? Is it possible?• What do you think? • Do you think you will meet a person and sparks will fly and you'll go all stupid inside? • How do you define chemistry? • Is it intimacy or attraction? • Is feeling or an emotion? • Is it something else?Have you ever met someone and had a feeling of familiarity right away? A person who you feel comfortable with, someone with who you can share your humor and admit some of your faults? Is this chemistry? There are no rockets, no fireworks and maybe a few warm coals… is that good enough?Can the big spark be replaced by a lovely glow of laughter, intimacy, love, friendship, and affection? And if so, is that enough? Will you be satisfied?I'm listening….Maggie
Dating After 50: Does Chemistry Exist? 1970-01-01 00:59:59 I've wondered if chemistry exists in dating or if that feeling is just a memory of something I once knew. If I'm introduced to someone and there is no spark, does that mean that there is no hope for a relationship? Will spending time and creating memories with that person alter the chemistry? Or what if I meet someone and there is a wonderful bubble of chemistry, does that mean it will all work out and this is the one? Chemistry between the sexes changes over the lifespan. So, what are we to expect now that we are in our 50's. I know I never expected to be dating again but here I am, asking these questions and full of curiosity. I'm asking you ... what do you think? One reader wrote to me and expressed his thoughts. With his permission I've copied them for you to read. Hi Maggie...What do you think? Do you think you will meet a person and sparks will fly and you'll go all stupid inside?From a man's point of view...No you won't feel the same as you were between 17 thru say Read more:Dating
Dating After 50: Chemistry Comments from Women 1970-01-01 00:59:59 Is chemistry elusive or something that is a necessary ingredient in dating? The comments below show the female point of view on chemistry. You'll see it is very similar to what men believe. "Chemistry can happen right away and fizzle away if the person's personality sucks. However chemistry can develop over time with open and honest communication. Many frogs have been kissed and turned into princes. However many people just won't open their hearts and allow themselves to love or be loved in return. I am the Princess of chemistry and I know one thing that the more open and caring you are the better the connection and the better the relationship. Of course good hygiene counts for something too ha ha." ~ Cris---------------"Personally, I feel that now that I am older my priorities are different. I make sure that my date or relationships have all of the things that I need rather than what I want. A house and a new car are great but they mean nothing if the other person doesnt care abo Read more:Dating
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Dating After 50:New Years Resolution 1970-01-01 00:59:59 A new twist on an old theme: New YearsResolution
Gearing up to write your New Years
Resolution? If so, this will be a fun assignment for you. Sit down and make a list of all the things you want in your world in 2007. List the things you want to change, add, save, buy, and visit. Think BIG and have fun. Want to go to Scotland? Write it down. Want to fly first class … aisle seat? Want to run a marathon, or camp in Zion or Moab or Canyonlands? Ready to lose weight? Gain muscle? Dream big and write it down.Now on clean piece of paper, put today's date but change the year to 2007.December 22, 2007Now write down all the things you did. Put it on paper with lots of description. Did you meet your mate? If so, describe who, the hair color, places you went and things you love.Did you find your wonderful job? Write about the income, the bonuses, the challenges, responsibilities, the kind co-workers, the team work, the drive, the company focus and the way you feel driving to work.Be sure to de Read more:Dating
2007 is gonna be great! 1970-01-01 00:59:59 2007 Activities on my To Do list!• Morning Walks• Reading novels• Working at my most excellent job• Staying fit• Eating delicious food• Connecting with friends• Connecting with strangers• Viewing movies• Going to concerts• Cross Country skiing• Snowshoeing• Hiking• Taking photos• Attending Theater/Plays• Traveling to small towns• Visiting Glacier National Park• Cycling in IrelandKeep Smiling!Maggie Read more:gonna
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