Sibling

Posted on May 9th, 2008 9:54 amTo each celeb gossip site its own. Some of us are obsessed with The Hills. Others like to start Katie Holmes pregnancy rumors every other week. Standard fare, really. Take E! Online for example. They’re reporting today that Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes have a joint production in the works. Or at least they will soon. Aww. Suri Cruise may be getting a little sibling!According to friends who schmoozed with Team TomKat in New York this week, Katie wants to have another baby soon - and she ain’t shy about it.

In addtion to the web sites we listed a couple of days ago, Mary Scribner suggests several good books on the topic of Special Needs Siblings written by Don Meyer from the Sibling Support Project. Sibshops, Workshops for Siblings of Children With Special Needs with Patricia Vadasy Living with a Brother or Sister with Special Needs – A book for Sibs The Sibling Slam Book: What It’s Really Like to Have a Brother or Sister With Special Needs Also, check out the The Sibling Support Project Store for more books and videos.

Video as Instrument: The Fairlight CMI’s Visualist Sibling, the Fairlight CVI - The Fairlight CMI, the ground-breaking digital synth created by Australians Peter Vogel and Kim Ryrie, is well known for its contribution to music. Think names like Peter Gabriel, Hans Zimmer, David Bowie, Herbie Hancock, Kate Bush, Bono, and … hang on, I’ll stop before this becomes a very long list. With tablet input and sophisticated [...] More: continued here Other Review: Jungle Book (Audio CD)

Coping With Sibling Rivalry - Who Gets To Ride That Child's Rocking Horse? - The shrieking starts when a child feels shortchanged or beaten to the child's rocking horse or Playstation game. Before going on a rampage yourself, take a deep breath and look at the big picture.Intense sibling rivalry, if not handled properly, can be an incurable wart in your children's adult lives. More: continued here Other Review: That's Not My Puppy: Its Coat Is Too Hairy (Watt, Fiona. Usborne Touchy-Feely Books.) (Board book)

Welcome Momference participants and other parents dealing with special needs and sibling rivalry! As promised, here are several Web resources for those of us dealing with special needs children and their siblings. If you have other resource suggestions, please send them to Mary Scribner. Families Together, Inc. is a parent training and information center out of Kansas, Mo. That serves families with special needs children. It has some great resources on topics of interest to families, links to national resources. LDonline.org offers up-to-date information about learning disabilities to related issues parent tips, resources. The Sibling Support Project is a list serve for young brothers and sisters of kids with various special needs. Partnership for Learning provides articles for t

When a family member is diagnosed with autism, there is a vast amount of information teaching parents how to cope with an autistic child, and there is also information for parents about dealing with an autistic child’s different behaviors. However, there are fewer learning tools for those who have an autistic sibling, even though this [...]

Welcome Momference participants and other parents dealing with special needs and sibling rivalry! Helping Kids Get Along Simple things you can do every day to prevent fighting include: • Set ground rules for acceptable behavior. Tell the kids that there's no cursing, no name-calling, no yelling, no door slamming. Solicit their input on the rules — as well as the consequences when they break them. This teaches kids that they're responsible for their own actions, regardless of the situation or how provoked they felt, and discourages any attempts to negotiate regarding who was "right" or "wrong." • Let them know that they are safe, important, and needed, and that their needs will be met. • Don't let kids make you think that everything always has to be "fair" and "equal" — som

For better or worse, I was given a brother and two stepbrothers, but today I'll concentrate on my brother. We're three years apart, which I think is perfect because we have things in common, watch the same shows and generally get along (which only happened after I moved out for college).But despite this age difference, my brother is still my biggest rival. We don't have to fight for our parents attention anymore, but somehow I still view everything between us as a competition. While I have a good job and was recently promoted, am financially independent and stable and lead the "city life," Andy still holds the biggest cards: he's getting married, his wedding and honeymoon are free and he's the baby. Somehow when you stack those achievements next to each other, he's still the winner. Today

Today marks the One Year Anniversary of when my children received a big brother and big sister. No I didn’t adopt.  What?  Are you crazy?  I can’t handle the two that I have now, let alone adopting another… (not that I have ANYTHING against adoption, let me make that perfectly clear… it’s just that I’m a single mom and well, right now?  I’ve got what I can handle.) Matthew’s match was a gift from God in more ways than one.  If you remember, they don’t pair boys around here unless their father’s are incarcerated, of which, Matthew’s father?  Is not. But there was a big brother who was looking to mentor someone just like my Matthew.  And honestly, I don’t feel like we deserve him sometimes. His big brother is olde

Many believe that there is and it might just start with the adults in the family. Britney Spears is getting all of the attention from dad Jamie and mom Lynne and they are desperately trying to get Brit’s life back on track and get her some sort of a career back. That has cost Jamie [...]

I grew up in a family with five siblings - my daughter is an only child for the moment, and the difference is enormous. She is also the first grandchild on both sides of our family, so she is the center of a lot of people’s attention. She has seven people who only [...]

So how does the developing normally sibling feel? Autism and the Empress shares her story: I never thought I'd see the day when my children would rival each other. My two eldest (a boy and a girl) were quite close. Being three years apart, they played together, ate together, were disobedient together and thus, disciplined together. Although they are adults now, they remain close. Not so with my teenager and ER. They are not the best of friends. There's five years between them, but that shouldn't constitute the attitudes, bickering and yes, sometimes fighting amongst them. From the comments I receive....my teenager is jealous. He feels I pay more attention to ER than him. He says I allow ER to "get away with things" I wouldn't allow him to get away with. Oh, and also, I buy ER more t

As news broke about Ashlee’s engagement and rumors are flying about a possible pregnancy, Jessica was seen shopping with her mom for an engagement ring! Is Jessica jealous that her little sis is getting all the attention? Or is she nervous that ex-husband Nick Lachey might pop the question soon to his current girlfriend [...]

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If you are a frequent reader of this Blog, you know that Mary and I will be speakers at an upcoming Momference teleconference titled Special Needs: Managing Stress with a Smile. Our session is called: My Brother My Sister My Enemy My Friend - The New Definition of Sibling Rivalry. This week, we thought we would set the "mood" for Momference by writing a few entries on the topic over the next two weeks. We all know that some sibling rivalry is inevitable -- even healthy. However, it's not always safe, especially if one of the children has special needs. That fact can also put some undue pressure on the "typically developing" brother or sister. So, what's a mother to do? 1. Acknowledge the anger. 2. Listen to each child's side of the argument. 3. Recognize that the problem is

Sibling Rivalry - When Brothers and Sisters Fight - Sibling rivalry is one of the oldest problems in humanity. Rivalries often occur due to jealousy, competition and a child's perception that he or she is not accepted. More: continued here Other Review: Duchess Crib by Delta Children's Products - Cherry (Baby Product)

I never thought I'd see the day when my children would rival each other. My two eldest (a boy and a girl) were quite close. Being three years apart, they played together, ate together, were disobedient together and thus, disciplined together. Although they are adults now, they remain close.Not so with my teenager and ER. They are not the best of friends. There's five years between them, but that shouldn't constitute the attitudes, bickering and yes, sometimes fighting amongst them.From the comments I receive....my teenager is jealous. He feels I pay more attention to ER than him. He says I allow ER to "get away with things" I wouldn't allow him to get away with. Oh, and also, I buy ER more things from the store than I do him. When these comments are flying back and forth over me,

Sibling Rivalries and Soggy Potato Chips - Your children's sibling rivalries drive you crazy and you have tried everything to stop it but to no avail. You might be the whole problem. Learn how to deal with this irritating situation. More: continued here Other Review: Star Wars MINI PLUSH - CHEWBACCA 2 (Toy)

Helping a Sibling Adjust To a New Infant - Knowing we had a child one the way and a three year old at home, our focus was making the adjustment to being a big sister as easy as possible. Our daughter was excited about the new baby coming, but we weren't sure what to expect once our bundle of joy arrived. Find out what we did to help her adjust to the baby's arrival! More: continued here Other Review: The New Father: A Dad's Guide to the First Year (Paperback)

I thought I would take a break from the necessities for a while, and post about something that new parents often have a hard time with. Our daughter was excited about the new baby coming! Our concern was that she would really have a hard time when the baby got here, because at [...]

Sibling rivalry - conflict between and among brothers and sisters - can take all the forms that occur among adults: loud arguments, sports competition, physical fights, property destruction, etc. As the list suggests, some forms will require parental intervention, while others may be safely left to the kids to work out for themselves.The first key element in helping brothers and sisters resolve conflicts is to use what is beneficial from adult life, times ten. Children, of all ages above about three or so, are keenly sensitive to issues of justice and fairness.Like adults, some children will engage in bad behavior based on wrong choices. Rarely do they have the awareness or experience of the moral dimension that adults are capable of, but neither are they (over a certain age) completely unaware of the distinction between right and wrong.How the adult helps them clarify those issues will play a large part in how they develop.Kids can engage in as many kinds of conflict as adults. Not ha

Sibling rivalry is still a new concept to me. I mean, in essence I “get it”. Force a small group of kids to live together every day and watch as they attempt to do each other in every week/day/hour. The age old squabble over the family thrown. Even if 10 minutes later you’r whining about how the family thrown is old and ugly and embarrasses you when your friends come over. It’s the principle of the matter here. But as an only child, make that an only child of an only child living in a rural town of 500 where 75% of the population is made of retiring farmers, well sibling rivalry just wasn’t something I’m exposed to. Outside of school most of us were too busy at home to see each other, so there was little squabbling to be seen. I guess that’s why it still shocks me every time the screams start coming from the bedroom/playroom. You know, every 10 minutes. (more…)

We were already operating on the "Late and Getting Later" plan this morning when The Rooster announced that she needed to poop on the potty.Two mornings ago she pulled this off for the first time and then managed to do it again later at daycare.This morning K was in the bathroom shaving and The Mayor was sitting on the lid of the toilet talking to him.In response to her request, I whisked The Rooster into the bathroom.[Yet another hallmark moment of familial bathroom togetherness! The Joys!!]Because we were in a hurry, I tugged The Rooster's pull up down and sat her on the little potty.Then I saw the folly of my hubris.TOO LATE, SUCKAH!The Rooster had already... uh... moved the goods.Poo spilled out of the pull up and coated her backside and the potty seat.K ran for cleaning supplies.The Mayor, still perched on the lid of the big toilet, chuckled happily.Then, in an alarmingly satisfied tone of voice, he said,"Heh. Heh. Nice one, Rooster!"Clearly they are united in sibling solidarity

Dad is making a new puppet. He won't tell me and Miv anything more than that. He said the only person he had told so far was Pirate Percy. Apparently, it is 'all very hush hush'.We went down the park to play football again. Percy was wearing a new pair of trainers. I accidentally dripped some of my ice cream on them.

Ever since Isabel can crawl, Ian has been acting very violently towards her. He has been pushing her very hard resulting her falling with the head knocks on the floor - many, many times. Despite us explaining to him that it hurts, he keeps doing it. I did all that I could do and learnt from books and websites. I explained that it hurts.  I demonstrated on him how Isabel may feel.  I put him on time-out.  I asked him why, I guessed why, and I offered him solutions.  I taught him how to deal with situations (e.g. if she takes his toys how should he react, if she blocks his way what should he do, etc). I gave him a lot of hugs and kisses whenever I am with him.  MIL is definitely Ian’s fan, and I won’t doubt her time/love on him - he is always the priority. He keeps pushing Bel.  At one point, I witnessed myself: he tried to push Isabel, Isabel was saved (hold) by maid, he got furious because Isabel was not hurt, he screamed and went back to push her very hardly in the a

Boy this one takes the cake. This afternoon ( I guess yesterday now) Dave picked up grand daughter from school. I stayed at son's house with DIL and baby. Tanner is now at 6lbs 9ounces. He is coming right along. When Dave returned with grand daughter, I was holding Tanner and rocking him. That was all ok. The problem came, when I was going to change his diaper. Grand daughter comes into the bedroom where I am at and sits on the bed. When Tanner is all clean and once again ready to take a nap, I decide he needs to have his toes eaten. It has been long enough and you cannot be a child in this family and not have Grandma eat your toes. I love them!I said to grand daughter "I'm going to eat Tanner's toes now"..OMG, she starts crying! "Please grandma don't eat his toes." This was not coming from any concern that I might actually, "EAT" his toes...It was a jealous reaction that said..."I am only allowed to eat HER toes." So, Tanner did not yet get this family initiation done. I will wait

Andrew Niccol's Gattaca (1997) is thoughtful science fiction, a well-written morality play set in the near future when engineering your own child for excellence is a reality. In this sequence, the "inferior" brother, Vincent (played later in the film by Ethan Hawke), not only suffers from societal prejudice, by also by the preconceptions held by his own family. The dialogue here is very good,

When I found out I was pregnant in September, one of my first thoughts was: how do we prepare Cordy for this?She had just turned 2 at the time, and while her grasp of language is pretty good for her age, we figured we wouldn't tell her right away. Since then, I've tried to explain to her why mommy can't pick her up as much (besides the fact that she's 33 or 34 pounds solid), and why she can't sit on mommy's tummy. But she still shows no signs of comprehending what I'm telling her.Then a few months ago, there was a special on Nick for the Blue's Clues 10th anniversary, and it covered the topic of having a sibling. Meet Blue's Baby Brother is still Tivo'd, because it is something she likes to watch at least once a week. I'm used to her walking up to me, looking up at me with pleading eyes, and saying, "Bwue's budder? Bwue's budder?"So for about a month now, I sit with her when she watches it, and tell her, "Cordy will have a new family member, too." We didn't know if it was

Fundamental theories in evolutionary biology have long proposed that biological kinship is the foundation of the family unit. It not only creates the sense of altruism that exists among genetically related family members, but also establishes boundaries regarding sexual relations within the nuclear family. Questions have persisted, however, regarding the means by which humans recognize family members - particularly siblings - as close genetic relatives.A team of researchers at the University of California, Santa Barbara, has found evidence of a nonconscious mechanism in the human brain that identifies genetic siblings on the basis of cues that guided our hunter-gatherer ancestors. Their findings will be published in the February 15 2007 issue of the science journal Nature [1].In a study involving more than 600 test subjects, the researchers found that people felt more altruistic toward individuals this mechanism recognized as siblings, and, at the same time, felt a greater aversion to

Sibling squabbles are usually emphasized by a long, drawn-out, resounding “MOM!”. What happens after the call for parental intervention can go a long way in helping your children learn to, at the very least, co-exist peacefully. To help mediate the situation, it’s important to understand the cause of the conflict. Siblings ...