Difficult People

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by: Dr. Mark Lauderdale“My neighbors are harassing me. How do you deal with difficult people like these?”I’ve been asked this question SEVERAL times now, so I thought I’d write an article on the topic.The word “harassment” is a very broad term. For different people it can mean anything from neighbors who are verbally abusive and deflating your tires to people who are just plain nosey.I

For a moment I thought this was a fashion video, only thing is, this video gives good short info than most fashion reviews I’ve ever read: Anyone who’s been in customer service or retail long enough, can tell you a story or two, of nasty or unreasonable customers (I always tell myself they are customers of [...]

Difficult people are a dime a dozen. Dealing with them might make you avoid these very people, even if they are loved ones. We know we love them, but they just have heartache-inducing behavior at times. The good news is that there are effective ways in dealing with difficult people.It actually doesnt require you to get a straitjacket to restrain them or to save them from themselves. Dealing with d

Sometimes it may be difficult to talk to someone who is criticizing, judging, or blaming you. It may be just as difficult to deal with someone who is giving you the silent treatment, giving you the cold shoulder or just plain throwing a tantrum. So, here are some tips on how to deal with those difficult people who have a hard time communicating what they want to say in a loving and kind way.For starters remember that everyone desires to communicate their feelings and needs in a clear way but many times they just don't know how to do this. Marshall Rosenberg, the founder of Nonviolent Communication, says that all people are every really trying to say is "please" or "thank you." So, when someone is upset (and being critical) they are saying please. Giraffes, people who focus on the heart (fe

Book Description ISBN-0071416412 How to Bring Out the Best in People at Their Worst!…Now Totally Revised for a New Generation of Bothersome Behaviors Since this best-selling book first appeared, the world has changed dramatically. Technology has spawned a whole new breed of annoyances. From cell-phone chatters to E-mail spammers to voice-mail hogs, life today is filled with even more people you can’t stand! It’s the guy in the supermarket line who is talking on his cell phone instead of unloading his cart… It’s the E-mail “buddy” who jams your in-box with annoying jokes, petitions, and other junk mail… It’s the boss who behaves like a bully and a petty tyrant, and has the power to get away with it… It’s the co-worker who promises results, but never delivers when the chips are down… (more…)

Book Description ISBN-0071416412 How to Bring Out the Best in People at Their Worst!...Now Totally Revised for a New Generation of Bothersome Behaviors Since this best-selling book first appeared, the world has changed dramatically. Technology has spawned a whole new breed of annoyances. From cell-phone chatters to E-mail spammers to voice-mail hogs, life today is filled with even more people

I am having a "really can't wait until I'm working totally and entirely for myself" moment. For real.My life is basically broken up into a series of weeks, like most people, I guess. There are good weeks, and there are bad weeks. Funny thing is, you can be having an awesome week, and one or two bad incidents back to back can wreck it all. Then you have to regroup and start all over again.One thing I need to admit up front: I'm not that tolerant and understanding of this planet's "less centered and less enlightened" people. I was raised to be courteous, considerate and polite, and when I encounter people that are NONE of those things, and have a personal interaction with them in their negative cycle, it causes me problems. My own little cross to bear, I think. That's the main thing I am meant to work through in my time on this earth. I truly believe that. Because I'm soooo sensitive. More than most people would believe. I think I'm overly sensitive like that for a reaso

45 year old John terrorized his family when they were his passengers. He would yell at them if they complained about his driving. He would ignore them when they showed signs of discomfort and even seemed to enjoy scaring his passengers with his maneuvers such as tailgating, weaving in and out of traffic, passing other cars dangerously, and pulling too far into crosswalks so pedestrians are unable to safely cross the street. John would show aggression in other ways too — like insisting on choosing the radio station, controlling the volume of the radio, and controlling the temperature, the fan setting and where the vents are aimed while driving. He refused to stop for restroom breaks on long trips. John was anything but “passengerfriendly” yet he did not see himself as the problem. Statistics show that while 70% of drivers complain about the aggressiveness of others, only 30% admit to their own aggressiveness. John saw other drivers as “stupid, ” his family/passengers

Sometimes it may be difficult to talk to someone who is criticizing, judging, or blaming you. It may be just as difficult to deal with someone who is giving you the silent treatment, giving you the cold shoulder or just plain throwing a tantrum. So, here are some tips on how to deal with those difficult people who have a hard time communicating what they want to say in a loving and kind way.For starters remember that everyone desires to communicate their feelings and needs in a clear way but many times they just don't know how to do this. Marshall Rosenberg, the founder of Nonviolent Communication, says that all people are every really trying to say is "please" or "thank you." So, when someone is upset (and being critical) they are saying please. Giraffes, people who focus on the heart (feelings and needs) look to see what the request is that this person is trying to say.Well, let's look at how to deal with the different types of communicators we discussed in the post "If Animals Cou

Sometimes it may be difficult to talk to someone who is criticizing, judging, or blaming you. It may be just as difficult to deal with someone who is giving you the silent treatment, giving you the cold shoulder or just plain throwing a tantrum. So, here are some tips on how to deal with those difficult people who have a hard time communicating what they want to say in a loving and kind way.For starters remember that everyone desires to communicate their feelings and needs in a clear way but many times they just don't know how to do this. Marshall Rosenberg, the founder of Nonviolent Communication, says that all people are every really trying to say is "please" or "thank you." So, when someone is upset (and being critical) they are saying please. Giraffes, people who focus on the heart (fe